Kafukufuku wambiri amasonyeza kuti anthu omwe ali ndi moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana amakhala ochepa kwambiri pa zovuta za mtima, amakhala ndi mphamvu zowonjezera komanso amphamvu kwambiri. Timapereka zifukwa zisanu ndi chimodzi zomwe chikhumbo chanu chogonana chikhoza kugwera pansi, komanso kupereka njira zosavuta kuti muthandize kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi maganizo anu. Kodi kusagonana kumakhudza motani umoyo wa amayi ndi moyo waumwini?
Ndimavutika maganizo nthaŵi zonse
Nkhawa yodetsa nkhawa kwambiri ingayambitse kusokoneza chibwenzi. Chifukwa cha kupanikizika, kupanga zinthu zotchedwa "nkhondo kapena kuthawa" mahomoni monga cortisol, zomwe zimalepheretsa kuchita zosangalatsa zomwe zimafunika pa gawo loyambirira la kugonana, likukula. Pofuna kuchepetsa kuchuluka kwa mahomoni opanikizana, dulani 30 minutes pa tsiku kuti muyambe kuchita masewero olimbitsa thupi ndipo, ngati n'kotheka, konzani maphunziro madzulo, musanakagone. Asayansi a ku Canada apeza kuti pakuwonera mafilimu okonda zachiwerewere, amai amasangalala kwambiri ngati asanamalize kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa mphindi 20. Ngakhale kuyenda mofulumira kungakuthandizeni mwamsanga "kuyamba" chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa magazi, kuwonjezeka kwa chikhalidwe. Kuphatikizanso, kugonana komweko kumachotsa kupsinjika kwathunthu. Pambuyo pokonda chikondi, mumakhala omasuka, chifukwa chiwonongeko chimakula msinkhu wa kuchepetsa hormone oxytocin, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mukhale wosangalala komanso wogona.
Ndimasokonezeka ndi kugonana. Ndibwino kuti ndiwone kanema wabwino
Zing'onozing'ono zomwe zingatsitsimutse chilakolako chanu cholakalaka (inde, ndizo - zogwira mtima kusiyana ndi kuyembekezera zamakhalidwe oipa). Zowonongeka kwambiri, zomwe mumakhala nazo zokondweretsa, ndi chimodzi mwa zotsatira za kuphunzitsidwa nthawi zonse m'misendo ya pelvic (mdulidwe wa "belt" womwe umathandizira chikhodzodzo, urethra ndi umaliseche). Izi ndizo minofu yomwe mumatha kuletsa kuyimitsa. Chifukwa cha phunziroli, ofufuzawa adapeza kuti amayi omwe ali ndi mitsempha yofooka ya pelvic sangathe kuwonedwa ngati minofu kusiyana ndi omwe ali ndi minofu yamphamvu. Pano pali momwe mungaphunzitsire minofu yomwe imakhala yofooka ndi msinkhu. Taganizirani kuti pansi pamtanda wanu ndilo zipangizo zowoneka pansi, ndipo chiuno chanu ndilo pamwamba; pang'onopang'ono kupanikizika kwa minofu, ndikuganiza kuti mumakwera pansi, mukuchedwa kuchepa kwa mphindi imodzi pa "pansi" iliyonse. Kenaka "pita pansi", ndikupitiliranso pansi. Pofuna kupeza zotsatira zabwino, zochitikazo ziyenera kubwerezedwa mobwerezabwereza (maphunzirowa amadziwika kuti "Kegel zochitika"), kuchita maulendo 2-3 pa tsiku. Mukhoza kubwezeretsa chilakolakocho ndi kunja kwa chipinda chogona. Yesetsani kubwezeretsanso tsiku loyamba mwa kuchita chinthu chapadera pamodzi. Ndi bwino kuchita zinthu zomwe zimachulukitsa adrenaline, mwachitsanzo, kukwera limodzi pang'onopang'ono.
Makungwa ake sali okwanira. Iwo samandipatsa ine basi
N'zotheka kuti pomvetsetsa kwake kuti akhale yekha pansi pa bulangete, kale ndi kalembedwe, koma amayi ambiri amafunika nthawi yowonjezera kuti athe "kutentha". Cholinga chanu? Onaninso-kukhumba kuti chikhumbo chokhumba chomwe iwe umamva pamene iwe unayamba kukumana. Pangani chithunzithunzi chakumverera uku, kuseketsana kapena kukondana, monga kale, pa chakudya chamadzulo. Tengani ulamuliro nthawi zambiri kuti mumugwire mnzanuyo, mwachitsanzo, kumulowetsa panjira kapena kumangomenya kumbuyo. Kamodzi mukalowa m'chipinda choyesa, yesetsani kupeza njira zina zomwe simunkazidziwe kale kuti mukhale osangalala. Kukhudza makutu ndi khosi kungakhale kosangalatsa kwambiri. Yesetsani kuyanjana ndi maonekedwe ena, mwachitsanzo ndi misala.
