Ndiye mumayamba kudabwa kuti simungakhale ndi chiyanjano chotani ndi mnyamata, komanso ndi mabanja ena? Koma, tsoka, ayi. Mabanja ambiri adavomereza kuti adakumana ndi vutoli, komabe iwo adapambana bwino komanso kumvetsetsa. Koma funso ndilo: "Kodi adakwanitsa bwanji zotsatirazi?" Ndipo apa pali malangizo ena ochokera kwa anthu ogonana, odwala matenda a maganizo, ndi "okwatirana omwe ali ndi chidziwitso" omwe athandiza kale ambiri.
1. Kugonana ndikumverera kwakumwamba
Wolemba zamagulu wotchuka wotchedwa Dilya Enikeeva akuimba mafilimu, akufanizira ndi duet. Mwina mungavomereze kuti kugonana kwa zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu ndikosiyana ndi zaka makumi atatu za kugonana. Ndipotu, mukangoyamba kumene mumatha kumverera momwe mumasewera mahomoni m'magazi anu, musagone usiku, koma m'mawa mumamva bwino kuposa maluwa, musanayambe kukhala ndi chiyembekezo ndi mapulani, ndinu okongola, monga Aphrodite ndipo ndinu wokondwa. Chaka ndi chaka amachotsa iwe kukongola ndi kudzidalira, makamaka mofulumira pamene mwamuna nthawi zonse amabwereza za mapaundi owonjezera ndi makwinya onse olemekezeka, mphamvu zonse zimapita ku banja, palibe nthawi yokwanira yogona, osati kulankhula za kugonana.
Komabe, ngati banjali likukhutitsidwa ndi maubwenzi awo apamtima, ndiye kuti maziko adalengedwa pamene mgwirizano wa zigawo zina ukuyamba kukula. Chikhalidwe ichi chimakhudza bwino kupambana kwa ubale ndi mnyamata.
Kodi mungakhale bwanji? Chifukwa chotani? Kodi mumawona zonse bwino mu ubale wanu wa tsiku ndi tsiku? Ngati sichoncho, ndiye yesetsani kupeza malingaliro okhudza chisokonezo mu ubale wanu.
2. Yesetsani chinachake kuti mukondane
Zimakhala zovuta bwanji kuti tisaiwale kusuta onse omwe adapeza mavuto a tsikulo, zonsezi, zovuta kwa mwamuna, koma tikuwoneka kuti tikuiwala kuti tikulankhula mwachikondi. Ndipo apa pali chizindikiro china choyamba cha chiwonongeko cha ubale wanu. Kumbukirani pamene munapatsa mwamuna wanu khofi pabedi? Ndipo ndi liti pamene mwamuna wanu amatha kupukuta msana wanu mumsamba?
Gulu lirilonse liri ndi maphikidwe ake omwe amasonyeza kukoma mtima ndi chikondi, kotero pitani nokha! Nthawi zambiri mukamafotokozera maganizo anu abwino, kugonana kumakhala kolimba kwambiri.
3. Pamene thupi liri lotopa - ndiye kunja kwake, sizodabwitsa, kugonana kotopa
Mwachidziwikire, ambiri adagwa mumkhalidwe woterewu, pamene mwamuna ayamba kuwonetsa, koma mukufuna kugona? Mukati, ayi-ndiye mwamuna amakhalabe wonyodola pamene mukuti inde - kenako pamapeto pake mukugona mwatopa. Nthawi zina zimachitika kumbali ina, pamene mwamuna akuyankha kale "mutu umapweteka." Zoonadi mumeneyi muyenera kupumula. Ena amapereka ana awo kwa agogo awo, ndipo pamapeto a sabata amapempha anzawo, samadziwana, ena - omwe safunikira kuthamangira m'mawa, amanyamula kugonana m'mawa, lachitatu - amawagoneka ana, kenako amapatsana nthawi.
4. Zovuta zonse pakhomo!
Kuyankhulana kwa foni ndi abwenzi kungasinthidwe mpaka mtsogolo. Mavuto a Office m'nyumba musachotse, malemba angathe kudikira kuntchito. Mukakhala mukudikirira foni yofunika, yambani makina oyankha. Ngati tsikulo linakhala lovuta ndipo panali mavuto omwe sanathetse, ndiye bwino kuti musakonze ubale uliwonse wapamtima, chifukwa simudzapumula ku malingaliro omwe mukufunikirabe zambiri zoti muchite. Ngati mumatsatira malamulo enawa, muyenera kukhala ndi mwayi wotsitsimula ubale wanu.
5. Timakambirana zolinga zathu kwa mwamuna
Ngati mukunena mwanjira zamalonda: "Wokondedwa, tili ndi madzulo!" - izi zikanakhala zosiyana kwambiri. Musayitane maulendo makumi awiri patsiku, kuti mundikumbutse kuti posachedwa, ndipo mukuyembekezera madzulo ano. Mukhoza kubwerera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito ya theka la ora kale ndikupanga chakudya chamadzulo, chomwe chidzakhala chosangalatsa kwambiri kwa mnzanuyo, mukhoza kusamalira champagne kapena vinyo, kusamba kapena kusamba - pamene mumakhala ndi maganizo abwino, mwamuna wanu adzamvekanso.
6. Samalani - misampha!
Mukamagwiritsa ntchito zochitika zomwezo pabedi - izi zidzakhala msampha wina, malingana ndi kugonana kwa anthu ogonana. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, ngati mumadya nthawi zonse mbatata yokazinga, ndiye kuti ola lidzabwera pamene kuyang'ana kokha kudzakubweretsani nkhanza. Izi zimapangitsa kuti "zakudya zanu zam'mbuyomu" zizikhala zosiyana.
7. Mwamuna sali chibwenzi chako!
Kwa chiyanjano chanu sichikulirakulira tsiku ndi tsiku, ndiye musaiwale kuti ndi mwamuna wanu, osati chibwenzi. Ndipo n'kosangalatsa kuti mupambane tsiku ndi tsiku. Musati muulule zophophonya zanu zonse, kuti mukhale ndi makilogalamu 10 owonjezereka, kapena muli ndi kuvunda kwa dzino - izi ziyamba kumunyoza mwamuna wanu ndipo adzakhumudwa kuti ngati mutaya mavuto anu onse pa iye.
8. Manyazi ndi abwino!
Inde, kugonana kwakukulu kungakumbutse ngakhale msonkhano wa bizinesi, kotero njira yotsitsimutsa ubwenzi wanu ndi kuseka.
9. Kukumbutsa ndi mgwirizano!
Ngati pakati panu pali kuzizira, zithunzi zakale, zosaiwalika kukumbukira, zidzakuthandizani kukumbukira momwe mumakondana kwambiri.
10. Bwerani ndi kukonda!
Ambiri amavomereza kuti n'zovuta kukopa ndi mwamuna wanu! Koma! Yesani paulendo kuti mufotokoze za tsogolo lanu la usiku waukulu ngati mukupita kukayesa kumusangalatsa iye poyendetsa bondo ndikuyesera kukwera mmwamba. Pali njira zambiri, chinthu chachikulu ndi kusankha zomwe mwamuna wanu amakonda! Kodi ndikufunika kukuphunzitsani? Musaiwale kuti chilakolako chanu chikadali ndi inu, koma chili ndi pfumbi, chifukwa kwa nthawi yaitali palibe amene agwiritsa ntchito, amasangalala ndi moyo!
Ksenia Ivanova , makamaka pa webusaitiyi