Muli miyoyo yathu, mwatsoka, amayi omwe sangathe kukonza moyo wawo wokha. Zimakhala zovuta kuti amvetse chifukwa chake izi zimachitika. Koma zimakhalanso kuti banja liripo, koma pali mavuto ambiri. Mkazi sangakhoze kumutamanda mwamuna wake pa chirichonse, chidziwitso chimodzi chokha chikupangidwa, mavuto akutsatiridwa. Makhalidwe abwino ndi ogwirizana m'banja salipo, munthu weniweni sali pafupi.
Ngati mukufuna kuona mwamuna weniweni pafupi ndi inu, ndiye kuti mumakhala ngati mkazi weniweni, osati ngati munthu! Pali mawu amodzi amodzi: "Yemwe mumamuwona, ndikumusamalira." Yesani kukumbukira. Ndiyeno simungakopeko nsanza za amuna.Mudzawona zabwino mwa mwamuna wanu, ndi zabwino ndipo mudzazipeza. Mudzayang'ana zovuta tsiku ndi tsiku, ndiye mudzaziwona. Pali zochepa zochepa zomwe amayi amakonda kuchita:
Choyamba cholakwika. Kusankha kolakwika kwa munthu
Cholakwika chachikazi ichi ndi chachikulu. Mavuto angapo amayamba ndi izo. Akazi, monga lamulo, amasankha kusankha munthu ndi maganizo, osati ndi mtima. Aliyense amayesetsa kusintha momwe akufunira. Ena amamvetsera kokha kuoneka, ena ku solvency zachuma, lachitatu limangofuna bwenzi lokha, ndi wina basi bwenzi lodalirika. Maganizo amangoti munthu wokondedwa sakumuka!
Kodi mungathetse bwanji vutoli? Ndikofunika kuchotsa malingaliro ndikusintha mtima wanu. Ganizirani momwe mumamvera ndi iye, kodi pali chimwemwe m'banja? Kodi mumamva kuti mukukondedwa? Kodi mwatulutsa agogulugufe? Wopambana! Lankhulani ndi mtima wanu, musamvere malangizo a anzanu. Simungathe kupereka chikondi chifukwa cha phindu la ndalama kapena zikhumbo zakunja.
Cholakwika chachiwiri. Kudzudzula ndi chikhumbo chothandizira munthu
Ndi chifukwa cha kulakwitsa kotero kuti kusudzulana kwakukulu kumapangidwa, mabanja akugwedezeka. Cholakwika ichi chachitidwa ndi amayi mazana ambiri. Ndipotu, ndi chikhalidwe chawo, chirichonse chimaloledwa kukongoletsa, kukonzanso, kusintha. Koma ndizoopsa kuchita izi ndi mwamuna, simungathe. Mwamuna, posankha mkazi, akufuna kuti azikondedwa ndi kuvomerezedwa monga momwe alili. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri pakati pa amai pakusankha mkazi.
Mzimayi amapanga vuto ngakhale atakudzudzula mwamuna wake, kumusonyeza kusakondwera kwake. Koma zimakhala zophweka kumfunsa za zomwe zikufunikira. Yesetsani kuyandikira mwachikondi ndi kumupempha kuti akonze mipeni. Mudzadabwa, koma mipeni ya nyumba idzakhala yolimba nthawi zonse. Vuto limatha nthawi yomweyo. M'banjamo padzakhala mtendere.
Dzifunseni nokha kuti kachiwiri kunali kofunika kuti amuchotse mwamuna wake? Ikani izo. Chotsani chokhumba ichi mwa inu nokha ndi kumuuza za chikondi chanu. Amuna pa chiwerengero chosadziwika bwino amawerenga bwino maganizo ndi maganizo a wokondedwa. Ndipo iwo amayesa kusintha kuti akhale abwino. Iye mwiniyo adzafuna kutsimikizira chikondi chako. Nthawizonse kuchokera ku mtima woyera, zikomo munthuyo chifukwa cha chithandizo ndi thandizo lake. Ndikhulupirire, zidzakhala bwino!
