Ndipotu, kuti muyankhe, ngati chinyengo mu ubale chidzakuthandizani, m'pofunika kulingalira zinthu zina. Choyamba, chinyengo mu ubalewo ndi chosiyana. Nthawi zina zimasokoneza chirichonse, ndipo nthawi zina, zimathandizira mu ubale. Koma, linga liti lithandizidwe, ndipo litipweteka?
Mayi akhoza kusonyeza chinyengo m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, aliyense wa ife ali ndi zizoloŵezi zake zochepa zokonzekera mnyamata kwa iye mwini kapena kumukakamiza kuti achite chinachake. Kenako timathandizidwa ndi njira zathu. Koma, ndikuyenera kuzindikira kuti ngati mkazi nthawi zonse amagwiritsa ntchito izi, zimasanduka bodza mu chiyanjano. Inde, n'zotheka kuti izi si zabodza, koma khalidweli, silingatchedwe moona mtima ponena za wokondedwa. Kuchita izi sikuthandiza, koma kumawongolera. Ngati mkazi nthawi zonse amayesa zofooka zina ndi zochitika za mnyamata, ndiye izi sizinso zachinyengo, koma zowona. Choncho, nthawi yomweyo muyenera kuzindikira kuti mu ubale, muzinthu zonse muyenera kudziwa chiyeso ndipo musayende patali. Ngati mutero, ndiye kuti chinyengo sichingapweteke.
Kotero, tinthu tating'ono tomwe timagwiritsa ntchito kuti munthu azikonda ndi kuyamikira. Choyamba, kuchenjera kwa akazi ndi sayansi yapadera. Kuchenjera koyenera sikudzatchedwa chinyengo. Mwachidule, timatha kulankhula ndikuchita monga momwe tikuchitira, koma palibe amene angamunene mkazi chifukwa cha kusokoneza.
Choyamba, mothandizidwa ndi matsenga, timatha kuchoka pa zovuta ndikuletsa zoopsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnyamata akukwiyitsa, ndi kulakwa kuli kwa msungwana uyu, chinyengo ndikumusamala ndi kusalola kuti chisokonezocho chiwonongeke. Inu mukhoza kuchita izi mwanjira iliyonse. Amayi ena amadziwa kukulunga mawu a mnyamata kuti, pamapeto pake, ali ndi mlandu, osati iye. Muzochitika izi, chinthu chachikulu sikuti mubwezeretse mkwiyo ndi kumukhululukira mowolowa manja mnyamatayo. Nthawi zina chinyengo chimenechi ndi chofunikira kwambiri kuti tipeŵe mikangano yosafunikira. Komanso, amayi ena amasokoneza chiopsezo ndi kupsompsona. Izi ndizonso zachinyengo. Pachifukwa ichi, muyenera kusunga mzere pakati pa kugonana, kudziletsa ndi kuipa. Ngati mkazi sakupeza, nthawi zambiri, munthu amangozichotsa pang'onopang'ono ndipo ziphuphu zimakhala ndi mphamvu zoposa. Ndipo okhawo omwe amadziwa momwe angachitire zinthu moyenera angathetsere amuna awo ndi kusangalala.
Komanso, kuchenjera kwa akazi kumawonetseredwa pamene mtsikana akufuna kuti azikondana ndi mwamuna. Pankhani iyi, chinyengo sichoncho kumusonyeza mnyamata kuti ali ndi chikondi naye, koma panthawi yomweyi kuti awonetse chidwi. Zikatero, atsikana amayesa kukhala osadziŵika. Koma, panthawi yomweyi, chinyengocho n'chosatheka. Amuna onse ndi osaka omwe amafunika kupeza njira zawo ndikugwira wogwidwa. Ngati palibe wosaka, ndiye kuti chidwi chikusoweka. Choncho, atsikanawo amasonyeza chisomo, amakhala ozizira, amawoneka ndi kutha. Nthawi zina samatenga foni, nthawi zina amanena kuti ali otanganidwa ndi kupuma pamodzi ndi anyamatawa, omwe alidi mabwenzi chabe. Zochita zazing'ono zimenezi zimapangitsa amuna kukhala achisoni komanso osamasuka. Chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kuwonjezereka kuti munthuyo asayambe kukayikira za chiwembu ndipo izi sizinachititse kuti anthu asamangidwe kwambiri.
