Ubale ukhoza kukhala wosiyana - wopambana osati wotalika komanso wamfupi, ngati usiku wa chilimwe. Nthawi zina ngakhale kuganiza - "chikondi" choterechi ndi mnzanuyo kapena nyenyezi ya TV kumatenga zaka.
Komanso, ngati banjali litagwira ntchito, atatha, atsikana ndi amayi ambiri akukumbukirabe "za iye" kwa nthawi yaitali. "Iye" akuyamikiridwa ndi maluso olingalira, amakumbukira zinthu zabwino zokha ... Koma moyo umapitirira, kutanthauza kuti ndi nthawi yoti tiganizire momwe tingatulutsire malingaliro "za iye".
Moyo ndi watsopano
Mu chiyanjano chirichonse, amai amawombola moyo wawo. "Kugonana kokha" kapena "kukomana, kukumana, ndi kulekana" sikuchitika. Ndi momwe mungaponyedzere malingaliro a iye pamutu pake, ngati zinthu zambiri zikugwirizana ndi iye, okondedwa ndi okondedwa, zabwino ndi zoipa?
Kotero zimatsimikizira kuti pali zambiri za moyo - ntchito, ntchito, abwenzi, zosangalatsa, achibale - koma malingaliro onse m'mutu mwanga ndi ofanana, omwe kale anali okondedwa. Sikuti "kuchotsedwa" - "baobab "yi imamasulidwa kuti ikhale yofooka mizu yachisomo.
Kuti mukhale watsopano, popanda izo mudzafunika kuphunzira, mwinamwake - zopweteka komanso kwa nthawi yaitali. Ndipo momwe mungaponyera malingaliro ake kuchokera kumutu kwake, malowa adzati.
"Hooks", yomwe timamatira
Akazi samangokonda chabe, komanso zotsatira zake. Mawu oyankhulidwa pa mphindi yomweyi, "masiku apadera", omwe amakumbukira bwino kwambiri ngakhale zaka zotsatira. Nyimbo yomwe mumamvetsera pamodzi, malo omwe mudapitako. Zonsezi sizinthu koma zokopa zomwe zimapangitsa kukumbukira. Ndipo musanaiwale za iye, muyenera kusamalira "kuyeretsa".
Pambuyo pa gawo loyamba lachisoni - kutayika ndi kusowa kwake - kudutsa, kuyamba kuyamba kuganiza, kukumbukira. Musati muwonjezere ku kukumbukira kwa poizoni wokoma - ingopindirani mutu wanu momwemo. Kodi iwo anapita kuti, anena chiyani. Ndipo pang'onopang'ono mudzayamba kuona zatsopano, tanthauzo, mitundu. Mudzadziwa zomwe zinamulimbikitsa munthu uyu. Chimene chinachitika pamene mudakondana ndi chikondi.
Umboni wosonyeza kuti gawoli likuyenda bwino, ndizokhazikika, ngakhale maganizo anu "nyimbo zanu", zomwe mudakvina. Simunathenso kupwetekedwa bwino kwambiri, kumapita kumalo kumene mumakhala nthawi.
Kubwereranso tokha
Pa nthawi yoyamba, chikondi ("maluwa a maswiti") gawo la maubwenzi, pamene banjali sadakumana ndi mavuto ndi kutsutsana, wosankhidwayo akuwoneka kuti ndi abwino kwa ife. Ndipo timasungunuka mosangalala mu zabwino izi - timataya tokha. Ndicho chifukwa chake kusinkhasinkha, momwe mungaponyedzere malingaliro ake kuchokera pamutu, kukhala opweteka kwambiri.
Dzikumbutseni nokha kuti pambuyo pa zokoma zilizonse zokoma pali phokoso lalikulu.
Bwerera ku zofuna zanu zakale, maphunziro, kapena kupeza zatsopano.
Bwererani kwa inu nokha - nokha. Phunzirani zokonda zanu, zizoloŵezi zanu, zowonjezera. Kodi mumakonda chiyani - Hockey kapena ballet? Nyimbo za Folk kapena kunja? Kodi mumamwa chiyani m'mawa - tiyi kapena khofi? Ndipo, pamapeto pake, kodi mumakonda kudzuka m'mawa otani?
"Zinthu Zing'ono", zomwe ndizo zizoloŵezi zathu zazing'ono, zokhoza kutibwezeretsa kukumverera kwathumwini, kubwerera ku mtengo wa umunthu wathu wapadera ndi wapadera.
Ngati mupitiriza kufanana, ndiye gawo ili likufanana ndi kapangidwe ka nyumba yanu kapena nyumba yanu. Momwe ziyenera kukhalira, momwe mumakonda kukhalira, zomwe mungachite ndi makoma anayi zimadalira inu.
Kodi ndizoani - malingaliro ake?
Pambuyo pa kubweranso kwa ufulu wanu, samalirani gawo lomaliza la "kuyeretsa". Poonetsetsa kuti musataye chinthu china chofunika, chofunika, muyenera kuganizira mozama, mwinamwake, kuchotsani zotsalira za "maganizo".
- Pewani kulemera kwako kwakukulu - lingaliro lakuti mwinamwake simunamuyenere iye. Kapena kuti ubale wanu, mwachitsanzo, ukhoza kuchitidwa bwino. Kuti simunali oleza mtima kapena sali wokwanira. Kuti munaphonya ubwino uliwonse umene ungakhale nawo. Awathamangitse popanda kudandaula - koma choyamba onetsetsani kuti iwo alibe pake.
- Ganizirani lingaliro lililonse . Ndinakumbukira chinachake (kudandaula, cholimbikitsidwa ndi chibwenzi) - musayende maganizo awa. Iwe unadzakhala wekha ndipo iwe unakula kwambiri. Tsopano inu mukhoza kuthana ndi choonadi.
Koma choonadi ichi ndi ichi.
Chilichonse chinachitika m'moyo wanu pamodzi "pazifukwa zina". Zonse sizinali zopanda pake. Panali kumverera kwa chisangalalo, chimwemwe, chisangalalo - zikomo. Zinali chisoni, zinali zovuta - ndikuthokozanso. Tulutsani mkhalidwewu. Ndipo taganizirani izi.
Ngakhale kuti mumakumbukira, muli ndi lingaliro lovomerezeka - lingaliro la mbali imodzi. Pamene mukupita kumwamba ndi kupsompsona kapena kuyang'ana kuchokera kukhudza, wokondedwa wanu mwina amaganiza za pizza kapena kupita ndi abwenzi ku bar kuti ayang'ane maulendo a mpira. Kapena mosiyana - pamene munali kuyaka ndi mkwiyo, munali kuzunzidwa ndi osakhutira ndipo mumakhulupirira kuti "amachichita mwachidwi" - munthu uyu amakhulupirira moona mtima kuti amakuganizirani ndikusamalira maganizo anu.
Simungatsutse kuti zolinga zake ndi malingaliro ake zinali monga momwe mukuganizira.
Ndipo pokhapokha mutasanthula mosamala ndi mosamala, omwe potsiriza amagawanitsa iwe ndi "iye", ukhoza kumasulidwa kuti ukhale weniweni. Tsopano simukusowa kubwereza "malingaliro ake." Komanso - mwina simungakonde.
Ndi kubwerera ku dziko lenileni!