Tisanayambe kukhazikitsa banja ndi kulemba zikalata zaukwati, sitingavutike kuwerenga ndi kulemba mafotokozedwe momveka bwino momwe tingagwiritsire ntchito wina ndi mzake kuti tisawawononge panthawi yogwiritsira ntchito. Ndipo bwino kwambiri musanapite ku ofesi yolembera kuti mukaphunzire ndikupeza diploma, kutsimikizira kuti tapambana bwino maganizo a maubwenzi a banja ndipo ndife okonzeka kukwatira. Chifukwa chiyani kumanga nyumba, kupanga ndege ndi kuyendetsa galimoto popanda "kutumphuka" sikungatheke, koma kumanga banja, kukonza maubwenzi ndi kuthetsa tsogolo la munthu wina - mungathe? Kodi izi sizowonjezera? Ayi! M'malo mwake, ubale wosalongosoka m'banja lomwe pamapeto pake umakhala tsoka losasinthika kwa anthu onse. Koma kodi anthu amasamala za izi? Kawirikawiri, ayi! Komabe, banja lirilonse lingadzisamalire lokha.
Kudandaula ndi kutsutsidwa komwe kumakhala kukondana wina ndi mzake - chifukwa cha njira yosautsika ya "mnyamata wachinyamata." Zotsatira zake, kwa zaka zambiri zowonjezereka, kusamvetsetsana, ndi kusamvetsetsana, pali vuto la maubwenzi omwe banja likuphulika pazigawo. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, amuna nthawi zambiri samatsutsa kutentha kwa chilakolako. Psycheche yawo imakhala yosagonjetsedwa ndi mkangano ndipo sizimayesetsa kufotokoza ubale wawo. Choncho, khomo kumbali ina ya banja limatseka kawirikawiri kumbuyo kwawo. Kaya amapita kwa abambo awo, kwa abwenzi awo, kwa amayi awo, kapena kungozembera mabala awo kwinakwake kumalo osalowerera ndale, tikhoza kungoganiza. Kuti tipeze chifukwa chake-chifukwa-bwanji-iwo amatha, timathamangira ku maofesi, kwa atsikana-abwenzi, kwa makolo. Koma mwinamwake tiyenera kufunsa amuna enieni chifukwa chake amatitaya tikamawakonda?
Akupita kapena amatenga "nthawi"?
"Sikuti nthawi zonse pambuyo pa kuchoka kwa mwamuna kuti chisudzulo chimatsatira, osati munthu nthawi zonse, kutenga minofu, masokiti ndi zipinda zochokera kunyumba, akukonzekera kuika chikondi chake mu sutikesi. Azimayiwa amasakaniza mfundo ziwiri zosiyana: "mwamuna amachoka" ndipo "mwamuna amatenga nthawi"! - anafotokoza momveka bwino, amuna othawa. Mwamuna amawona vutoli mosiyana ndi la mkazi, ndipo amawona muzu. Ngati mwamuna achoka m'banja, amachoka osati kwa mayiyo, koma kuchokera ku boma lomwe limamverera moyandikira. Amasintha chikhalidwe chimodzi pafupi ndi mkazi wina, dziko lina pafupi ndi lina. Mwamuna amasuntha ndi masutukasi pokhapokha kumalo otonthoza kumene amamva kuti ali wolimba, wodalirika, wosamala, wopambana, wachikondi komanso wokondedwa. "Kutuluka kunja" n'kofunikira kuti munthu amvetsetse yekha komanso ubale umene wapuma. Iye anangosiya kumverera pafupi ndi wokondedwa wake boma limene iye analenga banja limodzi naye. Kutaya koteroko kuli ndi mitundu iwiri ya chitukuko cha zochitika: kuchoka kwamuyaya ndi kusiya "pause", pambuyo pake kuzungulira kwatsopano kwa ubale wa banja kungayambe. Chochitika chomwe chikuchitika chimadalira makamaka pazimayi. Ngati azindikira kuchoka kwake kapena kupatukana (mwakuthupi, auzimu) ngati kudzudzula, kusudzulana sikungapewe. Sungani munthu wokondedwa wanu kuti angobwereranso kwa iye chikhalidwe ndi chitonthozo chauzimu, chimene iye, popatsidwa, monga mankhwala, sangathe kubwerera.
