Kumva chikondi kumatha kufanana ndi kupusa. Chisoni chimasambira china chirichonse mu njira yake. Nthawi izi pamoyo wa anthu awiri ndi osaiwalika.
Kodi chikondi chimakhala zaka zingati? Asayansi ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, chifukwa cha kuyesera ndi zoyankhulana zomwe zachitika, zinatsimikiziridwa kuti chikondi cholimba kwambiri chili ndi masamulo - pafupifupi zaka zinayi.
Nanga bwanji za chikoka chogonana? Mwachibadwa, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti anthu amakula ozizira kwa wina ndi mzake muzogonana - zokopa pa thupi zimatha. Ndipo, kugonana kumachitika kawirikawiri, ndipo, nthawizina, kugonana kumatayika kwathunthu ku ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi.
Kodi ubale ungakhale wopanda nthawi yayitali bwanji?
Chodabwitsa, koma m'nthawi yathu ino, kusowa kwa kugonana mu chiyanjano sikudabwitsa. Mwachitsanzo, ku Japan, mabanja ambiri amavomereza kuti palibe kugonana m'banja lawo. Izi sizonyaditsa kunena muzofalitsa zonse. Kuperewera kwa kugonana ku Japan kwa munthu ndi chinthu chachibadwa, koma pali ena omwe akuvutika ndi vutoli.
Ndipotu, ubale wopanda kugonana ukhoza kukhala nthawi yaitali. Pali maanja amene samasautsidwa konse chifukwa chosagonana, pitirizani kukhalira pamodzi, kupanga mabanja olimba ndi okondwa. Nazi zitsanzo zingapo za awiriwa awiriwa.
Mabwenziwo ali bwino wina ndi mnzake. Kugonana kwa iwo sikutanthauza chikondi kapena chikole cha moyo wa banja losangalala . Ubale wawo uli kale wogwirizana. Amadziwa momwe angasonyezere malingaliro awo mwanjira ina: kukhumudwitsa, kulemekeza wokondedwa. Kwa mabanja oterewa ndi zosangalatsa kwambiri kuyenda pamapiri a autumn pafupi ndi wina ndi mnzake, amatha madzulo pambuyo poyankhula kuchokera pansi pamtima kapena, kukhala patsogolo pa TV, kugwirana manja ndikukhala chete.
Ndipo, musadabwe, maanja oterewa sali osiyana ndi malamulo. Ngati munthu sakupeza kufanana kwa kugonana - chikondi ndi chimwemwe, ndiye sizidzakhala zovuta kumanga maubwenzi aatali komanso osatha popanda ubwenzi.
Chiyanjano china, pomwe palibe kugonana. Mkwatibwi ali wina ndi mzake anthu oyandikana kwambiri ndi ndege. Kawirikawiri amakhala ndi ana, moyo wodabwitsa. Chomwe chiri chochititsa chidwi kwambiri, ndi abwenzi abwino komanso okondedwa, koma palibe kugonana muukwati wawo. Pakati pawo pali mgwirizano - kugonana kumaloledwa, koma "kumbali", ndiko kuti, ndi anthu ena.
Ndipotu, ubale wautali ukhoza kutha popanda kugonana, ngati mbali zonse zimakhutiritsa onse awiri - mwamuna ndi mkazi. Pokhapokha mwavomerezana, "Banja ndi abambo, ndi kugonana kumbali" lidzabweretsa chisangalalo komanso chiyanjano muzoyanjana.
Mwamwayi, chitsanzo cha banja sichingakhale ndi tsogolo m'dziko lathu, chifukwa onse amakhulupirira kuti amuna athu amaloledwa chirichonse, komanso tsogolo la amayi - ntchito, kunyumba, ana.
Ubale wopanda kugonana uli ndi ufulu wokhalapo, ngati onse awiriwo akumverera bwino. Koma, choti muchite ngati palibe kugonana mu ubale wanu kwa nthawi yaitali, koma simukukonda kwenikweni.
Malingana ndi chiwerengero, chifukwa cha kusowa kwa kugonana, amayi amavutika kwambiri. Izi zimakhudza zonse zamaganizo komanso za thanzi.
Kodi zotsatira za vutoli zimapezeka bwanji ndi amayi? Amayamba kuyang'ana mtundu uliwonse wa zochitika, zomwe zimatha kumusokoneza maganizo okhumudwitsa. Zitha kukhala chirichonse: ntchito, masewera, chikondi. Lingaliro ndi limodzi - musasiyepo kamodzi kokha kuganiza za kusowa kwa kugonana.
Koma, ngati simukufuna kuthetsa maubwenzi omwe mulibe chibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali, ngati mwamuna wanu akadali okwera mtengo, ndiye kuti chinthu chimodzi ndicho kuyesa kuthetsa vutoli ndikubwezerani kugonana kwa nthawi yayitali ku chiyanjano.