Kulimbana ndi Ubwana
Choyamba tiyenera kumvetsetsa: ndichifukwa chiyani ife sitikusowa lero kuti tikukumana ndi wokondedwa weniweni ndi wamphamvu?
Kutembenukira ku ziwerengero, mungathe kuona: zaka zingapo zapitazo, maziko a banja adasinthika. Ngati agogo ndi agogo akuvutika kuti apange gulu lolimba komanso losatha, ndiye kuti patapita kanthawi, chizoloŵezichi chinayamba kuchepetsa zizindikiro. Azimayi anadzimasula okha pofuna kukhala odziimira okhaokha, kuti azikhala odziimira okhaokha, atakhala ndi maudindo ena, adatenga maudindo atsopano ndipo adadzikuzadi ndi zomwe adazichita. Ufulu wa amayi unawopsyeza kudzidalira kwa amuna - iwo adasiya kudzimva okha akutsutsana nawo. Ena ankakonda kuchoka kwa munthu wamphamvu, pofuna kupeŵa kupanikizika pamutu mwa zilakolako zawo. Ndipo ife tinalandira chiyani mmbuyo?
Amayi ambiri olimba omwe ali ndi ana m'manja, opanda a pabanja, koma anthu osauka chifukwa cha kusungulumwa ...
Tsopano tiyeni tiganizire-kodi ndi munthu wotani amene angabweretse ntchito yake? Mkazi wopanda mwamuna, wopanda manja amphamvu, wopanda chithandizo ...
Mwinamwake, pano pali mbewu za kumera kwa amuna omwe analeredwa ndi chikondi cha amayi ndi chilimbikitso (zomwe sizingapeweke, chifukwa amayi onse amadzimvera mlandu pamaso pa mwana wake kuti amakula popanda bambo ake, ngakhale kuti chisonicho chinali chobisala pansi pa chigoba cha mkazi wamalonda). Mnyamata wotero sanamuonepo chitsanzo chabwino cha mwamuna woyenera, asanakwanitse kuyang'ana akazi omwe, atachoka kuntchito, adakali kuphika chakudya ndi kusamba zovala, ngakhale kuti iwo amatha kukhala nawo. Maphunziro a amayi amatha kukhala achimuna, koma choipa kwambiri - mwanayo amayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu za kugonana kofooka ndipo amamva ngakhale wofooka.
Inde, mwayi wosankha mwana wamwamuna m'banja ngati umenewu ukhoza kuyenda pamtunda wina - ndipo mwamunayo, pozindikira kuti ali ndi mphamvu yogonana, ayamba kusokoneza ufulu wa banja lake. Koma mnyamata woteroyo akhoza kukula wolakwika wosokonezeka yemwe nthawi zonse amapezanso dzina lake "wothandizira".
Momwe mungazindikire izo?
Sikofunikira kuganizira kuti mwamuna wazimayi akhoza kuchotsedwa ndi "radar" yanu mu mawonekedwe amodzi - mwachitsanzo, mawonekedwe ake apa ndi opanda ntchito. Mudzawona ukazi wokha poyankhula ndi munthu uyu. Munthu wotereyo ndi wovuta kwambiri kuposa ena onse. Nthawi zina, mukamakangana nanu, sangalalitse (ndipo mwinamwake osasunga) misozi, sizingatheke kuwonetsa manja ake ndikupempha kuti mumukhululukire ngakhale zomwe sanachite.
Amuna amenewa nthawi zambiri amakhala okoma mtima, nthawi zonse amapereka malaya awo, kutsegula chitseko ku lesitilanti, kuthandiza atuluke m'galimoto. Zisonyezero zaunyamata wachinyamata, olemekezeka ngakhale pamene akuchita zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku. Pridyak akuchezerani inu, atatha kudya, mnyamata wotero, mwamsanga, mwamsanga anathamangira kusamba mbale, osaiwala kuvala apuloni.
Adzakuuzani za tsiku lake logwira ntchito mwatsatanetsatane, osayiwala kutchula nthawi yopuma chamasana ndi menyu mwatsatanetsatane. Pambuyo pa zonse, muvomerezana kuti, chidziwitso cha tsatanetsatane ndi, mmalo mwake, khalidwe lachikazi, pamene anthu ambiri, sakonda kupita mwatsatanetsatane ndikudzivutitsa okha ndi mbiri yakale.