10 patsogolo pa chisamaliro cha munthu wokondedwa
Gawo 1. Tengani munthu kuti ndi ndani. Mwamuna si chinthu, ndipo wina sayenera kumuchitira zinthu mosamala: "Sindimakonda! Sinthani kavalidwe, keke kapena kukonza. Mwamuna akhoza kulimbikitsidwa kokha mwa njira iliyonse yopezera chitukuko, pogwiritsira ntchito pazifukwa zake zosapindulitsa. Kudzudzulidwa ndi kuyang'ana zolephera - osati zinthu zabwino zowonetsera mwamuna wake mu chithunzi ndi momwe alili. Ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, musaiwale kumutamanda ndi kumuthokoza nthawi zonse pamene akuyenera!
Gawo 2. Muzidzikonda nokha kuposa munthu. Mzimayi yemwe adadzipereka yekha kwa mwamuna ndipo anaiwala za ubwamuna wake, posakhalitsa amamukondweretsa mwamuna wake. Palibe yemwe akupempha nsembe pa guwa lachikondi, choncho ndi zachilendo kunena munthu, kuti wasiya kukonda mkazi yemwe wadziyesa yekha (mwazonse). Anayamba kukondana ndi iye yemwe anafulumira mpaka tsiku lake, sanaiwale kuti adzalankhula milomo yake, adamuchitira nsanje khamu la anthu ogwira ntchito yomenyera nkhondo komanso amadziwa kusiyanitsa mwamuna wamphongo. Kodi mkazi amadzipiritsa mtengo wotani, munthu woteroyo amalipira!
Gawo 3. Muzikonda kugonana ndi mwamuna wanu. Kugonana ndi chimodzi mwa "anchos" zazikulu zomwe zimamusunga mwamuna pafupi ndi mkazi. "Zachilengedwe" muukwati sayenera kukhala yachiwiri. Zikhale bwino kuti borscht sichikhala chokoma, kuposa kuti padzakhala "zopanda pake" zogonana kapena sizidzakhalanso. Mwamuna wa Borscht sangathe kupita kwa mayi wina, koma kugonana ... Mulole moyo wa banja ukhalebe wokondana: "lumbira, pita mtendere, koma ugone pansi palimodzi!" Ndipo lolani kuti nthawi zonse zizikhala osati zokonzedweratu komanso kugonana kokha.
Gawo 4. Lankhulani ndi mwamuna. Mabanja omwe anthu amalankhula mosapita m'mbali za chikondi, mavuto, maubwenzi, sangawonongeke. Inde, mkazi amafunika kulankhula zambiri kuposa munthu. Choncho, ubwino wokhala ndi machitidwe achiyanjano omwe mavuto ake sali okhudzidwa, ali mwa iye. Pali malamulo a golidi, zomwe zidzakambitsirana zokambirana. Mwamuna ayenera kuyamba kudyetsedwa, kupatsidwa mpumulo ndikuyamba kukambirana momveka bwino kapena mopambanitsa. Ndipo komabe, akatswiri a maganizo amaletsa kuyankhulana ndi mawu akuti: "Wokondedwa, tifunika kuyankhula!"
Gawo 5. Zodabwitsa, zodabwitsa, zimalimbikitsa munthuyo. Chikondi chimamwalira pamene okwatirana amamasuka ndikusiya kugonjetsa wina ndi mzake, funani chiyanjano ndi kulimbikitsa chikondi. Kuphatikizapo wamng'ono, koma zovuta zofunikira mu ubale, monga kumpsompsonana polekanitsa, masamu achikondi, kuyitana popanda chifukwa, zosangalatsa zazing'ono, zodetsa nkhawa, mkazi amakhala chizoloŵezi. Kulingalira ndilo sitepe yoyamba yokhala wolimba muukwati. Ndi zophweka kwambiri kutayika chikondi cha munthu mumanyalanyaza mosadziwika, chomwe chosamvetsetsa kwa onse chidzakhala chosayanjanitsika.
Gawo 6. Musakhale munthu bwenzi. "Osangokhala anzanga ndi ine! Icho chimapha mkazi mwa ine "- wina wanena momveka bwino zotsatira za ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Muukwati, makamaka umene wakhalapo kwa zaka zambiri, ubwenzi umakhala m'malo mwa chilakolako. Inde, ndi zabwino! Koma ndizoipa ngati zimagonjetsa chikondi ndi kugonana pakati pa okwatirana. Mu banja lotero, mkazi amakhala mnzako wachikondi, wachifundo, wachifuwa kwa mwamuna wake. Ndi bwenzi mukhoza kumwa mowa musanayambe kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, musamve chisoni ndi matemberero a nthano zitatu za moyo, mudzilole kuti musameta komanso kuti musapereke maluwa. Kodi izi zikuvomerezeka mu ubale ndi mkazi amene amamukonda?
