Mwina mungadabwe, koma ngakhale aboma akunyalanyaza kwambiri za chiyero cha mtunduwo, mwinamwake mutidzudzula. Koma musachedwe: zidzakhala zinthu zofunika. Mwachitsanzo, chifukwa chake ena a ife tikhoza kuvutika pabedi. Vomerezani, mutuwo ndi wovuta.
Manyazi ndi manyazi
Akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi opatsirana pogonana akupitirizabe kumenyana pazokangana: mpaka pano, anthu akutembenukira kwa akatswiri, omwe amawona kuti moyo wapamtima ndi chinthu chosafunika kwenikweni, komanso, manyazi.
Zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana - zotsatira za kusalabadira muzinthu zina, zomwe zikuwonetseredwa momveka bwino mu izi, zolemetsa mwamphamvu. Mwa njira, manyazi ndi zonyansa zikhoza kukhala pano. Ngakhale zazikulu, ngati manyazi, komanso, ndi ololera, mutu wa chinthu choyandikana. Monga chosiyana ndi kutsegulidwa kosatha, monga manyazi, lolani. Koma ngati manyazi ndi poizoni!
Kukambirana mumtsinje
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kuyamba kulankhula ndi mnzanu. Limbikitsani mnzanu za zofuna zanu ndi zolephera zanu, chifukwa palibe amene angathe kuwerenga tanthauzo la wina. Musati, muzichita bwino pabedi, koma ngati muli ndi zibwenzi, muli ndi nthawi yambiri. Ndikofunika kukhala ovuta: kuseketsa ndi kugonana sikugwirizana.
Nthawi ya mafunso
Koma ndi zophweka kunena kuti "kambiranani naye za kugonana," kotero kuti aliyense akhoza. Ndipo ngati simukuvomerezedwa? Ndipo ngati si mnzanu sikuti amamasulidwa kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi?
1. Thupi
Chikhalidwe cha thupi chimayamba kukula kwambiri mu ubwana. Ana, chifukwa cha kusamalidwa bwino kwawo, ali ndi ufulu wosatsogoleredwa mu matupi awo. Iwo amangophunzira izo mothandizidwa ndi munthu wamkulu ndipo samadziwa nthawi zonse kuti apite kuntchito: kudya, kugona, kuthamanga sikumveka bwino, ndipo sizimagwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Makolo odwala amasonyeza kusangalala ndi chisangalalo ndi kuchita kuti akwaniritse. Ngati ndikufuna kudya - ndikudya, ngati ndikufuna kugona - ndikugona, osati mosiyana.
Nthawi zina makolo amasangalala kuti mwana wazaka ziwiri kapena zitatu "molondola" amachitapo kanthu: amakhala chete, samathamanga, "amamvetsa" chirichonse. Mwana woteroyo amakula popanda chidwi, popanda chimwemwe ndipo ali ndi mwayi wapadera wophunzira yekha. Munthu ndi, koma thupi lake silikumverera. Okalamba "ana abwino" amanena kuti samamva chilichonse: osagwirizana, osamasuka, nthawi zina kupweteka komanso kukumbukira kuti thupi ndilo. Kugonana pazifukwazi sikungakhale kofunikira, kosasangalatsa, mosiyana, kumakhala kwakukulu, kulipira kwa ena omwe palibe zosangalatsa zakuthupi.
2. Kumva
Popanda chitukuko chakuthupi, munthu sangathe kukhutira ndi moyo. Maganizo - osati osokonezeka, koma amangoonetsa njira yokwaniritsira zosowa. Udindo wa wamkulu ndikuthandizira detoyamuznavat zizindikirozi ndikudikirira mwayi wokwaniritsa chikhumbocho. Ambiri a ife tiri ndi malingaliro oletsedwa, ndiye zosowa zina sizingadziŵike, ndipo, ndithudi, kugonana.
M'banja lililonse, pali malingaliro oletsedwa. Nthawi zina chimwemwe, chifundo, nthawi zina zimakwiya, chisoni, mantha.
3. Kuganiza
Pano pali chiganizo chakuti tili ndi moyo wogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndipo sichoncho. Mawu a makolo: mungathe bwanji, monga momwe simungathandizire nyimboyi mwamsanga kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi chenicheni. Koma poyamba malamulowa amayamba, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kumeta psyche ya mwanayo. Mwana wamng'ono sangathe kutsutsa mfundo za akulu, amatha kumumvera kapena kukana. Ndikofunika kuti zomwe akulu akunene ndizoyenera ndipo amateteza chitetezo cha mwanayo. Zonsezo ndizosiyana kwambiri ndipo zidzasintha maganizo ake, mkati ndi kunja kwa kugonana, mosavuta komanso mosavuta. Choncho, ngati mwanayo amva kuti zonse zomwe zili ndi ziwalo zogonana zimakhala zonyansa, sangayang'ane kwa nthawi yayitali, koma adzalingalira mawu awa mu moyo wachikulire, popanda kudziwa komwe adachokera.
