Chofunika kwambiri pa kugonana kwa mkazi chidzakhala chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mupeze chiwonongeko, ndipo izi ndi zolondola. Ndipotu, mbali zina zonse zimapita kumapeto omaliza, popeza popanda kupeza cholinga chachikulu, kugonana sikudzadziwika. Pakakhala kuti ubwenzi uliwonse ndi mwamuna sulola mkazi kukwaniritsa cholinga chimenechi, amayamba kudzifufuza yekha. Poyesera kuzindikira zolakwa zake, amayamba kudziona kuti si zachilendo ponena za kugonana. Ndipo bamboyo amayamba kuvomereza kuti iye ndi wopambana komanso wosakondeka.
Ndikoyenera kuzindikira kuti zinsinsi za kugonana sikuti zizitha kukwaniritsa zolinga zokhazokha, komanso kuti zitha kuyankhulana mwachindunji pogonana. Ndibwino kumvetsetsa kuti pakuopa kulephera ndi kusatetezeka komwe muli nako, simungakwanitse kusangalala ndi kugonana kotereku. Ndikofunika kuyesa kuchotsa zovuta mkati, kuyesa kuti musakumbukire ndi kusaganiza za iwo panthawi yoyenera. Ndipotu nkhawa nthawi zambiri imalepheretsa kukwaniritsa zofuna zowonjezera.
Potsutsa maliseche . Ndikofunika kumvetsera kuti zinsinsi za kugonana zimaphatikizapo kukulitsa kwa thupi lonse. Mayi amafunika kumvetsetsa, kuti adziwe thupi lake lonse. Momwemo, kuti mupeze ziwalo zimenezo za thupi zomwe ziri zovuta, ndiko kuti, zonyansa. Ndiye adzakhala ndi makadi onse m'manja mwake, kukulolani kuti muyesere kukwaniritsa, kukwaniritsa zofunikira. Pankhani yomwe mtsikanayo sanakumanepo ndi zosangalatsa zokhudzana ndi kugonana mu moyo wake, kapena kuti sakudziwa ngati zovuta zowoneka, ndiye kuti akhoza kuyesa kudzikondweretsa yekha. Pachifukwa ichi, zidzakhala zofunikira kuyesa kufufuza kapena kumvetsetsa bwino momwe zimakhalira ndi kugonana kwa thupi. Izi zikhoza kupyolera mwa kugwiritsa ntchito maliseche, chifukwa ndi momwe mungathe kukwaniritsira zofuna zanu. Ndiye, pamene mkazi angakhale wokhutira mokwanira motere, amatha kumvetsa bwino thupi lake komanso momwe angazigwiritsire ntchito mtsogolomu. Pambuyo pake, amatha kukhala naye paubwenzi wapamtima ndi wokondedwa ndi kulandira kuchokera kwa iye zosangalatsa zonse.
Pangani maganizo . Kugonana kwabwino kungapezeke ngati muli ndi maganizo abwino. Ndibwino. Ngati adalengedwa musanayambe kugonana. Chomwe chingasokoneze kapena kulepheretsa kulandila zosangalatsa, nkofunika kulingalira ndikupatulapo pasadakhale, kotero kuti palibe chomwe chingathetse chisangalalo. Ndikofunika kuyesa kupanga mtundu wina wa chibwenzi. Ndipo pokambirana, kuyankhulana ndi mnzanu, muyenera kuchotsa zokambirana zonse zokhudzana ndi abwenzi, ndalama, ana, ndi zina. Ngati muli ndi mkangano wosayembekezereka, musawopsyeze ndikukonzekera zisudzo. Ingotenga mmanja mwanu ndikuyesa kuthetsa zonse mwamsanga. Pofuna kuthetsa chokhumudwitsa, musagwiritse ntchito kugonana, kungachititse kuti munthu ayambe kukwiya kwambiri. Muyenera kuyesa kuthetsa mavuto ndikuthawa. Koma kugonana ndi njira yabwino yothetsera malingaliro osasangalatsa awa. Muyenera kudzipatulira kwa wokondedwa wanu, kuyesera kuti mupeze zosangalatsa zambiri monga momwe zingathere, komanso chiwonongeko. Koma musakwiyitse pamene chokhumba sichiri kulandiridwa. Kotero simungathenso kuchotsedwa ku mavuto onse ndi mavuto a pakhomo, yesetsani nokha kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino kwambiri.
Kutsanzira . Zinsinsi za kugonana bwino kwa kugonana, ubwenzi wapamtima umaphatikizapo kupeza zokhazokha, izi zingatheke ngati palibe zolepheretsa pakati pa abwenzi. Mwinamwake mkazi sakanakhoza kukwaniritsa zomwe iye ankafuna, kutanthauza, kupeza chiwonongeko, koma kungodziyesa kuti alandire izo. Ndipo izi zimapezekanso pakati pa theka lachikhalidwe cha anthu. Kutsanzira kungakhoze kuchitika chifukwa cha kuvomereza kwa kulephera kwa mkazi yemwe ali ndi bwenzi, zomwe zimapangitsa kudziona kuti ndi otsika. Kapena mwinamwake mkazi samangofuna kukhudza ulemu uliwonse wa mnzanu, popeza choonadi sichimakhala ngati wokondedwa ndi kumukhumudwitsa. Azimayi ena amagwiritsa ntchito zofanana ndi zomwe zimachitika pofuna kuthetsa mwamsanga kuthetsa kwa munthu yemwe akulakalaka kwambiri, osati ngakhale kugonana komweko. Koma musachedwe kunyenga munthu wanu mwanjira iyi, chifukwa nthawi yomwe izi zichitika, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuvomereza kusakhutira. Ndi bwino kuyesa mopepuka popanda kutsutsidwa kuti mumvetsetse izi, motero simungakhudze ulemu wa mnzanuyo.
Timasangalala . Amayi ambiri atachita zogonana, nthawi yomweyo amafuna kubwereza kachiwiri, pamene amaiwala kuganizira zofuna za mnzanuyo. Pambuyo pa zonse, kwa amuna ambiri zimatengera nthawi kubwezeretsa mphamvu yapitayo, kuti apitirize kusangalala. Ndipotu, ngati mkazi angathe kulandira zosangalatsa zambiri momwe zingathere, izi sizikutanthauza kuti amafunikira zolemba zambiri. Zinsinsi za mgwirizano wabwino wokhudzana ndi kugonana zimatanthauzanso khalidwe laulemu la okondana wina ndi mzake, kuphatikizapo mitundu yonse yotsutsa ndi zotsutsa.
Zina zothandiza zothandiza . Akazi amayenera kupeĊµa kusokonezeka ku mavuto onse, makamaka ngati madzulo amayamba kukondana, kugonana, kukonzedwa. Ngati mwapeza mavuto ndi mavuto, ndibwino kuthetsa zonse poyamba, kapena kukana kukumana.
Panthawi yogonana muyenera kuyesa nokha, okondedwa anu, ndi malingaliro anu. Osasinthiratu ndi kuika chidwi chanu pa wokondedwa wanu. Pambuyo pake, zosangalatsa za wokondedwa zimadalira pa chisangalalo cha mkaziyo.
Pofuna kukwaniritsa zofunikirako, ndi bwino kupereka nthawi yotsogolera, pamene mkazi akhoza kukhala wokondwa ndi mlingo woyenera. Musaphonye nthawi izi. Ndi bwino kumufunsa munthu kuti asafulumire.
Zonse ziri m'manja mwanu, kuti mukwaniritse zosangalatsa za kugonana kosagwirizana.