Kotero, kodi ndi zoona kuti m'masiku athu mkazi wolimba ndi munthu wofooka? Nchifukwa chiyani mtsikana wamphamvu atabvala munthu mmanja mwake? Osati kwenikweni, kwenikweni, koma mophiphiritsira, ngakhale pano wina anganene kuti "amavala pakhosi pako". Inde, wina sangathe kunena molondola kuti izi ndi zoona. Ndipo amuna enieniwo: olimba mtima, olimba mtima, olimbika mtima ndi omwe alibe udindo, alipo anyamata okhaokha omwe ali ndi mphamvu? Ndikukayikira ngati zili zabwino. Kwa aliyense wa ife mu moyo panali amuna otere, mibadwo yosiyana ndi malemba, maudindo apabanja, komabe anakumana - kotero ine ndikufuna kuti ndikhulupirire kuti si chirichonse chomwe chatayika. Komabe, silingakanidwe kuti chiwerengero cha amuna omwe amafananitsidwa ndi atsikana akukula, chomwe chimawombera aliyense, makamaka amayi, kukhala chisoni. Pambuyo pake, ndipo "kwa atsikana khumi molingana ndi chiŵerengero" mukudziwa anthu angati. Ndipo muyenera kuchotsa kwa amuna asanu ndi anayi zidakwa ndi osokoneza bongo, amuna omwe sali achikhalidwe chawo. Ndipo chidzatsala ndi chiyani? Mofananamo, ndani? Posakhalitsa nkhondo yeniyeni idzayamba pakati pa akazi kuti azikhala amuna abwino. Kodi mkazi angakhale bwanji wolimba?
Eya, ndipo ngati palibe nthabwala, n'chifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Nchifukwa chiyani amuna amalephera, ataya mzere pakati pa amuna ndi akazi? Nchifukwa chiyani amai amakhala amphamvu komanso ali ndi udindo, ngati asanakhale pakhomo, amameta mtanda ndi kubereka ana ambiri?
Kodi mukudziwa zomwe anthu amazitcha? "Chimene adamenyera - adathamangira." Posachedwapa, dziko lonse lapansi likudandaula pamagulu amphamvu a kusintha, ndi mbendera ndi mabanki akuimba kuti amafuna kugonana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Kodi chikazi chimodzi chokha ndi chofunika bwanji? Azimayi amene amaika chiopsezo m'malo mwa masiketi ndi madiresi omwe amavala kuti azivala mathalauza awo ndi kusuta fani yamakinala, amayesetsani kukula kwa ntchito ndipo nthawi zambiri musagwirizane ndi amunawo. Ife tokha tinkafuna kuti tikhale amphamvu ndi odziimira - zomwe ziri nazo. Ngakhale, ngakhale, kunena kuti lingaliro ili kwa akazi onse silikusowa: ambiri a ife tikufunabe kukhala azimayi, ofewa ndi ochepa kwa amuna. Dalirani iwo, kudalira pa iwo. Kudziwa kuti angadalire pamapewa amphamvu a mwamuna wawo, ndipo izo kumbuyo kwake mukhoza kumabisala kumbuyo kwa moyo.
Mwachidziwikire, zonsezi ndizo mafashoni ndi machitidwe a kumadzulo omwe anatipanga ife, anasintha mwamuna ndi mkazi m'malo. Ngakhale chinthu china chochititsa chidwi: kodi izi zinayambira kuti kumadzulo? Komabe, pali nthawi zonse zosuntha zosangalatsa, ndipo ife mosangalala timalandira iwo ndikuyesera tokha, kupereka msonkho kwa mafashoni. Ndipo, zodabwitsa, nthawi zina ife timakhulupirira ngakhale mtima kuti izi zidzatibweretsera chimwemwe!
Nchifukwa chake mwamunayo anafooka kwambiri? Pano funsoli silili ngakhale phokoso lakukula kwa mimba yake - izi ndizosiyana kwambiri, ngakhale ndizosautsa kuona mnyamata yemwe ali ndi vuto la "mowa" wokongola (komanso msungwana yemwe sadziyang'anira yekha - koma ili ndi bizinesi ya munthu aliyense). Tikukamba za kufooka kwa makhalidwe, auzimu. Ali kuti amuna omwe ali opusa komanso opepuka "apulasitiki" amene sanachitepo kanthu m'miyoyo yawo, ndipo ndipanso, iwo safuna ngakhale kuchita. Chifukwa chiyani? Ngati poyamba pali makolo achikondi omwe amapereka zonse zofunika. Kenaka padzakhala mkazi yemwe adzatenga ntchito zonse zopanga homuweki ndipo adzakhala ndi nthawi yomanga ntchito mwamsanga kuposa mwamuna wake. Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani akuvutanso? Zili monga mtundu wina wa machitidwe olakwika. Mwamunayo wamasuka tsopano, osati omwe wapita: ndipo mlandu wa izi ndi mayesero omwe amawayembekezera kuseri kwa moyo uliwonse. Kwa ife iwonso ali, ndi yaikulu, koma mwa njira ina timauwumitsa iwo.
