Kafukufuku wina amanena kuti ogwira ntchito samawona chilichonse choipa pochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kuntchito, komabe kasamalidwe kawirikawiri amawopa kuti zilakolako za ofesi zidzakhudza zokolola komanso mlengalenga. Nthawi zambiri, kukondana kwambiri kuntchito kumakhala kochepa ndipo nthawi zambiri kumathera mu ubale weniweni ndi ukwati, makamaka ngati mmodzi kapena onse awiri omwe ali nawo mu buku lino ali kale kale.
Bukuli mwachikhalidwe cha "wamkulu-pansi" - njira yowonjezera ndi yosasinthika ya maubwenzi achikondi. Nthawi zambiri, zibwenzi zotere zimathera muukwati. Ndipo kawirikawiri pambuyo pa kutha kwa ubale omwe wapansi ayenera kuchoka.
Musanayambe kugwirizana koteroko, m'pofunika kuganizira mosamalitsa ndikuzindikira zonse zomwe zimayambitsa maubwenziwa, komanso mavuto omwe angawathandize. Choyamba, abwana nthawi zambiri amakhala okwatira, ndipo ngati mkazi wake akuzindikira, sikuti iye sagwirizana ndi kuti ali ndi mpikisano, koma akhoza kuthandizanso moyo wa wotsutsa. Chachiwiri, ngati mtsogoleriyo atasinthidwa ndi wina wogwira ntchito, ndiye kuti mayi woyamba akhoza kugwa mwadzidzidzi. Chachitatu, wogonjera amene amakhala naye ndi bwana adzakhumudwa ndi kutsutsidwa ngati machitidwe oletsedwawa akhale ofesi ya boma. Kuphwanya maukwati kungachititse kugwa kwa ntchito kwa munthu wogonjera.
Kwa bwana, nawonso, ali ndi vuto lawoli. Ngati amatsata buku ndi wogonjera, sangakhale wotsimikiza kuti ali ndi mtima woona, ndipo nthawi zina amadza ndi lingaliro lakuti wogonjera akufuna basi kupita patsogolo.
Izi zimachitika m'njira zina - maubwenzi mu maonekedwe a "boss-subordinate". Mu ubale wotero, mavuto ambiri. Mkazi adzakayikira kuti, mwinamwake, munthu amagwiritsa ntchito izi pofuna cholinga chawo. Bwana akhoza kutaya chikhulupiriro. Ndipo, ndithudi, kachiwiri pali ngozi ku ntchito.
Ndiponso, pali ma bukhu othandizira ambiri pakati pa anzanu. Ndizosavuta apa, chifukwa chibwenzi chimabwera pakati pa ofanana. Koma pano sizingatheke popanda mavuto. Choyamba, ntchitoyo ingavutike. Chachiwiri, ubale woterewu umatsutsa akuluakulu, ngati buku lidziwika. Momwe akuluakulu amachitira ndi uthenga wa chikondi chanu, zimadalira ntchito yanu ndi ntchito ya mnzanuyo.
Ngakhale ogwira nawo ntchito sangaphonye mwayi wakukunyoza ndi kukunenani, kukutsutsani, makamaka pamene aliyense wa inu akwatirana. Ogwirizanitsa angathe ndipo "sadzachotsa zinyansi m'nyumba" (ngakhale kuti anthu ndi osiyana), koma kuti inu ndi mfundo zonse za chiyanjano chanu zidzakhala mutu wa zokambirana zopanda pake ndi miseche sizomwe zikuchitika, chifukwa chirichonse chiri powonekera. Ndipo, ndithudi, iwe udzatsutsidwa. Ndipotu, kwenikweni, simungokhala ndi chikondi cha anthu awiri aumasuka, ndinu okonda, chifukwa pali alangizi olondola amene amanyengedwa, amene amasintha. Zambiri zamalonda za utumiki nthawi ndi nthawi zimakhala zomveka, ngakhale mutayesetsa mobisa kubisala.
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, timagulu sikuti nthawi zonse, koma nthawi zina pangakhale ena amakhalidwe abwino kapena okhumba chabe omwe amawona kuti ndi udindo wawo kulongosola chikondi choletsedwa kwa mkazi kapena mwamuna wokwatira.
Palinso zovuta zina za maulumikizi. Ngati simugwirizana nawo, nonse mudzakhala ovuta ndipo mudzayenera kulipira mtendere. Mwachitsanzo, munasweka ndi chinyengo. Zidzakhala bwanji kuti muwonane wina ndi mzake sabata iliyonse, tsiku lililonse kwa maola 8, penyani mkwiyo pakati pawo? Ndipo nthawi zina chilakolako choyamba chingayambenso kubwezera chinachake, kunong'oneza za iwe, kusokoneza zabodza, kuyesa kuwononga ntchito yanu ndi zina zotero. Zosokoneza, zovuta, zabodza, mavuto, mndandanda ukhoza kupitirirabe. Ndipo zidzakhala zovuta kwa inu, ndipo izi sizingatheke kusangalatsa akuluakulu.
Ena amakondanso kusiya pamene mavutowa amayamba ndi okonda kale. Ndi bwino kusunga mbiri, kupeza malangizowo abwino ndikupeza ntchito ina yabwino kusiyana ndi kuyembekezera kuti zinthu zitheke. Khalidwe lochititsa manyazi ndi kuphwanya malamulo a ntchito zidzasokoneza mbiri yanu pamaso pa akuluakulu ndi ogwira nawo ntchito, ndipo malingaliro awo ndiye kuti sangakhale abwino kwambiri. N'chifukwa chiyani mavuto amenewa? Chikondi cha utumiki - ubale pafupi ndi neurosis. Ndipo izi zingakhale ntchito yotani? Kawirikawiri munthu akhoza kugwirizanitsa bwino mbiri ya utumiki ndi zokolola zapamwamba za ntchito.
Ngati nonse muli opanda ufulu, n'chifukwa chiyani mukufunikira mavuto awa? Mavuto adzakhala pantchito, m'banja, komanso payekha. Ngakhale chiyeso chiri chabwino, ndi bwino kugwiritsabe, osati kuyenda pamphepete mwa mpeni, sikuyenera kuwononga banja lanu ndikugwira ntchito, chifukwa kuwonetsetsa kuli kwenikweni. Ndipo, monga tazitchula kale, ambiri amalembedwe a ntchito amatha kupatukana, osati ndi maubwenzi aakulu ndi maukwati. Ndi bwino kusiya kugwirizana kumeneku. Nchifukwa chiyani mumayambitsa mavuto omwe mumagwiritsa ntchito maola 8 pa tsiku?
Zonsezi zikhoza kupewedwa ngati simukuyang'ana zosangalatsa, ndipo moyenera komanso mwakhama mukugwira ntchito, musalole kuti maganizo ndi zilakolako zazing'ono zisunge malingaliro anu. Tiyenera kuganizira za zotsatira zake.
Kuonjezerapo, pamene chikondi cha chikondi ndi mavuto onse atatha, anthu ambiri amadandaula kuti adayamba "kutembenuza" kuntchito.
Tonsefe ndife opanda ufulu, chikondi cha chikondi chimakhala mowa ... Momwe mungakhalire? Khalani wololera, yesani phindu ndi kupweteketsa, ganizirani za mavuto omwe angabwere chifukwa cha chikondi kuntchito, komanso za ululu umene ungachititse kuti mutseke anthu. Khalani okondwa!