Kuyang'ana mozungulira wosankhidwayo, timapeza zolinga zake. Ndipo ngati zimatipangitsa ife kukhala osamala komanso osakonda - ndi bwino kuyembekezera ndi ubwenzi wapafupi. Koma zimakhala zovuta kunena kuti munthu akhoza kuchita chiyani popanda kugonana. Kuchokera kuchipatala, chilengedwe chimapanga njira zambiri zopulumutsira munthu kuti asavutike, kotero kukhumudwa "Iwe ndiwe wachiwerewere ... Ndili nazo zonse pamenepo, tiyeni tigone naye!" - izi zimangokhala zokhumudwitsa. Ndipo zina zonse ndi psychology, chikhalidwe ndi unyinji wa osatsimikizika. Tiyeni tiyesere kuneneratu, kutembenuza kusatsimikizika mukumvetsetsa ndi kosavuta?
"Ndine wokongola kwambiri ..."
Pali gulu lonse la amayi a "notebook" omwe ali ofunika pa masewerawa ndi kupambana kwina. Choncho, ubale wopanda kugonana ndi "tipchikami" wotere ukhoza kukhala nthawi yayitali kapena yochepa kwambiri. Ndi zochuluka bwanji zomwe munthu angachite popanda kugonana? Mwamuna wotereyo akhoza "kumangirira" mayi onse sabata ndi chaka chifukwa cha dzina limodzi mu "mbiri yake". Khalani okonzeka pasadakhale chifukwa chakuti mpaka mutagwirizana kuti mukhale pachibwenzi, mudzakhala osakayika "kutsata".
Amaitana kamodzi pa sabata kapena osachepera, mwinamwake kamodzi pa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi (ndipo mwadzidzidzi chinachake chasintha, tsopano muli mfulu kapena mumangokhalira "kukangana", kukangana ndi chibwenzi ndipo mutha "kutonthoza") - zonsezi ndizomwe munthu amavomereza.
Mwinanso adzakufunirani zambiri pa nthawi yochepa. Ndipo mwinamwake - izo zidzakhala zokongola, koma osati kwautali ndipo mwinamwake nayonso "muyezo" woti muwasamalire. Ngati simukudziwa kale izi, kapena mutalowa mu chiyanjano ndi amuna a pragmatic, mumakonda "whirlpool" iyi. Koma chimwemwe ichi chidzakhalapo malinga ngati milomo yanu sinathetse matsenga "inde" ...
Blasp Nokha
Nthawi zina ndizofunika kukhalabe namwali musanakwatirane chifukwa cha zikhulupiliro. Inde, tsopano zikuwoneka ngati anachronism, relic yammbuyo. Komabe, m'mabanja ena, kudzikuza ndi chiyero ndizofunikirabe. Ndipo ubale ndi wofunika ... Ndipo atsikanawo akudzifunsa momwe munthu angathere popanda kugonana, kodi osankhidwa awo angayesere mayeso otere?
Malinga ndi zomwe zinachitikira, maanja amasiyana kapena amapitiliza maubwenzi mosasamala kanthu kuti pali kugonana pakati pawo, kapena ayi. Mwinamwake zili ngati nkhani ya chikondi kwa atsikana ang'onoang'ono, komabe ngati wosankhidwayo akuyamikira maganizo ndi zikhulupiliro za mtsikanayo, sangamukakamize kugonana kapena kuikapo zizindikiro.
Musachedwe, koma musachedwe
Kuyesera "kukulitsa" ubale pa lonjezo la kugonana, akuyenera kuti alepherapo. Palibe amene angadziwitse momwe munthu angachitire popanda kugonana, wokhutira ndi zing'onozing'ono (kumpsompsona, kukumbatirana, mwinamwake ngakhale kupusitsa). Koma tikhoza kunena mosakayika kuti simungathe kumusunga munthu pazochita zogonana. Mukusowa ndikukhala okondweretsa, ndikutha kukondweretsa, ndipo mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi interlocutor.
Chifukwa chake ndizosatheka "kuchepetsa" nthawi ya chibwenzi, ngati muli okonzeka mkati. Ndipo monyodola, akuyaka ndi chilakolako, akudzichotsa yekha "Kupsompsona kwotsatira - ayi-ayi!".
Komanso, ndi zopusa kukhulupirira kuti mungakhale osangalatsa kokha ndi kugonana. Ngati munthu adangokonzekera "kugona ndi kuiwala", komabe akumanga maubwenzi - ndizomveka kuti asafalikire pamaso pake. Ngati simunakhalebe ndi chidaliro mwa mwamuna, mulibe malingaliro awo omwe, makamaka, amakakamiza mwamuna ndi mkazi kumalo ena. Ndipo ngati simungathe kuwona wokondedwa mwa osankhidwa, ndiye kuti mukhale oona mtima ndi inu nokha.
Mwinamwake, munthu ameneyu monga wokondedwa, kuti aziyike mofatsa, sakukulimbikitsani. Koma amasamala, amasamala, amapereka mphatso ndi maloto a moyo wamba! Ndipo atsikana aang'ono, komanso amayi apamwamba, posankha pakati pa kukhazikika ndi kugonana, nthawi zambiri amasiya poyamba. Ndipo yachiwiri idzachitika mwanjira ina!
Dziwani kuti simungadzidalire nokha kapena kuti mutha kukhala ndi chidziwitso chokwanira (kuti muthamangire kapena mwakupeza mutha kugonana mozama komanso kugonana), ndibwino kuti munthu asadziwe. Ndipo ngati mutakhala naye payekha ngati mnzanu wodalirika amene ali ngati "khoma lamwala," khalani anzeru ndipo musayang'ane kuchuluka kwa momwe munthu angachitire popanda kugonana. Kapena osapanga malingaliro omwe tsiku lina mumamuwombera ndi chikhumbo ...
Palibe malamulo!
Kotero, muli ndi mnyamata kapena mwamuna yemwe alibe chidwi ndi inu pa chifukwa chilichonse. Choncho, posachedwa zidzakwaniritsidwa - ndipo mukufuna kudziyang'anira nokha, kuti nthawi yothetsa chibwenzi ifike - komanso sanawononge ubalewo.
Chidziwitso cha mkazi ndicho chomwe chingakuuzeni "nthawi." Ndipo nthano zokhudzana ndi tsiku loyambirira (lomwe-ayi-ayi!) Kapena lachitatu (ngati silo tsopano - ayi!) - awa ndi nthano chabe. Kuchokera kuchipatala, munthu akhoza kuchita popanda kugonana monga momwe amachitira. Choncho, ganizirani nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti musakhale ndi kugonana, ndipo padzakhala-mkazi yekhayo.