Inde, aliyense amadziwa kuti anyamata ndi anthu odziwika kwambiri omwe samafotokoza nthawi zonse mmene amamvera komanso maganizo awo. Amabisala chikondi chawo pa chipatso choletsedwa mochuluka kuposa akazi. Ndicho chifukwa, atsikana ambiri sangathe kudzifunsa ngati anyamata angakonde konse. Ndipo mochuluka choncho, ndi mwamuna yemwe angakonde mkazi mmodzi moyo wake wonse
Chikondi ndikumverera komwe kwathunthu miyoyo ndi mitima zimakhudzidwa. Ngakhale anthu omwe amanena kuti chikondi sichipezeka, kuti ndi matenda a maganizo kapena kuledzeretsa, makamaka amakonda kapena kamodzi akonda. Mwachidule, chikondi chawo chinali chosasangalatsa kapena chosasinthika, ndipo tsopano mwamuna amayesera kutseka njira zonse kuchokera kumverera uku ndikubisa maganizo ake enieni kuti asamve ululu kachiwiri.
Kodi pali chikondi chosatha? Zimanenedwa kuti padziko lapansi muli anthu amodzi okha omwe amakhala moyo wawo wonse chifukwa cha munthu mmodzi. Ndipo pakati pawo palibe akazi okha, komanso amuna. Anthu oterowo ali opweteka kwambiri panthawi yopuma komanso chikondi chosiyana. Iwo akhoza kukhala okha kwa zaka, nthawi zonse kuganiza za munthu wokondedwa wawo, kuyesera kumubwezeretsa iye kapena kugonjetsa. Ndipotu, malingaliro oterewa, osati osati owonjezera, koma osachepera. Ndi mafilimu okhawo omwe amavutika pazomwe angayang'ane popanda kuyima ndi kuyamikira kukhulupirika kwa chikondi, makamaka pamene munthu akukumana nazo izi. Koma ngati zonse zikuchitika m'moyo weniweni, chikondi sichikwanira. Ndipotu, ndizoopsa kuona momwe mnzanu amafota ndikudziwononga yekha chifukwa chikondi chake chiribechabechabe. Ngati munthu sakuima pa nthawi, akhoza kuyamba kungokhala ndi mavuto ndi psyche. Ndicho chifukwa chake tinganene kuti anthu ali ndi chikondi chosatha chosakondera moyo wawo wonse, koma chifukwa cha chikondi chotero ndi bwino kuwathandiza kuchotsa, chifukwa ngati izi sizichitika, moyo ukhoza kufupikitsidwa. Ndipo sikuti amangokhala kudzipha. Kusokonezeka kwa mantha nthawi zonse ndi zochitika zomwe zimakhudza kwambiri mtima wa mtima ndi psyche. Choncho, ngati simukufuna kuti munthu wina athandizidwe ndi matenda a mtima kapena kukhala m'chipatala cha maganizo, ndi bwino kumutsimikizira kuti chikondi chikudutsa, njira zenizeni komanso zopanda pake, zimabweranso, ndipo mukuyenera kuzipirira. Inde, zidzakhala zopweteka komanso zovuta kwa iye, koma popanda kuthandizidwa ndi munthu wina, malingaliro oterewa amakhala ozungulira omwe amawopsya, akusokoneza ndi kungowononga munthu. Ndipotu, chikondi ndi Chamuyaya, koma chimasintha mawonekedwe. Ndipo ngati munthu sakonza pa chinthu chimodzi, m'kupita kwanthawi angathe kupeza mawonekedwe atsopano a chikondi. Koma, chifukwa ichi ndikofunikira kuyang'ana mozungulira. Ndipo okondedwa omwe sakudziwa sakufuna kuchita izi, choncho amavutika ndi chikondi chawo kwa zaka zambiri.
Koma, ndithudi, sikuti anthu onse amavutika chifukwa cha chikondi chosiyana. Kodi pali chikondi chimodzi pa moyo? Kodi mwamuna nthawi zonse angakhale ndi mkazi wake wamtima yekha komanso osamvetsera ena?