Mkazi wamphamvu ndi zotsatira za kutuluka kwa amuna ofooka. Ndipotu wina ayenera kukhala wamphamvu! Zonsezi zinayamba, mwinamwake, chifukwa chakuti banja linasiya kukhala lofunika koposa mdziko. Apanso, mayesero ambiri adayamba kusokoneza kudzipereka kwa anthu okwatirana - wina anayamba kuyang'ana wina kumbali kuti awonetsere chizoloŵezi chosasangalatsa cha tsiku ndi tsiku. Wina wokhala ndi mutu adalowetsa muzochita zowonetsera ndipo adaiwala za banja. Ndipo kawirikawiri "munthu" uyu anali mwamuna, chifukwa amayamba kufookera ndipo lingaliro la banja silili lolimba ngati la azimayi mwachinsinsi. Ndipo, atasiya yekha, mu zaka 30-35 pa bwalo losweka, pokhala ndi ana awiri m'manja mwake ndi zaka zingapo zomwe ali nazo mu chomera chophika nyama, n'zovuta kumvetsa: chochita chotsatira? Ndipo m'pofunika kukhala ndi moyo, ndikofunikira kulera ana pamilingo. Kotero mkaziyo anayika zolemetsa pa iyemwini, anapita kukafunafuna tsogolo labwinoko. Ndipo pafupi ndi iye tsopano sanali munthu wopusa wonyenga, koma mnyamata wofooka wachikondi yemwe anamvetsera kwa iye gulu lirilonse ndipo ankatumikira ngati galu wa mnyumba. Kugwiritsa ntchito kwake kokha sikunali kochokera kwa iye, chifukwa anali wamantha komanso wopanda ntchito. Anapeza wina ndi mzake, mabanja ngati awa: mkazi wamphamvu ndi mwamuna wofooka, mkazi wofooka komanso mwamuna wamphamvu. Pokhapokha zaka za oyamba zidakhala zambiri, mwatsoka. Ngati sichoncho, mayiyo anatsala yekha, podziwa kuti kulemera kwake pamutu mwa munthu wotere kumangowonjezera.
Mwamuna sanafune kugwira ntchito yofooka, koma ankafuna kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Kotero munthuyo anapita kwa Alfonso - onse, anakhala hule mu thalauza. Ndipo onse chifukwa amayi ena anali ndi mwayi wokhala ndi ndalama ndipo akanatha kukhala popanda kusokoneza. Ndipo kwa iye, wokongola kwambiri ndi wokongola, ndi kumwetulira kwa angelo ndi kupiringizika, kerubi, ankayenera kugwira ntchito, osadziletsa yekha. Iye anali atatopa, kerubi. Atatopa, ankafuna moyo wokoma - ndipo adasandulika ukapolo wa ndalama kwa mkazi wamphamvu koma wopusa. Pano pita ndi kumvetsetsa: kodi ndi bwino kukhala wamphamvu, kuti mutha kukhala zaka zochepa ndi munthu wofooka?
Pambuyo pa mwamuna wamphamvu, mkazi wolimba yemweyo sangalekerere: mpikisano ndi wovuta, ndipo ndi zovuta kuti azigwirizana nawo pamodzi, olamulira. Kotero izo zikutuluka: iwo ankafuna kuti azidziimira okha pa amuna - iwo anakhala odziimira okha kwa amuna. Ndipo tsopano amuna amadalira pa ife. Tsopano msungwana wamphamvu akunyamula munthu mmanja mwake, akudyetsa kuchokera ku supuni, ngati mwana wamng'ono. Osati nthawi zonse, ndithudi, koma zimachitika. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti nthawiyi silingathe kubwereranso ndikugwera mu nthawi ya makola ndi amayi, kuti muzisangalala ndi anthu omwe ali ndi mphamvu komanso zamphamvu!