Kuti mumvetse momwe mungakhalire ndi munthu amene adayika mankhwala osokoneza bongo, muyenera kudziwa komanso kumvetsa bwino zomwe amakhulupirira, zolimbikitsa komanso zambiri. Komabe, muyenera kukhala bwenzi lenileni komanso munthu wachikondi kuthana ndi vutoli ndikuthandizani wokondedwa wanu.
Kotero, momwe mungakhalire molondola? Choyamba, simuyenera kuopa kuti munthu amene kale akuledzera adzakwiya ndi iwe ngati ukamuuza za mavuto. Inde, ali ndi kudzidzimva pamaso pake, amadzikwiyira yekha. Angasangalale ndi ndemanga zilizonse, koma musamachite mantha ndi khalidwe lake ndikupita kumbali. Kumbukirani kuti mankhwala osintha anthu sakhala abwino. Amakhala okwiya, osasamala, okwiya. Munthu akayesera kusiya, vuto limakula kwambiri. Koma, komabe, anthu amafunikira thandizo ndipo muyenera kusonyeza kuti mwakonzeka kupereka. Ndi munthu yemwe akuchotsa chizolowezi ichi, muyenera kulankhula ndi kumutsimikizira kuti akuchita zonse bwino. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi imeneyi, nthawi iliyonse akhoza kutha. Muyenera kukhala pafupi ndi munthu uyu ndi kuthandizira. Koma, mulimonsemo, musamachite ngati kuti mumutsatira. M'dziko lino zidzasokoneza mkwiyo.
Pafupi ndi munthu woponya mankhwala ayenera kukhala mmodzi yemwe amamvetsetsa momveka bwino za ngozi, ndikupanga zolinga ndikudziwitsa zomwe zikuchitika. Kumbukirani kuti njira yokonzanso munthu amene amadalira mankhwala osokoneza bongo, satenga tsiku, osati sabata kapena mwezi. Pa njira yopita kuchipatala, muyenera kuthana ndi zolephera zambiri palimodzi, zomwe zidzakuthandizani kupambana ngati mungathe kumuthandiza ndi kuthandizira.
Kumbukirani kuti munthu asanachiritsidwe, sangathe kulamulira moyo wake mokwanira. Ngati muwona kuti ikuphweka kapena yathyoka kale, komabe ikuyesera kukonza chinachake - musataye mtima. Thandizo lirilonse pa gawo lanu ndi mwayi wopeza. Inde, muzochitika izi, inu nokha simudzakhala ndikumverera kovuta kwambiri. Mu moyo wanu mukhoza kuthetsa ululu, kukaikira, kudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa chifukwa chakuti simunapulumutse mu nthawi ndipo simunapulumutse. Ngati zikukukhumudwitsani, mukhoza kuzisiya. Choncho, nkofunika kulankhula za maganizo ofanana ndi anthu apamtima. Musamayerekezere kuti ndinu wolimba ndipo mudzisamalira nokha. Izi ndi zopanda phindu. Zikakhala choncho, mumangokhala ndi thanzi labwino m'maganizo mwathu komanso kuonjezera mwayi woti simungathe kuchiritsidwa mwa kuyang'ana kukhumudwa kwanu ndi mantha. Kotero musakhale chete pa zomwe zikukuvutitsani inu. Mukawona kuti ali wokwanira kuzindikira mavuto anu kawirikawiri, mukhoza kukambirana naye. Musangomuneneza ndi kumuimba mlandu. Ndikhulupirire, iye mwini amadziimba mlandu yekha chifukwa cha kufooka kwake ndi kupusa kwake. Ndiuzeni kuti mukuzunzidwa ndikupempha thandizo kuchokera kumbali yake.
Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti ndi koyambirira kwambiri kuti akambirane za izi, kambiranani ndi mnzanu wapamtima, mnzanu, mlongo kapena mbale wanu. Mukhoza kulankhulana ndi achibale anu kapena achibale anu omwe angakumvetsereni ndikukuthandizani. Mutatha kuyankhula ndipo zidzakhala zosavuta kwa inu, mutha kumenyana ndi mphamvu zatsopano kwa munthu yemwe alibe chidwi ndi inu ndikuyesera kupambana nkhondo ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Ngati mukufuna kuthandiza munthu kuchiza, kumbukirani kuti izi zingakhudze ubale wanu. Pankhaniyi, osati mbali yofunika kwambiri yomwe imasewera ndi maubwenzi ati omwe mumagwirizana nawo: abwenzi, achibale kapena chikondi. Mulimonsemo, khalidwe lake silidzakusangalatsani nthawi zonse. Koma musaiwale kuti nthawiyi akudutsamo mavuto ambiri ndi zochitika. Ngati munthu akuchiritsidwa ndipo akusowa chithandizo, popeza kuti n'kosatheka kudzipulumutsa yekha kuchokera ku chikhulupiliro chotero, zikutanthauza kuti atha nthawi yochuluka mu zokambirana zosiyanasiyana ndi gulu lothandizira. Zitha kuchitika kuti adzakhala ndi abwenzi atsopano pakati pa "mabwenzi omwe ali m'mavuto". Palibe chifukwa chake mungamukwiyire chifukwa chokhala nawo nthawi yambiri ndikupempha thandizo. Ndi zophweka kuti anthu awa amvetse izi, chifukwa akukumana ndi chinthu chomwecho. Ndipo inu, mwachisangalalo kapena osasangalala, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuzindikira kukula kwake ndi mphamvu ya zowawa zake ndi zochitika zake. Choncho musakwiya ndipo musapange zamtundu uliwonse, ngati kuti munthu sakonda ndikukuyamikirani kwambiri. Ndipotu, amayamikira kwambiri thandizo lanu ndipo, akachiritsidwa kangapo, adzakuthokozani chifukwa cha thandizo lanu. Mukhoza kukhala pafupifupi 100% otsimikiza kuti pambuyo pa kukonzanso kwathunthu, adzakuchitirani mwamphamvu kwambiri, chikondi ndi chikondi kuposa poyamba.
Mukapeza kuti muli pafupi ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, muyenera kutsimikiza kuti akufunadi kusiya. Anthu omwe amamwa mowa mwauchidakwa amatha kunong'oneza bondo, kukupempha mlingo kapena chinthu china chofunikira kwa iye tsopano. Choncho, ngati mutha kuthandiza ndi kuthetsa mitsempha yanu ndi zida zankhanza kwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, onetsetsani kuti akulimbana ndi mavuto ake. Koma kumbukirani kuti ayenera kuchita zonsezi osati kwa inu, koma payekha. Kupambana kungabwere kokha pamene munthu akufuna mowona mtima ndikuzindikira zomwe adalowa. Inu simungakhoze kutenga udindo pa zotsatira zake ndi zoperewera. Choncho, samalani kwambiri ndipo musadzilole nokha kunyengedwa ngakhale ndi munthu amene mumamukonda ndikumukonda. Koma, komabe, mpaka omaliza ayesa kumupulumutsa iye, ndipo ngati muwona chilakolako cholimbana, musabwezere kufikira nthawi yomwe chigonjetso sichidzabwere.