Ngati zimakhala zopanga zofunikira kapena zochepa zedi - munthu woteroyo angaganize zothetsera vutoli kwa nthawi yayitali, poganizira zoyenera kuchita komanso nthawi yomweyo akuopa kuti amphonya. Konzekerani kuti adzakuyankhulani ndi chithandizo chilichonse: Kodi mungagwiritse ntchito bwanji npps? Kodi mungaphike bwanji borscht kuchokera ku firiji? Momwe mungakhalire ngati wogwira naye ntchito, yemwe akuyesera kugogoda pansi pansi pa mapazi ake? Momwe mungayankhire mafunso otsogolera mawa ndipo osagwirizana ndi matope?
Mnyamata wachikazi amayamba kufunafuna mwa mkazi kuti chitetezo cha iopor, chomwe chimapezeka mwa mwamuna ndi mtsikana aliyense.
Mzimayi: ubwino ndi chisokonezo
Atatha kuwerenga zonsezi, asungwana ambiri angaganize kuti: "Fi, ngati akunena za slobber, munthu wosasinthika wamoyo, chifukwa chiyani?" Komabe, musachedwe kuyika mtanda wofewa, poyamba, munthu wofooka. Ndiponsotu, ali ndi zolemba zake:
- Mkazi wa mkazi ndi wabwino kwa mkazi yemwe amakonda kulamulira. Mnyamata wachikondi adzakhumudwa kwambiri ndi theka lake - ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo sangawoneke ngati mtsikana wodzitcha.
- Munthu woteroyo sangataye mutu wake ngati akuyenera kuyendetsa bwino chuma. Amatha kuyambitsa kuyerekezera, kuphika chakudya chamadzulo, kugwiritsira ntchito makandulo kumbali ya patebulo ... Kukhala ndi mnyamata wotero, simukusowa kudandaula kuti pamene mulibe iye adzasungunula, kupha magalasi kapena kusefukira oyandikana naye - kumvetsetsa kwa nyumba yake ndikofunikira kwa iye , kuposa inu.
- Simudzadziona kuti ndinu wokonzeka komanso wodzikonda. Amuna ena mwa njirayi amayesa kumangiriza mtsikana pafupi naye - amati, amandithamangira, adzakwaniritsa -ndiyeno adzakonda kwambiri. Kwa ife, iwo amayesa kukufikitsani inu, ngakhale mwamanyazi, opanda mawu okweza ndi zochita zamisala - koma simungathe kuthandiza kumverera momwe amakuchitirani mwachikondi.
- Amuna, makamaka, amakhala okondana kwambiri. Amakonda kukondweretsa mai wawo wamtima: amalemba ndakatulo, kusiya zofuna zokhudzana ndi tsiku labwino pansi pa maginito pa furiji, perekani maluwa popanda chifukwa, kutenga matikiti a kanema pamzere womaliza ...
- Pofuna kukopeka kwambiri ndi mtsikanayo, ngakhale munthu wotetezeka komanso wamanyazi angathe kuchita zomwe munthu akuchita, makamaka ngati funsoli likukhudzana ndi chitetezo chanu - mulimonsemo, simungathe kumumenya kuti akuvuteni.
Mu chikhalidwe chachikhalidwe cha mnyamata wanu mungapeze zochepa zanu:
- Simukusowa kudalira kwambiri kuti mnyamatayo adzapanga zosankha zazikulu zokhudzana ndi moyo - khalani okonzeka kudzipangira udindo ngakhale pazinthu zazing'ono.
- Kuti munthu wamantha ndi wovutikira kuti apeze ntchito yabwino, adzayenera kukankhidwa. Zidzakhala zovuta kuti mnyamata adziwe ntchito, ngakhale ali ndi chidziwitso komanso luso lokwanira. Mwinamwake, osaphunzira pang'ono, koma olimbikira kwambiri komanso ogwira ntchito molimbika mu dongosolo lino adzafulumizitsa.
- Ngati simukukonda kuyitana ndi ma kalata nthawi zonse, ngati simukukonda kwenikweni - mungakhumudwe pakapita nthawi ndi chilakolako chake chosafuna kuti mukhale ndi inu nthawi iliyonse yaulere. Koma kodi ndi zoipa? Mwinamwake si iye, koma inu mumachotsa ...
- Okonda makampani akulira adzamva kulemedwa pamaso pa munthu wotere: si zophweka kumasuka, kuwona kuyang'ana kwake kwachisoni, kukupemphani kuti musiye aliyense ndikukhala naye yekha.
Sitikunenedwa kuti mkazi ndi mkazi - ndizo zabwino kapena zovuta. M'malo mwake, mkazi ndi mwamuna - izi ndizosamvetsetseka. Malingana ndi chikhalidwe cha mtsikanayo, wina angapeze mwa osakhulupirira komanso wokondedwa naye, ndipo wina amvetse kuti akusowa manja amphamvu ndi olimba mtima - choncho anyamata omwe ali otetezeka sangathe kukuthandizani kwa nthawi yayitali.