Chithunzi chodziwika bwino
Koma kuti retort ya alchemical ya chikondi iwonongeke, chofunika choyamba chofunikira-msonkhano ndi iye. Kodi timamuzindikira bwanji munthuyu pakati pa ena ambiri? Nthawi zina timakonda kukhulupirira kuti msonkhano umachitika mwachangu. Ndipo akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti ife timatsogoleredwa ndi chikumbumtima chathu. Chizindikiro cha munthu wina, mau ake, nkhope yake, malo ake kapena maonekedwe ake amadzutsa mkati mwathu kukumbukira koyamba kugwirizana kwapakati pa moyo wathu - kugwirizana ndi amayi. Chikondi chimadalira kudziwika pakati pa iwe mwini ndi munthu wina. Ndipo kotero anali mu ubwana: mwanayo samamva kuti ndi wosiyana, ndi amodzi ndi amayi ake. Poyamba, ine sindiripo ndekha. Ine ndiri yense mu nkhope iyo yomwe imadalira kwa ine. Ndikumva ndekha. Okonda amakonda kufotokoza mmene amadziwira mwamsanga, omwe anakumana nawo pamsonkhano woyamba, kapena kuti amamva kuti atangodziwana, "ngati kuti tinadziwana." Ndipo ichi si fanizo. Kuzindikiridwa kumachitika. Popanda kuzindikira izi, timakondana ndi omwe amatikumbutsa anthu omwe akhala ndi ife chiyambireni kubadwa kwathu.
Theka lachiwiri
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri kwa mnyamata ndi nkhope ya mayi, ndipo zidzakhala choncho. Maganizo a mtsikanayo akusintha. Poyamba, chikondi chake chimakhala chimodzimodzi ndi cha mnyamata, chimayikidwa kwa amayi. Koma patapita nthawi, "amaphunziranso" ndipo amayamba kuganizira za abambo ake. " Ngati palibe bambo m'banja, malo ake adzakhala ndi munthu wamkulu yemwe am'chotserapo kapena ndi chifaniziro chokhazikitsidwa pazikamba za nkhani, mabuku, mafilimu, misonkhano ndi anthu omwe amadziwana nawo. Nthawi zina, pali chisankho chosiyana ndi ichi: timayamba kukondana ndi omwe amaona poyamba ndi osiyana kwambiri ndi makolo athu - kapena amawoneka ngati otsutsana nawo. Komabe, mulimonsemo, "mfundo yotchulidwa" ndi mayi kapena bambo. Kuwonjezera pa maonekedwe, zizoloŵezi, njira zolankhulirana, malingaliro ndi ofunikira. M'banja, munthu amaphunzira makhalidwe ena ndi zikhulupiliro. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mayi adzipereka yekha chifukwa cha ntchito ya abambo ake, ndiye kuti msungwana wina amene anakulira m'banja ngatilo adzapeza mzake wofanana ndi bambo ake - kuti athe kuzindikira khalidwe la amayi. Mafanoni si nthawi zonse kwenikweni. Tiyerekeze kuti bambo ndi wasayansi amene amapereka mphamvu zake kwa sayansi. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mwana wamkazi adzakwatiwa ndi sayansi. Mwinamwake, wokondedwa wake adzakhala wamalonda wogwira ntchito yake, koma akuiwala za banja. Ziri ngati kuvina: timasankha wokondedwa yemwe amadziwa chinthu chomwecho monga ife, omwe tingathe kuvina pamodzi.
Kupeza zabwino
Ngakhale kuti tinakhalabe popanda izo kwa zaka zambiri kapena ngakhale makumi, mu maola angapo kapena masiku akukhala ofunikira kwa ife. Timamuchitira mnzathu amene tamupeza ngati wosabadwa ngati khanda kwa mayi - gwero la kukhalapo kwathu. Zidzatenga nthawi yaitali kuti mwanayo asayambe kuweruza makolo ake ndipo amazindikira kuti iwo si angwiro. Kugwera mu chikondi, timawoneka kuti tibwerera ku ubwana wathu, timataya kulingalira ndi chifukwa, ndipo pobwerera tidzakhala ndikumverera kokondweretsa koyenera. Timatseka maso athu ku zolakwa za wokondedwa wathu. Timayesetsa. Koma musaganize kuti maganizo anu ndi oipa. Kukhala mu chikondi ndiko kupeza zabwino zonse zomwe ziri mwa munthu wina, ndipo nthawizina zimalenga. Mtunda pakati pa zomwe ziri ndi zomwe zingakhalepo sizokulu. Tikukhala mu mwayi wapadera. Ine ndiri chomwe ine ndingakhoze kukhala. Poona mwa wina ulemu, kuphatikizapo mwayi, timamuthandiza kupeza mwayi, zomwe sankaganizapo kale. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti sitisiyanitsa pakati pa ife ndi ife eni (pambuyo pa zonse, zimawoneka kuti ndife tonse amodzi), ife mwaife timadziŵa zabwino zomwe zilipo mwa ife kapena zingakhale.
