Mfundo yakuti mkazi amakonda makutu, ndi munthu amene ali ndi maso, amadziwika kwa aliyense. Komabe, pali mau omwe angathe "kugona" pabedi aliyense woimira kugonana kwambiri. Mawu ophweka ndi ophweka ngati awa mu filimu: "Bwerani, tidzachita izi monga" kapena "Ndikukusowani kwambiri" - amathandiza m'mafilimu a Hollywood okha. Masiku ano, akatswiri a maganizo amadziwa bwino kuti mtundu uliwonse wa khalidwe umangokhudza magulu ena a mawu ...
Mwamuna aliyense ali ndi mtundu wake wa chiwerewere - momwe angadziwire chomwe chimamukondweretsa iye, akatswiri amati. Amagawaniza anthu onse kukhala mawonetsero, omvera ndi achikondi - malinga ndi njira ziti zomwe zimawonekera ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa iwo. Pali anthu omwe ali ofunikira kwambiri kuposa zomwe adawona ndi maso awo, kuposa zomwe adamva. Kuti "mutenge" munthu woteroyo (ndi njira, amuna ambiri -wonekedwe), muyenera kusonyeza zovala zakuda kapena zithunzi zosangalatsa. Chabwino, ngati izi sizingatheke, ndipo inu, mwachitsanzo, mwaganiza kuti muzitsegula ndi foni, muyenera kulankhula kotero kuti mawu anu asokoneze zithunzi zooneka pamaso panu. Mwachitsanzo: "Ndikugona pabedi lathu lonse, pa ine - nsalu zakuda zokha."
Ngati mumawakonda, ndiye zomwe akumva ndi zofunika kwa iye. Momwemonso - kunyenga pa foni - muyenera kumuuza chinachake monga: "Pali nyimbo zosasamala, ndipo ndikukumbukira mpweya wanu wopuma ..."
Kinestetik amadziwa dziko lonse ndi minofu ndi khungu, misomali ndi tsitsi. Amakumbukira zowawa, kuyenda, amakhudza. Ayenera kunena zinthu monga izi: "Ndimawotcha zovala zansalu, ndi tsitsi lopweteka pamutu pakhosi langa chifukwa cha mphepo yozizira."
Ndi ndani iye, munthu wanu?
Kuti mudziwe njira yeni yeni yeniyeni ndi mtsogoleri wa wokondedwa wanu, ndi chiyanjano chake chogonana, lankhulani naye za kuyenda komwe inu mukukumbukira bwino. Ndipo dziwani nokha mawu omwe akulongosola zomwe akuwona. Kodi akukamba za zithunzi zachilengedwe, kapena za kuimba mbalame (zomveka), kapena amakumbukira momwe mudayendera, ndipo adagwirana dzanja lanu (zakuthupi). Kotero inu mukhoza kupeza chomwe chimamukondweretsa iye.
Ikani nangula
Mawu ena kapena zochita zingakhale kwa munthu wokondedwa wanu wotchedwa "nangula". Ndiye zidzakhala zokwanira kunena mawu awa, kuti achitepo kanthu, kuti abweretse tsatanetsatane wa momwe zinthu zilili, momwe chikhumbo chake chidzakhalire. Tangoganizani, pamene adayamba kuvomereza kwa inu chikondi, kununkhiza kwa malala omwe anali atangoyamba kumene, ndipo kununkhiza kwatsopano kunali kosatha "kukumbatirana" m'maganizo mwake ndi zochitika zogonana kwambiri. Kapena wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse amakondwera pamene mumamunong'oneza mawu ena - omwe adamugwedeza kwambiri. Ndipo tsopano, atangomva, sangathe kudziletsa yekha.
Pa zochitika zina (pamutu uwu - kukhudza kwa manja ndi chiganizo china), munthuyo nthawi yomweyo amapereka zotsatira zomaliza, zomwe akuzoloŵera.
Anthu ambiri samakayikira ngakhale kuti ali ndi "nangula", mpaka itatha. Mwachitsanzo, mayi wina adadzuka mwamsanga pamene mwamuna wake anamunong'oneza pang'onopang'ono, ali kumbuyo kwake. Koma kuyambira nthawi ina iye anaimitsa, ndipo anayamba kale kudandaula za mutuwo: "Iye sakundikhutitsa ine." Atatha mwezi umodzi, adamuuza kuti: "Simunena mawu achifundo kwa ine." Mwamuna wanga adadabwa ndikumukumbutsa kuti tsopano, monga dzulo ... Inde, ndinanena, koma panalibe zotsatira. Ndipo pokhapokha banjali lingadziwe kuti mwamuna ameta ndevu zake, ndipo tsitsi lake silinayambitsenso khungu lotupa pamutu mwa mkazi wake. Nangula, yomwe inamuukitsa mwamsanga mkaziyo, inachotsedwa. Ndinayenera kukulira munthu pankhope ndikuyankhula mau atatu achikondi - kubwerera.
