Iwo amanena kuti kutsutsana kukukopa. Kawirikawiri amuna amasankha zosiyana zawo m'banja. Anthu okondweretsedwa amakwatira atsikana aakazi kuchokera kumanja, mabanja oluntha, ndipo anyamata olemekezeka ndi ochepetsera amasankha mabwana awo a phwando ndi mikango yadziko kwa akazi awo.
Koma choyamba amuna onse amakwatira akazi omwe ali chithandizo chodalirika kwa munthu yemwe angathe kumanga ubwenzi weniweni ndi wolemekezeka, banja lenileni.
Koma, tingathe bwanji kufanana ndi chiŵerengero, malinga ndikuti ndi mabanja khumi okha mwa 100 okha omwe amatha kukondana. Kusankha mkazi wake ndi amayi ake a ana ake amtsogolo, mwamuna amadzipangira yekha njira zomwe mkazi wake wam'tsogolo ayenera kuzigwirizana. Kawirikawiri zomwe amakonda sizidziwa momwe angapangire cosiness, safuna ana, sakudziwa kufesa, ndi zina zotero. Ndikokuti, mkazi wokondedwa sagwirizana ndi chifaniziro cha mkazi ndi mayi abwino. Pano m'mikhalidwe yotereyi, amuna ena amakwatira akazi omwe amafanana nawo. Monga akunena, kupirira - kudzakhala m'chikondi.
Amuna ambiri okonda zachikondi amafunafuna zabwino kwa nthawi yaitali. Koma palibe zolinga m'dzikoli. Ndipo ndikuyenera kukwatira amuna oterewa kuchokera ku chiyembekezo kupita kwa anthu omwe amafanana ndi ofanana nawo.
M'nthawi yathu ino, nthawi zambiri amai samangokwatirana ndi kuwerengedwa, koma amuna amatha kukwatira chifukwa chofanana. Kuwerengera kungakhale ndalama, ndi ntchito, ndi chiwerengero cha kutchuka ndi kutchuka pakati pa anthu. Mndandanda uwu ulibe malire. Muzochitika zoterezi, mwamuna amakwatirana kuti atenge mwayi wina mwa mawonekedwe ake. Ndipo osati kwenikweni mkazi yemwe iwe umamukwatira, chikondi, chinthu chachikulu ndi kumufikitsa iye kuti akhulupirire izo kapena kumuwonetsa iye ubwino ndi zopindulitsa zomwe iye amapeza kuchokera ku chikwati ichi. Palibe zodabwitsa kuti pali mawu akuti: "Nthawi yoyamba amakwatirana chifukwa cha chikondi, chachiwiri kuti azikhala bwino, gawo lachitatu la chizolowezi".
Amuna ambiri amakwatira mkazi woyamba wosungulumwa pamsewu chifukwa nthawi yayandikira ndipo abwenzi onse ndi makolo onse amalimbikitsana kuti akwatirane. Anzanu onse ozungulira akhala ndi mabanja, ndipo inu mulibebe bachelor amene akufunafuna moyo wabwino. Pano, ndikuyamba kuyesa njira ya moyo wamakono ndi kukakamizidwa kwa ena.
Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe amuna amakwatira akazi a mtundu umodzi. Uwu ndiwo mimba ya mkazi wochokera kwa munthu uyu, ndi mantha ake a kusungulumwa mu ukalamba, ndi kukakamizidwa kwa makolo, ndi kusokonezeka kwa moyo ndi chikhumbo chosintha chinachake m'moyo, kuyesa chinthu chatsopano, moyo wa banja mu mkhalidwe uno. Zonsezi zingakhazikitse banja loyenera kwa anthu ammudzi, kuwoneka kwa banja, koma m'banja chotero sipadzakhala chikondi. Zokwanira zomwe zingatheke muukwati wotero ndi kulemekeza ndi kusamalira komanso zokhazokha za okwatirana pa izi.
Koma pa akazi omwe ali ndi akazi okwatirana, tikuyembekeza kuti adzakukwatira chifukwa cha chikondi chachikulu. Musati mudzikane nokha kukonda, mukhale omasuka kwa iye. Ndiyeno ndi inu amene mutsimikizira kuti ndinu mkazi amene munakwatirana pa chikondi chimodzi. Musayese kugwiritsa ntchito njirazi pamwamba kuti mukwatire ndi munthu amene mumakonda. Palibe chabwino chomwe chidzabwere. Yembekezani chikondi chanu komanso mwamuna wokwatiwa. Chirichonse chiri ndi nthawi yake, monga iwo amanenera.