Kawirikawiri amagwiritsiridwa ntchito kwa iwo mawu akuti "chikondi". Koma ziribe kanthu momwe zinalili zolimba ndi zowonekeratu kuti zinali zopanda kuthetseratu, mikangano yomwe imabweretsa nthawi zambiri chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika ndi chiwonongeko ikugwira ntchito yawo: chikondi chimamwalira, ndipo chimakhala chowawa kwambiri. Choncho, maanja ena amachita zambiri mopanda vuto kwa psyche ndipo, zowopsya, nthawizina amakhala ndi ubale wautali - ubale wopanda. Inde, pamene anthu sapanga udindo wina ndi mzake, zimakhala zomasuka kuti azitha kuyanjana, ndipo nthawi zina amakangana nthawi zambiri, choncho nthawi yawo imakula.
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, akatswiri a maganizo amadziwa chodabwitsa, chomwe mawu amagwiritsidwa ntchito m'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku: "Chipatso choletsedwa ndi chokoma." Limbikitsani munthu kuchita chilichonse, ndipo angoganizira za momwe angathetsere chiletsocho, koma achite zomwe akuyenera kuti aziletsedwa - choncho sizingachitike kuti agwiritse ntchito chilolezo!
Tsopano tiyeni tiyankhule za momwe tingakhalire mu ubale waulere ndipo, makamaka, chomwe chiri. Kwenikweni, iwo sali osiyana kunja ndi ubale wamba ndi kusiyana kokha ndiko kuti onse awiri sali omangirizana wina ndi mzake kwambiri moti amaopa kuchoka. Mwina wina angatsutse: kodi ndi chikondi ichi? Pakalipano, palibe chidziwitso chodziwika bwino cha sayansi "chikondi". Aliyense amapanga tanthauzo lake, ndipo apa mwambi wina uli wofunikira: ndi anthu angati, malingaliro ambiri. Chodabwitsa kwambiri, mukhoza kuyamikira munthu, kusangalala ndi kukhalapo kwake, koma kuzindikira ndi malingaliro anu kuti kulimbikitsana kwakukulu, kumapweteka kwambiri, kotero ndibwino komanso kosangalatsa kwambiri kuti muzisangalala ndi nthawi zosangalatsa za chiyanjano magawo ang'onoang'ono kusiyana ndi kumeza zonse. Choncho, sikoyenera kufunsa munthu wokondedwayo kudzipereka kwamuyaya, koma kuti amasangalale ndi mphindi pomwe ali, pokhala ndi maganizo okonzeka kwambiri - kupatukana.
Pamene ambiri amakhala ndi ufulu wogonana, wina amatha kuona chitsanzo cha omwe sakukonzekera, koma akupitiriza kukumana. Amapsompsonana mwachikondi, amakondana wina ndi mzake, amakhala ndi chimwemwe mwa chikondi, koma sanaganize za ana ndi banja. Mtsikana akamayankhula ndi mnyamata wina, ndiye kuti chibwenzi chake sichichita nsanje, chifukwa amamvetsa kuti ndi bwenzi basi, ndipo sangathe kukwaniritsa zomwezo ndi chibwenzi chake. Iye, nayenso, amayamikira mnzako bwino monga bwenzi, koma osati monga munthu wodalirika. Amatha kuyenda mosamala m'makampani, opangidwa ndi atsikana ndi anyamata, osakhala ndi mantha, kapena ayi - opanda ngakhale kulingalira za izo. Amuna achikhalidwe amayesetsa kupeŵa zikondwerero zoterezi, chifukwa akuwopa kuti theka lawo lina "lidzatengedwa" ndi wina. Ngakhale mtsikanayo angathe kuthana ndi zofuna zazing'ono, zikhumbo, mayesero, koma, poganiza za mutu wopepuka, amadziwa kuti chibwenzi chake chikhalire bwino. Otsatirawo ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti kukana mayesero si kosavuta kuti athe kuchita chiwembu, choncho munthu ayenera kulekerera zolakwika za mtsikanayo ndikuwakhululukira. Anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi amazindikiranso kuti chiwalo cha munthu chomwe chinagwiritsidwa ntchito kuposa miyezi yambiri ya chisinthiko ndi chitukuko cha anthu sichingatheke, ndipo izi ziyenera kuvomerezedwa. Choncho, iwo samagwiritsa ntchito molakwika za tanthauzo la chigololo, koma amawachitira ngati chinthu chachiwiri, zomwe zingachitike kwa aliyense, kugawana bwino chikondi ndi kugonana, kumvetsetsa kuti kugonana kungatheke osati ndi wokondedwa, koma limodzi.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amadziwa bwino, osadziŵa kuti anthu ambiri amakopeka ndi nthawi zovuta, kusintha kwa zochitika, zatsopano, zosiyana, makamaka mu ubale, ngakhale zonsezi zimabweretsa mavuto. Atsikana ndi ochepa kuposa anyamata kuti achite izi: kulira mumtsamiro wochokera ku nsanje, iwo akadakondwera. Pano mwambi wotsatira ndi woyenera: okondedwa amalumbira - amangosakaniza. Awiriwa, omwe amatha kugwirizana mosagwirizana, kuwonetsetsa mu chiyanjano, kutaya - kuwonongeka mofulumira. Anthu omwe amalumikizana mwaulere amadziwa kuti akufunikira kupeza zokhudzidwa zatsopano zomwe zimapangitsa kuti akhale okhutira, chidwi ndi kukoma mtima pamoyo wawo. Nthaŵi zina, kutemberera chifukwa cha kukhutana kwa wina ndi mzake pofuna kuyesayesa, amakhutitsidwa, amamasuka, amasiya mpweya ndikupitiriza kukumana, ngati kuti palibe chomwe chinachitika.
Ubale waulere ndi njira yabwino kwa iwo omwe sali kuyambitsa banja ndi ana m'tsogolomu yodalirika. Koma amafunika kukhala ndi maganizo apadera komanso kukonzekera makhalidwe. Kuchotsa nsanje yosayenerera, yomwe imayikidwanso ndi ma geneti, si kophweka, koma ena amatha kuchita izi, motero amalephera kutsutsana. Kuchita zachiwerewere kapena kumasuka kumakhala mwachikhalidwe - aliyense amadzipangira yekha, ngakhale ziyenera kuzindikiridwa kuti kuvomereza kwapadera kwa chochitika ichi, chomwe chinachitika zaka zambiri zapitazo, m'zaka za unyamata wa okalamba, tsopano chikulowetsedwa ndi chivomerezo chamtendere, chifukwa zaka, anthu ndi mgwirizano pakati pawo.