Kotero, mumatani ndi munthu wankhanza? Pofuna kuyankha funsoli, choyamba ndi chofunikira kudziwa makhalidwe onse ndi makhalidwe a munthu wotere. Kungokhala ndi chidziwitso choterocho, mukhoza kudziwa momwe mungakhalire molondola.
Kwa munthu yemwe anabadwa pansi pa chizindikiro ichi, nthawizonse panali chilakolako. Inde, anyamatawa amadzipereka kwathunthu ku zomwe iye akufuna komanso zomwe amakonda. Kungakhale ntchito, ana, mkazi wokondedwa, abwenzi. Pokhala pafupi ndi chinkhanira, ambiri angaganize kuti ndi munthu wodekha komanso wololera. Ndipotu izi siziri choncho. Mkati mwa munthu wotero nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi malingaliro ambiri omwe amangokhala nawo. Anyamata oterewa samayang'anitsitsa maganizo a wina, amakonda kusamalira ndi kutsogolera. Ndi munthu wotero ndi bwino kusapikisana, chifukwa adzakwaniritsa zonse ndipo adzakhala woyamba. Kutupa ndi scorpion ndi kosavomerezeka. Munthu wa chizindikiro ichi amakumbukira mwakachetechete zifukwa zamphamvu ndipo samawakhululukira konse. Ngati mnyamata wanu ndi chinkhanira, musamamulepheretse kupanga anzanu. Ngakhale ngati simukukonda abwenzi ake, ndi bwino kuti musalankhule za izo. Zoona zake n'zakuti, zankhanza, ubwenzi umatanthauza zambiri. Nthawi zonse amakhala okhulupirika kwa anzawo, pokhapokha atachita chiwembu kapena kupha munthu.
Koma, ndikuyenera kuzindikira kuti chikondi cha chinkhanira chimatanthauza osachepera. Ngati anyamata ako amakukondani, mumamva nthawi zonse. Koma pokhapokha ngati mutasamala zachinsinsi chake chamkati. Amuna amenewa amanyazi pang'ono kusonyeza ena kuti ali wokondana kwambiri ndi munthu wina. Kotero musamamvetsetse khalidwe ili. Khulupirirani maganizo anu okha. Ndipo pafupi ndi ziphuphu nthawi zonse zimawonekera chikondi chake chachikulu. Chowonadi ndi chakuti ndi tanthauzo la moyo kwa munthu woteroyo. Iye sadzasintha konse ndi kusiya maganizo ake kwa ambiri. Nkhonya zimakhala zokha. Iwo mwina amamukonda munthu mmodzi ku chipongwe, kapena sakonda konse. Kwa munthu wotero, kukhulupilika mu maubwenzi ndi kofunika kwambiri. Choncho, yesetsani kuti musamaname. Kwa chinkhanira, choonadi chowawa ndi chabwino kwambiri kuposa bodza lokoma. Ngakhale nkhani yoipitsitsa yokhudza zomwe adauzidwa moona mtima, munthu woteroyo, posachedwa adzapulumuka ndikukhululukira, ngati kuli kofunikira. Koma bodza kwa iye ndilo kusakhulupirika. Kwa mkazi wokondedwa, chinkhanira chidzachita chirichonse. Kuyambira kumusamalira, iye adzachita, monga woyenera njonda, kupereka mphatso ndi kumvetsera. Anyamata otere sankaima pambali, amachita manyazi kuti afike pamtima. Iwo amachita kuchokera mu buluu ndi chisomo chawo ndi kusamalira pafupifupi nthawizonse kukwaniritsa cholinga chawo.
Pafupi ndi chinkhanira, mungathe kukwaniritsa zambiri, chifukwa anthu oterowo amayesetsa kuthandiza achibale kuti achite zonse kuti maloto awo akwaniritsidwe. Choncho, musataye thandizo la zinkhanira zanu, makamaka ngati mukuzisowa. Chowonadi ndi chakuti munthu woteroyo amakhumudwa kwambiri ndi kukana kotero, chifukwa amapereka chithandizo chake kuchokera pansi pamtima, kuyesa kuthandiza munthu amene amamukonda, amayamikira komanso amayamikira.
Ponena za ukwati wa chinkhanira, ndizovuta kwambiri kwa iye. Pamene mwamuna wotereyo amakonda komanso akufuna kukhala ndi mkazi moyo wake wonse, amupatsa iye kuti akwatirane, ndipo, posakhalitsa chiyambi cha chiyanjano. Choncho, ngati mwakhala mukuchita chibwenzi ndi zinkhanira kwa zaka zingapo, ndipo sakukamba za ukwati, mukufunikira kukhala osamala. Mwinamwake, mnyamata wanu samaona kugonana kwakukulu. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kulankhula naye kuti mudziwe zomwe zikuchitika. Musamangokankhira, ndipo musaike "funso pamapeto". Nkhonya sizikonda izi, zimakwiya ndipo zimadzimangirira. Komanso, popita kukambirana, ndibwino kumvetsetsa kuti zikhoza kutanthauza kutha kwa chibwenzi. Ngati chinkhanira chikuvomereza kuti sakukukondani, sangapitirize kukumana. Kwa chinkhanira mu chibwenzi chachikulu, chikondi chimagwira ntchito yofunika kwambiri. Koma, ngati akupitirizabe kukupatsani, khalani chete - munthuyu amakonda komanso amakuyamikirani kuposa china chilichonse. Monga momwe iye samayamikirira abwenzi ake, ndiwo banja lomwe limakhala loyambirira mu chikhalidwe chake. Kwa mkazi wake ndi ana ake, munthu woteroyo adzachita zonse, malinga ngati sakusowa kuchepa. Mukhoza kumudalira nthawi zonse. Kukhala otsimikiza kwenikweni kuti iye adzachita izo. Udindo ndi chimodzi mwa makhalidwe abwino a chinkhanira. Kukhala ndi chinkhanira pansi pa denga limodzi, osayesa kukhala mutu wa banja. Iye sangakhale ndi mkazi yemwe ali wamphamvu kuposa iye. Choncho, muyenera kupanga chinyengo kuti ndi amene amasankha chilichonse. Ngakhale, ngakhale kuti, angathe kuwatsogolera mwaluso. Komanso zinkhanira ndizofuna, kotero, nthawi zina zimakuwoneka kuti akufunsani zambiri kuchokera kwa inu. Izi ndizovuta kwambiri kumenyana, chifukwa nkhanza zomwezo zimayesa kukhala zabwino, kotero iwo omwe ali nawo ayenera kukhala abwino kwambiri. Ndi munthu wotere nkofunika kuti muzisamalira nokha ndipo nthawi zambiri mukhale mkazi amene angakhale wodzitama ndi wokondwa.
Ngati tikulankhula za kugonana, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti kugonana kumagwira ntchito yofunika kwambiri kwa chinkhanira. Koma, panthawi imodzimodziyo, samangokhalirana kugonana pazogonana. Kwa munthu wotero, kugonana ndi chikondi sizingatheke. Amadziwa momwe angagwirire ndi kugonana. Choncho, sikofunikira kwa mnyamata kuti akane izi ndikukhala modzichepetsa kwambiri, chifukwa nkhanza nthawi zonse imafuna kuyesera ndi zatsopano.
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