Kugonana
Ndikofunika, ndi malingaliro otani pankhani ya umunthu wake yemwe ali ndi munthu. Ndine yani? Mwamuna kapena mkazi yemwe mnzanga akuwoneka ngati? Tsopano iwo amalankhula za akazi amisazi, za amuna onga "abambo." Nthawi zina mawu oterewa amayamba chifukwa munthu sangathe kuvomereza mnzanuyo malingana ndi chikhalidwe. , amuna: Ndikufuna mwamuna wanga alingalire zokhumba zanga, kukonzekera chakudya chamadzulo, kuyenda ndi mwanayo.
Kutaya ndi imodzi mwa zotetezeka za maganizo zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati munthu sakudziwa njira zothetsera vutoli. Ndipo, motero, mavuto ambiri a mkati mwa dziko - makamaka kukana kugonana komanso ngakhale kuletsa.
Ngati mumadziwa kuti ndinu ndani, zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi komanso momwe mungagwirizane pa izi, ndiye kuti kugonana kumakhala ndi mwayi waukulu.
5. Zochitika
Banja ndilo lingaliro loyamba la kugonana lomwe mwana amawona. Kodi bambo angamuuze mnyamatayo kuti akugona ndi amayi ake? Kodi ndizotseguka bwanji moyo wa kugonana kwa makolo wotsekedwa? Nthawi yomwe kugonana ndi mnzanuyo kulibe, ndipo chisangalalo ndi-mfundo yofunikira. Pano, mawu ambiri, ndi kulankhula momveka bwino n'kovulaza. Ndikofunika kuti pali kugonana komanso ali ndi malamulo omwe ana angadziwe.
Chinthu chachiwirichi chimapezeka m'mabungwe a maphunziro. Pali ngozi ziwiri apa. Ana ambiri mu kalasi imodzi, amachititsa chidwi chisangalalo (kuphatikizapo kugonana). Ana akhoza kuthana ndi vutoli, momwe angathe komanso momwe aphunzitsi amavomerezera. Ndipo iwo, mwatsoka, sikuti nthawi zonse amapita pamwamba, kuphatikizapo nthawi zina chifukwa cha mavuto awo pambali yozungulira. Mfundo yachiwiri: Atsikana akukula mofulumira kuposa anyamata. Kuyanjana kotereku m'kalasi kumathandizira kuti anyamata ayambe kumva kuti akulakwitsa ndikukhala ndi zowawa za moyo.
6. Ubale
Izi zimachitika kuti kugonana kungakhale woyang'anira ubale wa banja, kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Kugonana monga chizoloŵezi chakuthupi kungathe kubweretsa chiyanjano, chiyanjano, kukambirana. Ngati mmalo mwa mwayi wokambirana za zomwe zimasokoneza, abwenzi amathetsa mavuto pambedi, pali mwayi waukulu kuti kugonana sikukwaniritse. Ana m'mabanja omwe moyo wa kugonana kwa makolo ndi ovuta, nthawi zambiri ngati kulowetsa mnzanuyo. Monga amayi akunena kuti: "mwanayo amachotsa mwamuna wake pabedi." Pamene makolo akutsutsa amene ali ndi mlandu ndi zomwe ayenera kuchita, (nthawi zina kwa zaka), ana amapeza ubale wosadziwika pamene angakhale achitatu pabedi, kusweka m'banja.
7. Chilengedwe
Momwe munthu aliri yogwira ntchito mwachidwi, wokonda kuganiza, moyo wake wa kugonana ungakhale wokhutiritsa kapena ayi. Vuto ndilokuti luso lodzifotokozera palokha nthawi zina limakhudzidwa kwambiri mu ubwana. Masiku ano pali ana omwe "samadziwa kusewera." Koma ichi ndi mfundo yofunika kwambiri pamene mwana mu mawonekedwe auufulu amakhala ndi zambiri zomwe zimafunika pamoyo wamkulu. , n'zotheka kuwachotsa panthawi imodzimodzi komanso mwayi wokhala ndi chidziwitso chogonana mosamala. Nthawi zambiri, akuluakulu amawatcha kuti ntchito yodabwitsa, ndipo kugonana kwa iwo kungakhale kudula nthawi.
Zosintha pamphuno: Zinthu zonsezi zimagwirizana. Choncho, ngati mwayi wazindikira kuti ena mwa iwo mukungogwedezeka pang'ono, ndi nthawi yoti mudziwe nokha. Ndi mnzanu kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo - sankhani inu.