Langizo: onetsetsani momwe mnzanuyo amachitira ndi mawu ndi zochitika zina. Mwinamwake, mawu ena kapena mau, kupuma kapena kuchita ndizo zomangirira kwambiri, zomwe zimathandiza kuti pakhale mphulupulu.
Sindikizani Kwamuyaya
Kotero, anthu onse akuyenera "kumangirira" mosasamala kanthu za mtundu wawo wa kugonana - momwe mungapezere zomwe zimakondweretsa, mukudziwa kale. Tsopano ponena za "kukonza" zotsatira zoyenera. Nangula ikhoza kuwonekera pokhapokha, ndipo ikhoza "kuperekedwa" mwachindunji. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kuchita zinthu zingapo:
• kumbukirani zomwe mwamunayo amakukondani kwambiri;
• kulenga izi kapena zochitika;
• Sankhani mawu kapena zochita zowala, zonunkhira kapena zithunzi zooneka zomwe zidzakhazikika;
• Pangani chikondi kuti nangula wanu wosankhidwa ukhale pamtambo wowala kwambiri wa zochitika zake. Mwachitsanzo, amuna ena amawakonda akamayambanso misomali yawo kumbuyo. Yesani pa nthawi yovuta kwambiri ya kugonana kwanu, onetsani makola anu kumbuyo kwake ndi kunena mawu ena. Ngakhale ngati sizovuta kwambiri. Koma, ndithudi, si "fosholo", koma chinachake monga "wokondedwa".
• Bwerezani izi kangapo kuti mupange "kutanthauzira" (mawu akuti Chingerezi "imprinting") mu chikumbumtima chake.
Ndiye mukhoza kugwiritsa ntchito nangula mu moyo wanu wa tsiku ndi tsiku. "Wokondedwa, tiyeni tipite kwa amayi anga kumapeto kwa sabata," - ndi msomali kupyolera mu malaya. Ndipo ili ndilo liwu lomwelo mu khutu lanu. Amakumbukira nthawi yomweyo malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana, ndipo mwayi wovomerezeka kupita kwa amayi anu pa ulendo mudzapeza zambiri.
Yesani kuti musakhale ndi anchors oipa. Kuchitira mwano kudzudzula kapena kuvomereza chiwembu kungakhale kosavuta. Ndipo kukana chilakolako chilichonse osati kugona limodzi, komanso kukhala pamodzi.
Chingwe chachitsulo
Munthu wachikondi amakukhulupirirani mopanda malire, ngati mwana wa mayi. Ndipo mawu anu onse amatenga kwenikweni. Zingakhale zabwino ngati sizinthu za chikhalidwe cha mkazi. Mwachitsanzo, mukuyang'ana pagalasi ndikumuuza kuti: "O, ndakhala ndi mafuta!" Mukuyembekezera kuti wokondedwayo ayamba kukana kapena kutonthoza: "Wokondedwa, ndikukonda iwe ndi moyo wanga wonse." Iye akunena izi kwa nthawi yoyamba, ndiye yachiwiri, ndiye chachitatu. Timakonda "kumupempha" kuti ayamikike, ndipo iye ... ayamba kutenga mawu athu. Kotero ngakhale mutakhala ndi makilogalamu 46 wolemera ndi kutalika kwa masentimita 176, iye adzayamba kuganiza kuti ndinu "mafuta" ngati mumabwereza izi nthawi zambiri.
Langizo: kwa makwinya ndi msinkhu, mawonekedwe ndi tsitsi, kudandaula kokha kwa abwenzi kapena amayi. Wokondedwa ayenera kugonjera zophophonya zake ngati zinthu zabwino zochepa. Mwachitsanzo, "Ndili ndi bulu wambiri," osati "matanthwe". Ndipo "mkazi ayenera kukhala statuette" ngati mukuvutika kuti mulemere. "Maso mwanga mukukhazikika nzeru" - mukakopeka kudandaula za makwinya omwe akuzungulira maso. Mu zolephera zonse munthu akhoza kupeza ubwino ndi kuwabweretsera fomu yolondola.