Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi amadana, ndiye kuti pali chikondi pakati pawo, chifukwa palibe chidani popanda chikondi komanso mosiyana. Komabe, ngati chikondi chingatenge paliponse - poyang'ana poyamba, ndiye kuti chidani sichili chomwecho. Mwa njira, nthawi yomweyo ndikufuna kuzindikira kuti chikondi ndi udani sizitsutsana, kusiyana ndi malingaliro awiriwa ndi kusayanjanitsika. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, pamene sitikusamala za momwe munthu amatsogolere, ndi zomwe zimachitika m'moyo wake. Mayi amene mwamuna wake samusangalatsidwa sadzamuda, komanso chimodzimodzi ndi mwamuna yemwe sakonda mtsikana wina.
Anthu mwachilengedwe "amalinganiza" kuti athe kuchiritsa odwala, achifundo ndi achifundo, koma kwa iwo omwe ali ndi chirichonse bwino, omwe ali ndi chinachake chimene sitingapeze - ndi chidani ndi kaduka. Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi amadana, chifukwa cha izi zingakhale nsanje, kupatukana, mwachidule, zimachokera ku chikondi chomwe maphwando pawokha sangachizindikire. Koma ngakhale malingaliro omwe ife eni eni tikuyesera kuti tidziphe tokha, amatisokoneza ife kuchokera mkati, osatha kuthawa mtima. Ndipo tsopano taganizirani zochitika zomwe msungwana amakonda ndi mnyamata, koma pazifukwa zina sangathe kuzivomereza, ndipo mwamunayo ali pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana yemweyo, koma, kachiwiri, pazifukwa zina sangathe kupita patsogolo. Ndipo pamene ali pagulu amalankhulana, ngati anzanu kapena odziwa bwino. Koma apa pakubwera nthawi yomwe mmodzi wa awiriwa akutopa kudikira, ndipo akuyamba buku. Tiyerekeze kuti mu mkhalidwe wathu mnyamatayu adapeza mtsikana wina. Ndiyeno yemwe amamukonda, amayamba kudana ndi chatsopano, mwachibadwa, chilakolako, ndi wamng'ono kwambiri. Mnyamata akudzimva kuti ndi wotsutsa chifukwa msungwanayo, akudandaula, "frostbitten," ndipo tsopano amamuchitira ngati mdani wouluka.
"Ngati wina akuganiza kuti chinthu chomwe amachikonda ndi munthu yemwe ali naye pachibwenzi kapena omwe ali naye pachibwenzi, ndiye kuti ali ndi iwo okha, ndiye kuti amadana ndi chinthu chomwe amachikonda ndikuchimwira ena ..." - analemba Ndi Spinoza. Kuti ndiwone bwino, ndikubweretsa vutoli: mumakumana ndi mnyamata, koma inu mumagawana, ndipo amachoka kwa wina. Inu mukuganiza kuti mmodzi, winayo, tsopano akupsyopsyona ndipo amamukumbatira iye, monga inu munayamba mwakumbatira. Mwachibadwidwe, simungakhale ndi nkhawa ndi malingaliro otere, ndipo mumtima mwanu, kudana ndi kale ndi kaduka - kwa chibwenzi chake chenicheni chimadzuka. Ndipo kulimbika kwakukulu kumeneku, kumakhala kolimba kwambiri komwe mumamukonda munthu uyu. Maganizo amenewa ndi achibadwa komanso oyenera, choncho musawachititse manyazi, ngati Mulungu sakuletsa, izi zakhala zikukuchitikirani. Kuwopsya koteroko ndi kovuta, koma moyo ukupitirira, ndipo chidani ndi kaduka zidzatha, chofunikira kwambiri, musamangidwe pa iwo ndi kuwakwiyitsa olakwira, koma yesetsani kumanga ubale watsopano ndi munthu yemwe angakhale woyenera inu. Chifukwa chirichonse choipa, pamapeto, chimabwerera kwa ife.
Pakhoza kukhala zochitika zomwe mumakonda, koma pazifukwa zina mumaganiza kuti munthu amadana nanu. Kodi mukudziwa zomwe mudzamva? Chodabwitsa, ndiye kuti nonse mudzadana ndi kudana panthawi yomweyo. Zikatero, muyenera kumalankhula ndi wokonda ndikupeza kuti akuyesani. Mwina zingakhale zochititsa manyazi kwa inu, koma ndikukhulupirirani, ndibwino kwambiri komanso mofulumira kusiyana ndi kusokoneza mitsempha, pamene ndikukumana ndi chikondi komanso mkwiyo.
Timadana kwambiri ngati timadedwa, ndipo timachiritsidwa mwachikondi. Pamene, tiyerekeze kuti mwamuna amadana ndi mkazi ndipo mkazi amadziwa za izo, ndiye amayamba kumukwiyira kwambiri, ndipo mosiyana. Koma, monga kumadziwika, kuchokera ku chikondi kupita ku chidani gawo limodzi, ndipo nthawi zambiri anthu omwe akhala akulekerera wina ndi mnzake sakanatha, kulengeza kwa aliyense za ukwati wawo. Ndipo chikondi chamtundu uwu, chomwe chimabwera chifukwa cha chidani, nthawi zambiri chimakhala champhamvu kwambiri kuposa ngati panalibe chotsutsa choopsa konse. Muzochitika zotere, chilakolako chimangokhalapo, sichidziwika, koma chodabwitsa, chodabwitsa ndikuchitira nsanje ena.
Mukudziwa, chikondi ndi chidani ndizovuta kwambiri, koma mukhoza kuziganizira nokha. Kukhala woona mtima, ine ndekha sindimakonda mawu akuti "chidani", chifukwa ndili nacho chogwirizana ndi zoipa, kapena chinachake. Ndikofunika kukhala wodzipereka ndi munthu, ngakhale kuti masiku ano ndi zovuta. Mwina mungaseka ine, koma ndikuvomereza - ndimakhulupirira karma komanso kuti padziko lonse ndikofunikira kuchita zabwino, koma kukonda aliyense ndi chilichonse chozungulira. Kenaka zimakhala zosavuta, ndipo pali mavuto ochepa. Makamaka, 2012 ili pamphuno, simudziwa chomwe chidzachitike. Chabwino, ngati mudakhumudwa ndi mwamuna, yesetsani kusinthana, perekani kumasulidwa kolakwika - pitani ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, masitolo, zopangira zosowa, kapena zoposa pamenepo. Ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa inu kuposa kukhala kunyumba ndi kukwiya. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi pamene mukubwera ndi ndondomeko yobwezera ndikugwedezeka, musayang'ane chirichonse chozungulira, pafupi ndikuwoneka theka lanu lachiwiri, ndipo simudzazindikira?
Maganizo olakwika, choyamba, amawononga miyoyo yathu, osalola kuti tizikambirana moyenera ndi kuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika pokhapokha ife. Kotero khala wanzeru, konda anthu, koma osadana, ndipo iwo adzakufikira.