Funso limeneli lafunsidwa zambiri ndi zaka zapitazi ndipo sizowopsa. Poyamba, mafunso ngati amenewa sanayambe, chirichonse chinatsimikiziridwa ndikusankha. Moyo mu dziko lamakono ndi nkhani yosiyana ndi imene aliyense amafunitsitsa kuti azidzilamulira yekha, akufuna kuti achoke pakati pa anthu, akuwonetsere yekha. Osati kutayika mu dziko lino. Tiyeni tikambirane zina.
Asanayambe ukwati, ndibwino kuthetsa mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku. Malingana ndi kafukufuku wa zaumoyo, moyo wa banja umapuma pa maziko a mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku. Choncho, ndibwino kuti ndiwone kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali ndi udindo pa zomwe zili m'banja. Mwachitsanzo, mungavomereze kuti kuyambika koyenera kudzakhala ngati mkazi atenga udindo wa nyumba, kuyeretsa kwazing'ono tsiku ndi tsiku m'nyumba, kuphika. Kwa mwamuna, ndi bwino kuyesa kuyeretsa, kusamba kwa masokosi anu, kutsuka (nthawi zina) mbale, kugwira ntchito panyumba. Munthu akadziwa zomwe akuyenera kuchita ndi zomwe ayenera kuchita, adzalangidwa. Akazi ambiri okwatirana amadandaula za amuna awo kuti sachita chilichonse kunyumba, ndichifukwa chake adzachita ngati simunamufunse kwa zaka makumi atatu koma musapitirizebe kutsatira malamulo ndi kukhazikitsa malamulo onse. Ola sichimodzimodzi ndi zonsezi zomwe zimakhala zotopetsa ndipo mwamuna kapena mkazi amakana kukhala robot.
Ngati chiyambi cha moyo wa banja chimabwera chifukwa cha chikondi, ndiye kuti bwato lanu la banja lidzawonongeka posachedwa, popeza chikondi si chachilendo, chikhoza kubwera ndi kubweranso. Mukayambitsa maukwati, mutangokhala ndi maganizo atsopano ndikuwathyola, mutangoyamba, ndiye kuti pang'onopang'ono mumakhala wokhazikika. Kukonda m'mawa ndi mphotho yothandiza kumadzulo.
Nkhani yeniyeni iyenera kukhudzidwa pa zochitika za mgwirizano wa maholide ndi misonkhano ndi abwenzi. Si zophweka kuti anthu asinthe ndi kusiya moyo wawo wakale: kumwa ndi abwenzi ndi kunja, kutayika m'galimoto pamapeto a sabata, osagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yogulitsa masitolo monga choncho. Pang'onopang'ono, chilakolako ndi kuthekera kwa nthawi yomwe ndikufunira, zidzatha. Pakapita nthawi, anthu, monga akunena, "azizoloŵana wina ndi mzache", kotero kusagwirizana pazochitika kunja kwa banja sikudzatha.
Chiyambi cholondola sichikutanthawuza "kuonongeka" kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi, koma ali kuti chisamaliro cha iye kapena za iye? "Wawona" - timamvetsa ngati kubwereza mofanana ndi cholinga chimene munthu angakwaniritse zomwe tikufuna. Koma sikuti nthawi zonse zimatsogolera zotsatira. Kawirikawiri zimasintha molakwika mnzanuyo poyerekeza ndi inu. Zomwe zinachitikira mibadwo zikuwonetsa kuti amuna ndi akazi omwe anatha kuwonetsa hafu yawo nthawi yonse ya moyo wawo anafuna njira zosiyanasiyana zowalimbikitsira kuti akalimbikitse okwatirana kuti achitepo, nthawi zambiri panthawiyi mphotho imagwira bwino kwambiri kuposa chilango. Choonadi ichi chikhoza kubwerezedwa mobwerezabwereza, koma osati onse okwatirana ali okonzeka kuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika m'banja lawo. Nthawi yambiri iyenera kuperekedwa kukambirana za vutoli. Musagwirizane ndi yankho la vuto la anthu apachibale, ngakhale achibale oyandikana nawo monga: amayi, abambo, apongozi awo, apongozi awo, ndi zina zotero. Kulumikizana ndi anthu awa kungangowononga maganizo anu.
Kodi mungayambire bwanji banja? Funso limeneli lidzafunsidwa maanja ambiri, ndipo mwina adzatha kuyankha kokha patapita nthawi yaitali, osati onse, koma okhawo omwe angatsogolere chombo cha banja m'madzi ovuta a moyo wa banja.