Kuwidwa mtima, zifukwa, maubwenzi owonongeka - ndizo zomwe mungathe kuchita poyankha wolungama, zikuwoneka, kuyankha. Koma kodi mungathe kufotokozera moona mtima malingaliro anu ndi maganizo anu pazochitikazo ndipo nthawi imodzimodziyo mukhalebe paubwenzi wabwino ndi ena? Tiyeni tiyese!
Miyezo yachiwiri
Nthawi yomweyo tidzatsimikizira kuti si funso la choonadi monga choncho, osati za choonadi, koma ndi zomwe zikuwoneka bwino komanso mwachilungamo.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti nthawi zonse tikasankha kuuza munthu choonadi, tikutsatira zolinga ziwiri. Woyamba, kunja - kuti apeze mgwirizano. Wachiwiri, mkati - amatsutsa maganizo awo: maganizo, malingaliro, maganizo. Ndipo izi ndi zolinga zobisika, zomwe zowunikiridwa zathu, monga lamulo, ndipo sizikuganiza, zimatipangitsa ife kukhala osagwirizana kwambiri ndi mawu.
Lamulo loyamba la "wofufuza choonadi": musananene chilichonse muukwati, ganizirani ngati mutasintha mutu wanu nokha, m'malo mofotokozera mavuto a interlocutor.
Mwachitsanzo, mumanyoza mnzanu kuti amachita zinthu mosamveka, ndikupsompsona pamaso pa aliyense ndi bwenzi lake. Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti mumamuchitira nsanje, ndipo mukakhala naye pamalo osangalatsa? Pankhani iyi, simungamvetsetse wina ndi mzake ndikugwirizana ...
Mu mbiya iliyonse ...
Lamulo lotsatila ndi lofunika kwambiri kwa iwo omwe akufuna (amakhulupirira kuti, mwa zolinga zabwino) kuwonetsa, mofulumira, kuthandizira aliyense mosasankha.
Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zambiri mumapeza kuti munthu akuwoneka kuti akunena zonse bwino, koma popeza sakudziwa zinthu zonse zomwe zikuchitika, mawu ake amveka osamveka ndipo nthawi yomweyo amachititsa manyazi - machitidwe owonongeka amawoneka osayenerera?
Mukafuna kufotokoza malingaliro anu, dzifunseni nokha: kodi mumakhudzidwa ndi mavuto a anthu ena, mukudziwa chiyambi chonse cha mkhalidwe uno.
Nthawi zonse tengani mzere pakati pa zochitika zanu komanso za anthu ena ndi maubwenzi: simuyenera kupita kumene simunapemphe, ndiye kuti simungathe kukhumudwa, ndipo simungakhumudwitse aliyense.
Mfundo zovuta
Kodi mukudziwa zomwe zimapweteka kwambiri anthu? Osati omwe amapereka kuunika kwa khalidwe kapena khalidwe la munthu, koma zomwe zimakhudzana ndi umunthu wake. Sizomwe zilizonse zomwe akatswiri a zamaganizo amauza makolo, kupereka ndemanga kwa ana, kukamba za khalidwe loipa, osati za mwana mwiniwake. "Iwe sunachite bwino" mmalo mwa "Wopusa (wopusa, dunce)."
N'chimodzimodzinso ndi akuluakulu. Ngati mumalankhula zowona popanda kudzipangitsa kudzidalira, simungamuike pamnyozo pamene sakudziwa, kudzilungamitsa yekha, kudzitetezera kapena kuukira.
Yesetsani kuyambitsa zokambiranazo kuti wothandizana nawo amve: muli wokonzeka kuyesa zolinga zake zabwino, pamodzi ndi iye amene mumadandaula kuti zotsatira zake zinali zovuta.
Mawu enieni a mawu okhumudwitsa - maubwenzi owonongeka angathe kuikidwa ngati nthabwala (koma osati kunyozetsa kunyoza!). Mothandizidwa ndi nthabwala inu mosavuta ndi mwachifundo kutsindika zolakwika za zomwe zinachitika, kuthandizani munthu kuseketsa ndi kutenga zotsatira.
Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kulemekeza maganizo a ena ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa zolinga zawo. Ndipo mwinamwake "choonadi chanu" sichidzakhumudwitsa aliyense.
Kawirikawiri anthu amanama ndikukwiyitsa ndi mawu okhumudwitsa - kuwononga maubwenzi, pamene akulakwitsa, amachita manyazi ndi zina mwazochita zawo, koma sakudziwa momwe angakonzere. Ngakhale amvetsetsa kuti chinyengo chawo ndi chowoneka, sangathe kuima, chifukwa mwa njira yachilendo amayesa kukhalanso ndi chikhulupiliro cha ena.
Chirichonse sichinali chopanda pake ...
Nthawi zina simukudziwa, khalani chete kapena kulankhula. Mwachitsanzo, phwandolo lisanayambe, bwenzi lanu limakuwonetsani kavalidwe katsopano. Mukuwona kuti izo sizikugwirizana naye konse. Ndiyenera kumuuza za izi? Koma palibe chovala china ... Ngati akukhulupirirani, adzakhumudwa, ndipo madzulo onse adzamva kuti ndi wonyansa. Kodi ndi zomwe munkafuna? Ndipo bwanji osamuthandiza kukatenga zipangizo zomwe zimabisala zolakwa? "Ndi chofiira ichi, iwe sungatheke!" Kotero inu mumuthandiza kwenikweni bwenzi.