Cholakwika chachitatu. Kuika pa ntchito za amuna
"Mphamvu ya mkazi wofooka." Mawu achizoloŵezi awa amadziwika kwa onse akale. Ndipo izi ndi zoona. Koma nthawi zambiri amai amachita ngati iwo ali amuna. Inde, iwo sali mlandu wa izi. Panali zaka pamene agogo aakazi amayenera kuchita motere. Anapereka nkhani za amuna pa nthawi ya nkhondo, pamene amuna analibe. Koma ngakhale pambuyo pa nkhondo iwo anali olimba mtima, chifukwa panali amuna ochepa okha amoyo. Amayi athu analeredwa m'mabanja omwe ali ndi abambo, koma adagonjetsa chilichonse mwayekha.
Ndipo mpaka pano, akazi amakonda kukhala olimba, odziimira okha, ndi opindulitsa. Tengani udindo pa kukhazikitsidwa kwa zisankho. Koma tikuyenera kusonyeza makhalidwe ena a akazi, kukhala odekha. Ndipo zikupezeka kuti pokhala ndi "wamkulu muketi", amadandaula kuti amuna enieni salinso, amuna sali omwe apita tsopano.
Phatikizani malingaliro anu, mubwere kunyumba, ngati muli bwana wamkulu kuntchito. Kunyumba ndiwe mayi, mkazi kapena mkazi basi. Kotero inu mumakhala ngati mkazi. Lolani makhalidwe a munthuyo akuwonetsedwa ndi munthuyo. Nthawi zambiri mumupemphe kuti akuthandizeni. Muloleni iye atenge chachikulu, ndipo iwe ukhale muchisokonezo cha nyumba ndi chikondi.
Cholakwika chachinayi. Chisamaliro chapadera kapena chisamaliro
Kawirikawiri pambuyo paukwati, mkazi amasandulika kukhala mayi kwa mwamuna wake, amamuganizira ngati mwana wamng'ono. Mwamuna mwamsanga amayamba kusamalidwa ndi chisamaliro ichi, zimakhala zosavuta kuti iye akhale moyo. Koma apa pali vuto! Iye amasiya kuona mkazi mwa mkazi wake, ataya chidwi mwa iye. Ndipo amuna ena amakhumudwitsidwa ndi chikhalidwe cha amayiwa. Amayamba kufunafuna mkazi kumbali ndipo amamusamalira. Amakhala mosangalala kwambiri.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani pa nkhaniyi? Palibe. Muloleni iye azidzisamalira yekha. Musiyeni iye yekha. Inde, chisamaliro chiyenera kupitirira, koma osati mopitirira muyeso. Amuna adzapeza njira yothetsera vuto lililonse, musawapatse malangizo othandiza.
Cholakwika chachichisanu. Ndikukhala ndi mwamuna wanga ndi ana anga
Azimayi ambiri, akakumana ndi wotsutsa, yesetsani kuiwala okha. Iwo salinso osangalatsidwa ndi moyo wapitawo. Amapereka moyo wawo wonse ku banja. Koma ndi kumvetsetsa kwa moyo uno, muyeso pakati pa magawo akulu apita. Munthu ayenera kudzizindikira yekha mu ubale, ntchito, kudzipangira yekha, kukula kwa thupi, etc. Koma osati chinthu chimodzi chokha. Inde, ndipo mwamuna adzakhumudwa ndi kukhalapo kwa amayi nthawi zonse ndi kulikonse. Sikoyenera kuti munthu apereke kudzizindikira yekha, koma kuti aganizire za iye mwini, nayenso. Aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi nthawi yake yolankhulirana ndi abwenzi, chifukwa cha zosangalatsa.
Dziyang'anire nokha. Kumbukirani kuti ndinu mkazi wokongola komanso wanzeru. Chitani nokha kwambiri, osati munthu. Musasunge nthawi kapena ndalama kwa inu nokha. Lolani nokha kulankhulana ndi abwenzi, musaiwale za chikhalidwe chanu chamkati, kuphatikizapo nyimbo zabwino. Muzidzikonda nokha kuposa ena. Mudzawona kuti dera loyandikana lakhala logwirizana, ndipo anthu oyandikana nawo - osangalala kwambiri.
Yesetsani kumvetsetsa kuti inu nokha mukufuna kupanga chibwenzi? Ndipo sichoncho? Kodi munthu amapeza chiyani kuchokera kwa inu? Kodi mukuyembekeza kuchokera kwa iye, kusamala, chitetezo? Kodi amachokera kwa inu? Sikofunikira kufunsa, koma nkofunikira kupereka chifundo, chisamaliro ndi chikondi. Momwemonso, mudzalandira chimodzimodzi, koma nthawi zambiri. Khalani m'chikondi ndi chimwemwe!