Inde, zimachitika, koma, pazochitika zotero, zambiri zimadalira akazi. Amayi akhoza kupha chikondi mwa amuna awo. Mwamwayi, ndizoona, ziribe kanthu momwe sitikanataya ziphunzitso izi. Amanyazi, zipsyinjo zosalekeza ndi zotsutsa, nsanje ndi nsanje, kusowa chidwi kwa kugonana ndi zina zambiri zimapangitsa kuti amuna ayambe kukhumudwitsidwa ndi iwo omwe amakonda. Kwa zaka zambiri, kukhumudwa kumaphatikizapo ndipo chikondi chimachoka pamene zofuna zowoneka pamodzi ndi kumvetsetsa kumatayika.
Koma, ngati abambo ndi abambo angathe kukhala anzeru, pangani kusamvana ndi kumvetsetsana wina ndi mzake, pakadali pano mwamuna adzamukonda mkazi wake moyo wake wonse. Ndiyeno palibe amene akukamba za chilakolako cha chilakolako chomwe chilipo pakati pa awiriwa. Sizinsinsi kuti pakapita nthawi imatha, koma palinso china. Ndi ubwenzi, chithandizo, chidaliro pakati pawo, chikondi. Chikondi ndi chosiyana, koma kuchokera mu kusintha kwa mawonekedwe ake, chikhalidwe sichimasintha. Ena amangosokoneza chilakolako, chikondi ndi chikondi, kotero iwo ali otsimikiza kuti chikondi chikhoza kutha. Eya, ndithudi. Chikondi chenicheni chimangokhala ndi mawonekedwe apamwamba, omwe si mabanja onse omwe amafika. Gwirizanitsani, chifukwa pakati pa anthu akale omwe akhala pamodzi zaka makumi asanu kale alibe chilakolako, koma momwe amathandizana wina ndi mzake, momwe amavomerezera, momwe amayenda ndi mkono mu autumn park, onse malingaliro amene anabadwa nthawi zina kuwonekera muunyamata chilakolako. Ndipo pambuyo - kunakula kukhala ubwenzi ndi chikondi, ndipo tsopano zakhala mbali yofunika kwambiri ya miyoyo yawo. Anthu saganiza kale kuti sangakhale pamodzi. Iwo sadziwa ngakhale kuti izi ndi zosatheka. Kuzindikira kwa wina ndi mzake monga gawo la inu nokha ndi chiwonetsero cha chikondi chomwe sichikhoza kuthyoledwa ndi kuwonongedwa.
Ndipotu, pafupifupi munthu aliyense akhoza kukonda mkazi mmodzi moyo wake wonse. Koma, si onse omwe amakumana ndi atsikana omwe angathe komanso ayenera kukonda kwamuyaya. Mwatsoka, si mabanja onse ndi theka lachiwiri la wina ndi mnzake. Nthawi zina anthu amalakwitsa, koma sangathe kuvomereza kulakwitsa kwawo, motero, motero, amavutika kwa nthawi yayitali pafupi ndi wina ndi mnzake ndikusiyana.
Kodi mwamuna angathe kukonda mkazi mmodzi moyo wake wonse? Kwa funso ili, aliyense amapereka yankho lake, kudalira zochitika ndi zochitika zomwe zachitika kwa iye m'moyo. Koma, anthu omwe apeza chikondi chawo chenicheni, adzanena kuti kumverera sikungatheke ndi nthawi, koma kungosintha mawonekedwe awo ndikukula kukhala chinachake popanda chimene iwo akumva chopanda kanthu ndi moyo wawo wopanda tanthauzo. Anthu onse amatha kukonda ndipo sizidalira ngati ndinu mwamuna kapena mkazi. Funso lokha ndilo. Kodi pali anthu pa njira ya moyo omwe ali oyenera chikondi chathu. Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti munthu aliyense adzakhala ndi malingaliro omwe adzanyamula mpaka tsiku lomaliza la moyo wake.