Choyamba, mu yankho la funso: "Mmene mungalimbanire ndi chikondi? ", Ndikofunikira kufikitsa mkhalidwewo mwadzidzidzi. Kuzindikira ndi kuzindikira kuti chikondichi chiyenera kutuluka kumathandiza kuthana ndi matendawa. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti chinthu chokhumba sichinthu chabwino, koma chikondi chake sichina koma paranoia. Msungwana chabe yemwe ali ndi chizoloŵezi chokonda chikondi, amadzilowetsa mu chilakolako chake ndipo sawona zolakwa za amuna. Ndipo zolephera, zomwe siziyenera kunena, ziri mwa munthu aliyense. Ndicho chifukwa chake muyenera kuyang'ana dziko lapansi ndi maso osiyana siyana ndikupeza nokha mphamvu yokha, komanso kudzidalira komwe kunaponderezedwa ndi mkaziyo.
Timatenga ululu wa kugawa.
Kotero, iwe unazindikira kuti iwe umadalira kwambiri mwamuna. Tsopano muyenera kuthana ndi chikondi ndikuyesera kuthetsa malingaliro anu. Mulimonsemo musakhale pansi ndipo musadzimvere chisoni. Kumbukirani kuti izi zidzangowonjezera mkhalidwe wonsewo. Yesetsani kukhala nokha ndi chikondi chanu. Dzizindikireni nokha, pezani zokondweretsa zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti musaganize za okondedwa anu. Ngati munthu alibe nthawi yokhala pansi kwa mphindi pang'ono, ndiye kuti sangakhale ndi nthawi yowononga maganizo ake.
Kudziwa za umunthu wamkati.
Kudalira chikondi kumatha kuthetsa kwathunthu mkati mwa munthu. Choncho, choyamba muyenera kudzipeza nokha. Choyamba, lekani kukumba ndikuyang'ana zolakwitsa, ndikudziimba nokha kuti chilichonse chinachitika mwanjira iyi. Kulimbana ndi matendawa kukuthandizani, ngati mutadziyang'ana nokha ndi maso ena ndikuletsa korit ndikudzizunza ndi tsankho. Ingodzikonda nokha, ndipo dziko silidzawoneka losasangalatsa komanso losangalatsa, ndipo kudalira kwanu sikudzawoneka ngati vuto.
Tengani thandizo la okondedwa.
Musatseke nokha, kukankhira kutali achibale ndi anzanu. Yesetsani kulankhulana nawo nthawi zonse, chifukwa chifukwa cha iwo mudzatha kuthana ndi chizoloŵezi cha chikondi mofulumira. Koma, ngati simungathe kulankhulana ndi okondedwa anu nthawi zonse, tumizani kuyankhulana kwanu pamasamba anu adiresi. Mwa njirayi, diaryyi imathandiza kwambiri kuchepetsa nkhawa ndi kuchepetsa vutoli.
Yambani kusangalala ndi moyo popanda izo.
Yesani kuyambitsa moyo wanu kuyambira pachiyambi, kumene sipadzakhala munthu uyu, ndipo kuchokera ku kudalira kwanu kudzakhala kukumbukira kokha. Mwa njira, palibe vuto muyenera kulingalira ndi kuzunzika kuti zonse zidzafika mu malingaliro anu, ndipo mudzabwezeranso ubale wanu. Phunzirani kukhala moyo popanda izo komanso malingaliro anu. Kumbukirani kuti kuwonjezeka mu chiyembekezo chilichonse ndi kukumbukira kumatha kukhalabe ndi chikondi ndikumukumbutsa munthuyo.
Ganizirani mochepa.
Siyani tsiku ndi tsiku kuti muganize mu malingaliro anu fano la munthu yemwe kale anali wokondedwa. Ndi malingaliro awa, mumangogwedeza mitsempha yanu ndi kukulitsa mkhalidwe wanu mwa kudzikuza nokha kachiwiri. Inde, palibe amene amanena kuti akazi ali ndi luso lokulitsa komanso kudzidzimvera. Ndicho chifukwa chake, amayi nthawi zambiri amagwera m'mitsempha komanso kuvutika maganizo. Kotero, ziribe kanthu momwe kulili kovuta, tulutsani malingaliro anu onse ponena kuti munthu uyu ndi kumwamba ndi dziko kwa inu.
Tulutsani mtima wanu.
Yesetsani kuchoka pamalingaliro anu ndi maganizo anu. Koma, kumbukirani kuti ngati mukufuna kulira, chitani. Mwa njira imeneyi mukhoza kumasula malingaliro onse oipa omwe mwapeza panthawi yomwe mumakhala mosaganizira kwambiri za kudalira kwanu. Koma kukonzekera tsiku ndi tsiku hysteria sikuyeneranso. Ingochitani kamodzi ndikuyamba kukhala moyo watsopano.
Khoti lachitsulo likuwombera.
Kulimbana ndi kumverera kwadalira inu mumathandiza kwambiri amzanga atsopano. Pachifukwa ichi simukusowa kudzimangirira m'makoma anayi. Pita ndi abwenzi ku disco, filimu kapena kungoyenda paki. Pumula, tonthola ndikupanga anthu ambiri atsopano momwe mungathere. Palibe chifukwa chosanyalanyaza amuna atsopanowo, palibe amene samapatula njira yomwe pakati pawo ingakhale yofanana. Koma kachiwiri akugwera m'chikondi kudalira pa iye akadalibe kusowa.
Sintha zinthu.
Tengani ulendo kapena, mwachitsanzo, kupita kwa achibale anu mumudzi. Kusintha mkhalidwe ndi chinthu chomwe chingakuthandizeni kuiwala zakumverera kwanu ndi kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi maganizo atsopano ndi mapulani a tsogolo lanu. Mizinda yatsopano ndi zochitika zatsopano, zomwe zimalepheretsa kukhumudwa ndi zochitika.
Pumirani mu kukhudzana ndi zabwino.
Kumbukirani kuti zonse zomwe sizinachitidwe - zapangidwa bwino. Kotero musadandaule zomwe zinachitika ndipo kuti wosankhidwa wanu sakugwirizana ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera. Yesetsani kuzindikira kuti kulephereka ngati mayeso ochepa, pambuyo pake mudzapeza chikondi chatsopano chomwe chidzakupatsani chimwemwe chenicheni. Ingodzipangirani nokha kuti mukhale otsimikiza. Mwa njira, palibe kanthu mu dziko simukuyang'ana melodramas yolira mokhudzana ndi chikondi. Izi nonse zimathamangiranso mokwanira, ndipo mumamvanso kuti mumadalira munthu uyu. Ingodzikanira ku chirichonse chimene mungathe kukumbukira za kuledzera kwanu.
Adilesi kwa katswiri.
Mukakhala kuti simungathe kugonjetsa chizoloŵezi chanu cha chikondi, muyenera kufunafuna thandizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo. Ndi katswiri yemwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi kudalira kwa mwamuna ndi kumverera kwanu kwa iye, komanso kupeza njira yomwe mungayang'anire dziko ndi maso ena ndipo panthawi imodziyo mumadziwa kuti ndinu munthu wokhala ndi mtima wamkati.