Azimayi omwe amatha kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi amayamba kuchita zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Maonekedwe awo, amaoneka, kumwetulira amaoneka ngati achilengedwe, koma, makamaka, apangidwa kuti akope chidwi cha mnyamata wina.
Ndiponso, chinyengo cha akazi ambiri ndi chinsinsi chawo. Atsikana amatha kuchita zinthu mwanjira yakuti amuna amakhala ndi chidwi chokhala pafupi ndi iwo ndikupeza mbali za miyoyo yawo. Iwo samalowerera ndipo samayesa kuti aziwada akazi ena. Ichi ndichinyengo, chifukwa, mwanjira iyi, mwamuna amayamba kuganiza kuti mayiyo ndi wabwino kwambiri. Mosiyana ndi ena, iye salola kuti adzinenere zoipa za mpikisano, zomwe zimayankhula za kukoma mtima ndi kumvetsetsa kwake. Ndipo msungwana uyu ndi zomwe akuyesera kuti akwaniritse. Ngakhale ngati ali, okonzeka kuwombera maso a mpikisano wawo, munthu sangaganize za izo. Kukhala wokongola ndi wofiira - ndi chimodzi mwa zizolowezi zazimayi zimene zimagwira ntchito kwa amuna.
Chimodzi mwachinyengo chathu, chomwe chimagwira ntchito nthawi zonse - chiri pafupi ndi naivety, chimene "timapitiliza" nthawi ndi nthawi ngati kuli kofunikira. Akazi omwe amadziwa kukhala osalungama amadziwa kuti anyamata amafunika kumva kuti ndi anzeru kwambiri komanso amphamvu. Amawalola kuti azitenga, nthawi ndi nthawi kudziyesa kukhala opusa komanso osalimba. Kaŵirikaŵiri, kuti akope chidwi, msungwanayo akudziyesa kuti alibe thandizo ndipo mwamunayo amathamanga kuti amupulumutse ku zovuta zonse, osadziŵa kuti mayi uyu angathe kuthetsa mavuto ake okha.
Kukonzekera kolondola mu chiyanjano, ndi njira zamakono zapadera zomwe zimathandiza kuti anthu azisamalira komanso kuthandizira malingaliro awo. Koma, palinso nkhanza zomwe mayiyo amamusunga akamadziwa kuti posachedwa amusiya. Chinyengo chimenechi sichikutsogolera ku zabwino, chifukwa zimakhala zowona komanso mabodza. Pankhaniyi, amayi amayamba kupanga nkhani zosiyana ndi kunama kwa anyamata, kotero kuti sangathe kutembenuka ndikuchoka. Nthawi zina, izi zimakhala zabodza, ndipo nthawi zina anthu amayamba kupita kumaso. Atsikana amalankhula za mimba yokhayokha, matenda osachiritsika ndi zinthu zina zomwe zimangopangitsa anyamata kukhala pafupi. Pamene choonadi chimatsegulidwa, ndipo chimatseguka mulimonsemo, chirichonse chimayambitsa kuthetsa kugwirizana ndi mikangano ndi zoopsa. Potero, pofuna kukhala anzeru, akazi ayenera kukumbukira kuti chinyengocho sichinayanjane ndi chikhalidwe. Ndichifukwa chake, kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino ndi wokondedwa wanu, mukhoza kunyenga ndikugwiritsa ntchito chinyengo chanu chachikazi. Koma, simukusowa kusintha moyo wanu kukhala wopita kutali ndikupita kumalo aliwonse kuti mutenge zomwe mukufuna.