Ubale umene ulipo asanakwatirane, nthawi zonse umakhala womveka bwino, wodzaza ndi chikondi. Panthawi yomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro oterewa, theka la magawo awiri amasonyezana bwino kwambiri pa umunthu wawo, pochita zinthu zomwe zingayamikiridwe kupyolera mwa wokondedwayo. Koma pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, osawona konse zolakwa, khalidwe ndi khalidwe. Ndipo ngati pali zolakwika zomwe zakhala zikuzindikiridwa, ndiye kuti akuyesera kufanana ndi mwana wamng'ono. Koma, chirichonse chimene anganene, ndi zolephera izi za Ishsyan, m'tsogolomu, pambuyo paukwati, adzayeneranso kuyanjanitsidwa.
Chofunika koposa, mu ubale, ndikofunika kusindikiza osati ubwino ndi zovuta zokha, koma maganizo anu pazinthu zonse, kukhutura, ulemu, amalingaliridwa ndi maganizo anu. Kukhalira mbali, mbali ndi mbali, zolephera ndi makhalidwe osayenera a khalidweli ndi zomveka kwambiri. Ndipo zinthu zabwinozi zimasintha pang'onopang'ono, ndipo pamapeto pake, simukuzindikira.
Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti okondedwa saganizira ndi mitu yawo, koma ndi "mtima". Ndipo zonse chifukwa malingaliro ndi mtima zimaphimba malingaliro ndi bulangeti, ndikukupangitsani kuyang'ana pa dziko lonse mosiyana. Koma, tiyeneranso kukumbukira kuti chikondi chimakhala ndi zinthu zabwino. Chowonadi ndichoti ngati icho chiri chokwanira mokwanira, icho chidzakhala maziko a kutuluka kwa kumverera kwakukulu ndi kolimba, chikondi chenicheni, chifukwa chimene iwe ungakhoze kupyolamo ndi kukhala ndi mavuto alionse mu moyo.
Pali lingaliro lolakwika kuti munthu, yemwe ali wabwino, amakufunda ndi okondwera kwa iwe, adzakhaladi wotetezeka kwambiri pa satelesi. Zimakhalanso kuti pamene anthu awiri akulimbikitsana, akuyang'ana mofanana pa zinthu, ali ndi makhalidwe ena omwe ali ofanana. Pambuyo pa nthawi inayake iwo amasewera ukwati, amamanga banja limodzi, komabe zonse zimakhala zophweka. Chifukwa chake, anthu amasiyana kwambiri, ndipo zimakhala zovuta kukhala pamodzi. Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti palibe njira yowakhalira banja losangalala, mosasamala kanthu momwe mukuyesera, uzimu uyenera kukhala wofanana.
Ndizofala kuti tikhale ndi khalidwe ngati "miyoyo yokhudzana". Mawu awa anawonekera pa chifukwa. Pali anthu omwe adakondanabe. Iwo anatha kugawana zinthu zauzimu, malingaliro, ndipo kotero adatha kumanga moyo wa banja losangalala. Ubale wapamtima ndi umodzi wa mfundo zazikulu zomwe zingakhale chikole cha banja lolimba komanso banja losangalala.
Potsirizira pake, tsiku laukwati wanu lafika, okondwa, maso anu akuwala ndi chimwemwe, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti dziko lonse likukondwera nanu. Nthawi yoyamba, pambuyo pa mwambo waukwati, chirichonse chidzapitirira pa msinkhu umodzi, chikondi, chisangalalo chopanda malire, moyo watsopano ndi wokondedwa. Koma, patapita kanthawi, chirichonse chimayamba kusintha, mwatseka kale mbali zolakwika za khalidwe lanu. Pambuyo pake, ukwatiwo watha, ndipo simukusowa wachikondi wanu. Koma ichi ndi kulakwitsa kwakukulu, theka lachiwiri la mfiti ayenera kulandira monga momwe iye alili.
Panjira yosiyana kwambiri imasonyeza moyo wokhudzana ndi banja la ubale wa anthu wina ndi mzake. Ndipo, ndithudi, chifukwa cha chikhalidwe chokwanira cha moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, palibe nthawi yoti azikondana. Mkhalidwe watsopano wa maubwenzi umatanthawuza kukhalapo kwa kumvetsetsa, kulemekezana wina ndi mzake, kukhoza kuvomereza munthu monga momwe aliri. Pambuyo pake, chikondi chimachoka, maganizo enieni amakhalabe kwamuyaya.