Posachedwapa, ndinachira ndipo sindimamva ngati kugonana monga kale
Ndizomveka kuganiza kuti simuli olandiridwa ndi mapaundi owonjezera. Koma mukhulupirire kapena ayi, mnzanuyo sangathe kuzidziwa. Chofunika kwambiri ndikuti inu nokha kumbukirani kuti ndinu wokongola. Gwiritsani ntchito njira yathu kuti muwonjezere kudzidalira pamene mukuyang'ana pagalasi: sankhani zosachepera zisanu zomwe mumawona zokongola, ndipo ziribe kanthu kuchuluka. Kodi mumakonda mawonekedwe a ana anu a ng'ombe? Kodi ndinu okondwa kuti mwanyamula mapewa? Kukumbukira izi, mumadzidalira nokha ("Chabwino, ngati ndachira pang'ono, koma ndili ndi miyendo yokongola kwambiri") Ndipo mudzamva bwino mumtundu wanu (wamaliseche) thupi lanu.
Tonse tili otanganidwa kwambiri
Pogwirizana ndi maudindo a makolo komanso sabata la ntchito yamaola 48, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kukhalabe ndi ubale wauzimu. Komabe, kafukufuku waposachedwapa wa University of Arizona akutsimikizira kuti chikhumbo cha maanja chimawonjezeka panthawi ya chibwenzi chachikulu. Njira imodzi yomwe mungagwirizanenso ndikutulutsa TV kunja kwa chipinda chogona. Malinga ndi kafukufuku ku Italy, maanja amene alibe TV mu chipinda chogona amapanga chikondi kawiri kawirikawiri. Mmalo mowonera TV, gwiritsani ntchito nthawiyi musanagone kuti muyankhulane wina ndi mzake. Kuonjezerapo, pokambirana, abwenzi ndi okhudzidwa kwambiri, zomwe pamapeto pake zingayambitse kugonana. Yesetsani kangapo pachaka, kwa masiku angapo, kuti mutuluke kwinakwake kuchokera kunyumba, ngakhale ku hotelo mumzinda wanu: pamene tili omasuka ndipo tili ndi nthawi yaulere, tikufuna kugonana kwambiri.
Mwa lingaliro langa, iye sakufuna kuti ...
Ndizodabwitsa, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti anthu amaganiza za kugonana maminiti asanu alionse! Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani zikuwoneka ngati akuyang'ana makalata ake nthawi zonse kapena akuwonera TV m'malo mokunyengerera m'chipinda chogona? Inde, mavuto omwe amagwira ntchito kapena nkhawa za zachuma angakhudze chilakolako chake chogonana. Amuna nthawi zambiri sawadandaula, kotero simungadziwe za mavuto ake, nenani anthu ogonana. Koma ngati mnzako akubisira chinachake kuchokera kwa iwe, mwinamwake ali ndikumverera ndikumverera kutali ndi iwe? Funsani zomwe zimamupweteketsa iye, ndipo yesetsani kuitanitsa momasuka; Kulankhula za zodandaula zake, amvetsetsa kuti sayenera kuthetsa mavuto yekha. Kufotokozera kwina kwa kuchepa kwa libido yake: mwinamwake amakhumudwa kuti mumakana kapena kukana kugonana kwake. Palibe amene akufuna kukanidwa mobwerezabwereza. Patapita kanthawi, amangoyamba kuganiza kuti mulibe chidwi ndi iye, ndipo amasiya kuyendayenda, monga kale. Ngati mnzanu wapereka kugonana, pamene simukufuna, simukuyenera kumutsutsa "ayi". M'malo mwake, yesetsani kuvomereza pa "nthawi ina" ndikuganiziranso kuti zidzakuyenderani bwino (mwachitsanzo, mungathe kudzuka theka la ora kale kuti mutenge "chiwongoladzanja" pansi pa chovala patsogolo pa ntchito).
Ngati izo ziri zoposa kwa kanthawi
Ngati palibe chifukwa chimodzi chomwe chikugwirizanitsa ndi chilakolako chanu chakugonana, mwina yankho lanu likusungidwa mu mankhwala kabati. Mankhwala ambiri amachititsa zotsatira za kugonana, kusintha ma makina m'thupi lanu, madokotala amati. Mwachitsanzo, zina zomwe zimadetsa nkhawa zimaletsa dopamine, mankhwala mu ubongo, kuyendetsa chilakolako ndi chilakolako. Antihistamines ikhoza kuyambitsa mkaka wa mukazi womwe umapangitsa mafuta kugonana. Ndipo pakufufuza kwatsopano, mwa amayi ena, mapiritsi oletsa kubereka akhoza kuchepetsa chilakolako cha kugonana, kuwonjezera kuchuluka kwa mapuloteni omwe amalepheretsa testosterone kupanga.
Chikhumbo chosatha ...
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mankhwala opatsirana pakamwa amachepetsa chilakolako chanu chogonana, kambiranani ndi dokotala wanu: Adzakulangizani njira ina yoberekera. Mwamwayi, simukusowa kusankha pakati pa kugonana kwabwino ndi thanzi labwino. Mmene mankhwala amachitira ndi munthu aliyense, ndipo dokotala angakupatseni njira yothandizira ena popanda zotsatirapo zochepa.