Gawo 7. Khalani chithandizo chodalirika ndi chodalirika kwa amuna. Ngati mkazi aliyense atalota mwamuna yemwe, pambuyo pake, ngati khoma lamwala, ndiye munthu aliyense adzapereka hafu ya ufumu kwa mkazi yemwe adzakhale wake wodalirika kumbuyo. "Mwachisoni, ndi mu chisangalalo, mu chuma ndi umphaŵi!" - izi siziri mawu okha a lumbiro laukwati. Mwamuna akufuna kutsimikiza kuti wokondedwa sali naye chifukwa cha kupambana kwake, kutchuka kapena ndalama, koma chifukwa cha iyemwini. Ndikofunika kuti amvetsetse kuti ngakhale dziko lonse likutsutsana naye, mkazi wake nthawizonse amayima kumbuyo kwake, ndipo mofatsa apereke makhadi.
Gawo 8. Musachite mantha kumenyana ndi munthu. Ziribe kanthu momwe zikumveka zosayembekezereka, banja limene mulibe mikangano lidzawonongeka. Ngati okwatirana sakupeza mgwirizano, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuyang'ana "pulse" ya banja ngatilo, mwinamwake wamwalira kale? Nthawi zina amuna amadzimvera chisoni kuti awonetsetse - pali malingaliro ndipo ali enieni. Banja limakhala mpata womvetsetsana wina ndi mzake, kufotokoza ululu wawo ndikufotokoza zomwe sizinali zoonekeratu. Kangana ndi mwamuna yemwe mungathe komanso muyenera! Chinthu chachikulu sikutengeka ndi mkwiyo wokwiya, koma mumtendere kukhazikitsa bwalo pamsonkhano wa banja, umene umaletsa kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "nthawizonse" ndi "nthawizonse" pakutsutsana.
Khwerero 9. Kukhala ndi mwamuna nthawi zonse kumasiyana. Kuti akhale wotchuka, mkazi ayenera kukhala wosiyana mosiyana. Ndiye anati Coco Chanel wotchuka wa mafashoni, ndipo mawu ake sanatanthauze mafanizo ndi zovala za mkazi. Mu chiyanjano ndi munthu, lamuloli limagwiranso ntchito mosalekeza. Mkaziyo adzakhala wosasunthika, zomwe nthawizonse sizidzakhala zosadziwika komanso zodabwitsa kwa mwamuna. Mkazi ayenera kukhala ndi zida zowonongeka zomwe zimapangitsa mwamuna wake kukhala wabwino. Zingakhale msungwana wamng'ono amene mukufuna kumusamalira, ndi mwana wamkazi wovuta, yemwe ali ndi caprices amene mumamufuna, ndi mthandizi wogwira ntchito, pafupi ndi nthawi yomwe amakhala wokondweretsa komanso wokhutiritsa, ndi wokondedwa wokonda, yemwe - ngakhale kumwamba, mpaka ku gehena. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti musamangidwe mu fano limodzi.
Gawo 10. Sungani malo. Ntchito za m'banja zinagawidwa ndi anthu achikunja amene amasonyeza kuti adatenga nyamayi kupita kunyumba, ndipo ndani amene ankasungira malowa ndi kuphika cutlets, kabichi ndi jellied nyama. Kuchokera nthawi imeneyo, madzi ambiri atha ndipo mitundu yambiri ya anthu yasintha, koma dongosolo la banja, kumene mwamunayu ndi wolemba, ndipo mkazi, woyang'anira "malo" - wakhalabe chikhalidwe chofunikira. Kupanga chisangalalo mnyumbamo, mkaziyo amakhudzidwa mwachidwi ndi nzeru zachibadwa zakale zamwamuna. Kuti asachitike kuntchito yake, m'dziko kapena ngakhale kumanzere "kumanzere" komwe kwawonekera m'nthaŵi, mwamuna adzatengedwera ku nyumbayo kumene ukhondo, dongosolo ndi chitonthozo chidzalamulire, pomwe pali fungo lokongola la ma pies komanso komwe kumakhala chikondi chokhazikika komanso chosakhazikika.