Umodzi wosasokonezeka
Pamene ife tiri mu chikondi, chenicheni chikufalikira, zotsutsana zonse zimatha. Kutengeka mtima ndiko kubwezeretsa kwachisamaliro chachikulu ndi dziko lapansi. Kulingalira kumaphatikizapo "I" kuchokera pa chirichonse chozungulira iye. Tasiya kulemekeza ndi kukhudzidwa mtima, timayambiranso kukhala ogwirizana, osadziwika. Chikondi chachikulu cha chikondi cha dziko lapansi komanso panthawi imodzimodzi chimabwerera kwa ife - chifukwa malire a pakati pa ine ndi dziko atha, palibe kusiyana pakati pa "ife" ndi "ena". Timakhala ndi malire a kukhala, "I" yathu imakhala yopanda malire mu nthawi ndi malo. Sindingaganize kuti ndili kutali ndi munthu amene ndimamukonda. Kungakhale kusiyana pakati pawekha. Pamene okondedwa alonjeza - mokweza kapena m'maganizo - kukondana kwamuyaya, palibe dontho lachinyengo mmenemo. Ndipotu pa nthawi ino, iwo amakhaladi kosatha. Ndipo kotero lingaliro la kulekanitsa liri losasunthika, monga lingaliro la imfa.
Pobwezera paradaiso wotayika
Koma chikondi chosatha sichisintha. Maganizo amakula. "Mwachikondi, ngati kuti kutsutsana ndi zochitika za mtheradi, kukhalapo kwa moyo kumamveka. Monga ngati wina amayenera kulipira kuti apindule ndi lingaliro labwino, nthawi. Panthawi ina, pali kukayikira: izi zidzachitika liti? Okonda alendo omwe amawadandaula, kulimbikitsana kulikonse kumeneku kumapweteka kwambiri. Koma kukhumudwa kumatsatiridwa ndi chiyembekezo: mwinamwake chirichonse chikhoza kubwezeretsedwa! Izi zikufanana kwambiri ndi ubale wa mwana ndi mayi. Mkaka, weasel, mgwirizano wathunthu. Kenaka amagawana, mwanayo amapeza kusiyana, koma tsopano akumva masitepe a amayi ake ... Pali kuzungulira, ndipo izi zimatulutsidwa mu moyo wa okondedwa. Kusangalatsa, mantha, kukhumudwa, chiyembekezo. Izi ndizochitikira za ana, sizili zogwirizana ndi maubwenzi ovuta. " Chikondi chimabereka maganizo athu oyambirira. Koma sitinayambe tidziwa nawo, nthawi iliyonse tikumva ngati atsopano. Kapena ngati weniweni ndi wolondola. Amatipanga ife kufuna kuyamba chirichonse kuyambira pachiyambi. Kodi ndiyenera kusiya mkazi wanga tsiku lotsatira pambuyo pokumana ndi wina? Timachita zimenezi popanda kukayikira! Pamene oxytocin imatigwira ku ukapolo, malingaliro ali chete. Koma tsiku lina tidzatha kuona kuti wosankhidwa mzinthu zambiri amasiyana ndi ife ndipo sangathe kukhutiritsa zosowa zathu zonse. Nanga bwanji? Kuzizira, kupatukana ndi moyo wopanda kanthu musanakumane ndi "wosakwatira" watsopano - kapena tifunika kuphunzira kukambirana, kukhululukiranso kupanda ungwiro ndikupeza munthu winanso pazinthu zonse zosiyana ndi ife. Chikondi ndi chikondi siziri chimodzimodzi. Pali chikondi, chimene sichikulira m'chikondi. Palinso chikondi, osati chimakula kuchoka m'chikondi. Iye ali ndi chiyambi chosiyana: zochepa zolakalaka, udindo waukulu ndi kudalira. Mwina tikhoza kunena, kutchula momveka bwino malo otchuka a Leo Tolstoy: tonse timagwirizana mofanana, koma timakonda m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Tsopano tikudziwa udindo wa chikondi m'moyo wa munthu.