Ndili ndi msinkhu, momwe timaonera zogonana zimasintha, monganso momwe amachitira ndi amuna omwe amagonana nawo. Pakati pa makumi awiri, tikufuna kuti tizisamalidwa bwino ndi manja athu, kuwonetsa maluwa okondedwa athu ndikuyankhula kosatha za chikondi chathu. Pa makumi atatu, sindikufuna kudziletsa ndekha. Pa makumi anai kale, ndipo osati poopseza, ngati kukamba mochokera pansi pa chikondi kulibe.
Izi sizimayambitsa kukayikira kwa amayi, zimakhala zosawerengeka ndipo zimakhulupirira kuti ndizochibadwa kuti ziyenera kufika kwa mwamuna. Nthawi zambiri sitiganizira zomwe amuna omwe amawona kuti ndi zachilendo, ndikukambirana nawo.
Wokonda zaka 20
Nthawi yomweyo amakuuzani moona mtima mwachikondi, akukuitanani ku gawo lomalizira mu cinema, amapereka maluwa okoma, akung'ung'udza chinachake mu khutu lanu. Iye samamvetsera makamaka zomwe mumamuuza (ndipo ngati mutayankha nkomwe), amakupsompsonani m'magulu onse a thupi, koma kodi amasamala za msinkhu uwu?
Choyamba, ntchito yabwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti kugonana ndi kugonana, ndithudi, ndizochita chidwi, koma ndizochepa. Ali ndi zaka 20, mwamunayu sanadziwe yekha, kuti apambane ndi kugonjetsedwa kwa akazi omwe ankafuna kwambiri kugonjetsa. Ubale wolimba ndi mkazi wosakwatira, mwamuna wa msinkhu uno safunikira kwenikweni. Pali zambiri zamakono zomwe mungachite pozungulira!
Zabwino: Mwamuna mwa zibwenzi 20 zogonana angawonekere ndi mawu akuti "gome la pambali". Iye ali wokonzeka kuchita zogonana pamalo alionse, nthawi iliyonse ya tsikulo ndi muyeso uliwonse. Mfundo ndi ziphuphu siziripo, palibe kutopa, monga zokonda za kugonana. Ngakhale zili bwino ngati wokondedwayo apereka chinachake chatsopano, chomwe "anyamata sanayese."
Cons: samamvetsa chifukwa chake mumasowa nyimbo zamtendere, mpeni ndi makandulo. Mwa lingaliro lake, mwamtheradi chirichonse chomwe inu mukuchifuna pa kugonana koyenera, inu muli nako. Kotero chikondi cha iye sichiyenera kuyembekezera makamaka. Kawirikawiri wokonda zaka 20 sakudziwa choti achite. Ndipo mochuluka chotero, ndi momwe mungachitire izo kuti mukwaniritse inu.
Wokondedwa wa zaka 30
Simungapite ku cinema pamodzi ndi iye, chifukwa adzakuitanani ku malo ogulitsa zakudya komwe angakambirane nanu kwa nthawi yaitali. Makamaka, za ine ndekha. Pa nthawi yomweyi, amamvetsera mwachidwi zomwe mumamuuza pa mutu wokondweretsawu. Nthawi zambiri ndi yaitali amayang'ana maso, amapereka maluwa mowongoka maluwa okongola kwambiri. Mukudziwa pasadakhale kuti mutatha kudya, mudzakhala pabedi lake. Komabe, sangathe kuumirira.
Mwamuna wa zaka 30 amakondwera kukumana ndi mkazi woyenera kuti adzuke pafupi naye, komanso kuti akhale ndi moyo. Iye safuna kale kugonana, koma komanso ubale, kudzipereka komanso kukhulupirika. Ndili m'badwo uno kuti chikhumbo chikuwoneka kuti wina amuyembekezere kunyumba, ndipo chitseko sichiyenera kutsegulidwa ndichinsinsi chake. Ngakhale kuyambira kwa malingaliro okhudza ana.
Zabwino: Mwamuna wazaka 30 amadziwa kale kukupatsani chisangalalo chenicheni. Komanso, iye mwini akufuna kuti muzipereke. Pa kugonana, iye akadali ndi chilakolako cha nyama cha unyamata, koma kale ali wojambula m'maganizo. Mudzakumbatirana, ndikulankhulani ndipo ndikupsompsona usiku. Eya, ngati, mutakhala pabedi lake sizinali mwangozi, kuti panthawiyi pakakhalabe nthawi zambiri.
Cons: Palibenso zosokoneza zogonana. Mwamunayo ali ndi chidziwitso chokwanira kukutsogolerani mu chisangalalo chosadziwika, iye akula mokwanira kotero kuti chisangalalo sichitha pabedi. Chotsatira chokha cha ubale wotero - miyezo ya mwamuna wazaka 30 ndi zovuta kuti zifanane. Pambuyo pake, ufulu umayikidwa pa mzere, ndipo munthu wa makumi atatu ali wokonzeka kumupereka (ndi iye mwini) yekha kwa mkazi woyenera mu kugonjera kwake.
Wokondedwa wa zaka 40
Amagwira dzanja lanu mwachikondi pamene akuyang'ana nyimbo, amamvetsera nkhani za zinthu zanu zobisika, amakupatsani maluwa okonda kwambiri, amakuphunzitsani kumvetsa bwino zakudya, mafashoni ndi kugonana. Mwamuna wazaka 40 akulakalaka kupeza, potsiriza, chinthu choyenera kukhala nacho. Kudziwa kuti hafu ya moyo imadutsa payekha imapangitsa munthu kuyang'ana moyo wa chibadwidwe umene ukhoza kukhulupiliridwa.
Zochita: kwa munthu wake 40 mwinamwake anayesera kale chirichonse, muzochitika zirizonse ndi kuphatikiza, kupeza moyo wopezeka. Ameneyo ndiye wokonda kwambiri ndi wokonda kwambiri, omwe amakupatsani chisangalalo chapamwamba kwambiri kuposa chanu, kuyesa maubwenzi onse ndi kugonana makamaka makamaka momwe mulili naye.
Zosangalatsa: chilakolako chidzakhala chachilendo, ndipo pobwezera mudzalandira chikondi chochulukitsidwa ndi maola angapo. Makandulo omwewo ndi chikondi. Ndipo kawirikawiri pamakandulo, mudzakamba za chirichonse padziko lapansi. Nthawi zina, mpaka kugonana sikufika.