Mu imodzi mwa mapulogalamu osangalatsa anali nkhani yokhudza msonkhano woyamba wa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Anagwirizana kuti afunse pamsonkhano mafunso atatu omwe amawakonda aliyense.
Adzafunsa mafunso awa: "Kodi mumakonda maluwa otani?" Ndiwe yani ndi chizindikiro cha zodiac? Kodi mumakonda zakudya zotani? "
Afunseni mafunso awa: "Mugawo liti muli nyumba yanu? Kodi galimoto yanu ndi yotani? Kodi ndalama zili mu akaunti yanu ya banki? "
Azimayi ambiri pa tsiku loyamba samafanana ndi achikondi okhaokha, koma antchito ena a banki omwe amasankha kupereka ngongole. Choncho, anthu ambiri njira yotereyi imapangitsa kuti apite patsogolo.
Kawirikawiri, pa zokambirana zoyamba, kukafunsidwa kumachitidwa mwachidwi, kufanana ndi wofufuzira mosamala, kuyesa kupereka ulemu wawo kwa interlocutor, kupyola popanda kuima. Onse atengedwa pamodzi sangathe kulimbikitsa chitukuko. Monga zikuwonetseredwa ndi kufufuza kwa maganizo, mu mphindi imodzi yokha chiyambi cha munthu chimapangidwa.
Ndiye maganizo awa akhoza kutsutsidwa kapena kutsimikiziridwa, zimatengera nthawi yambiri. Momwe mungapangire msonkhano woyamba musanathe, koma kungakhale kupitilira ubwenzi wachikondi kapena wachikondi.
Monga lamulo, timakonda omwe ali ngati ife. Ndi anthu oterewa ndi ovuta kulankhulana ndikuphweka kukhala ogwirizana. Anthu, omwe ali ndi chikhulupiliro ndi oyanjana bwino, amayamba kuchita mofananamo. Zimakhala kuti mukondweretse munthu wina yemwe muyenera kukhala naye. Ndipo sikofunikira kuti izi zikhale inde kudzera mwa mawu aliwonse kwa womulankhulana naye, ndipo lembani manja ake onse ngati nyani.
Ndikokwanira kukambirana zokambirana zake ndikupeza zofanana. Musakhumudwe ngati mulibe mfundo, kodi mumasowa munthu yemwe simunakhale naye ndipo simudzakhala zofanana? Pali zinsinsi zingapo za kuyankhulana komwe mungakonde chidwi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, komanso kumvetsetsa ngati mukufuna kupitiriza kulankhula naye. Tiyeni tiwone zinsinsi za kulankhulana ndi luso la mnzake wokondweretsa ndi wokongola.
Sankhani mutu wa zokambiranazo
Chofunika pa msonkhano woyamba kuti mupitirize mgwirizano ndi mutu wa zokambirana. Choncho munthu amatsimikizira kuti mumamukondweretsa bwanji. Chopambana chogonjetsa chisankho chidzakamba za munthu mwiniyo. Koma mu mutu woyaka moto ndikofunikira kutchula zokhazokha zokhazokha kwa oyankhulana, zomwe ziri zofunika kwa iye, ndikuti osati kunena zokha zomwe zimakukondweretsani. Mwachitsanzo, ponena za akaunti yake ya banki, za ntchito, ngati iye sali wovuta kwambiri. Azimayi okha amachimwa kuti tsiku lomwelo amasandulika kukhala munthu wogwira ntchitoyo yemwe amadziwa kuti ndi wotani komanso kuti akukumana ndi zotani. Zoonadi, mafunso ngati amenewa akuyenera kufotokozedwa, koma ndibwino kuti tichite pang'onopang'ono komanso mosasamala.
Zikhulupiriro
Anthu amalemekeza kwambiri zikhulupiliro zawo, ndipo ngati mutapeza chinthu chochititsa chidwi ndi chofunikira kwa woyimilira, mukhoza kukhala munthu wokondweretsa kwambiri. Pakuti oyankhulana nawo angakhale chikhumbo chothandiza ena, ntchito, ubale ndi anthu, kukonda nyama, chikondi, chitukuko ndi zikhulupiliro zina. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kupeza kuchokera kwa interlocutor zomwe amapeza phindu.
Mudzamvetsa izi mofulumira ngati mutachedwa nthawi, ngati izi ndizofunika kwa iye. Fotokozani mgwirizano wanu ndi mawu akuti: "Ndikukudziwani bwino, chifukwa sindimakonda ndekha pamene wina watachedwa." Choncho, muzisintha zikhulupiriro zake, ndipo mukulankhulana mumabweretsa maganizo anu. Ngati mumatha kupeza chinenero chimodzi, ndiye kuti interlocutor mungapange bwino kwambiri. Ndipo kwa nthawi yaitali safuna kuleka kuyankhulana nanu.
Malingaliro oterowo, pamsonkhano woyamba mumayenera kukambirana za inu panthawi yomwe ikugwirizana ndi zoyenera za interlocutor. Ngati amachita masewera, ndiuzeni za masewera anu, ngati simukuchita masewera, musati muzitchula mpaka mutakhala ndi zofuna zina.
Zochitika pawekha
Anglers awiri, anamwino awiri, msonkhano wokambirana nkhani ziwiri, amatha kupeza chinenero chimodzi. Zingakhalenso ngati mutakumana ndi munthu amene adaphunzira nawe ku yunivesite kapena kusukulu. Zomwe mukukumana nazo kapena "mapu" zimagwirizanitsa ndipo m'madera osiyana siyana zimakhala zofanana ndi "zowoneka". Pachifukwa ichi, zachikondi m'mabungwe a maphunziro ndi kuntchito ndi zophweka. Ngakhale zachizoloŵezi, zochitika zosavuta zimathandiza kukhazikitsa kukhudzana ndi kudalira.
Mudzawakumbukira abwenzi ambiri, zofanana zomwe mwakumana nazo, malo omwe mwakhalapo ndi zina zotero. Pa gawo lirilonse lakulankhulana, kuvomereza modzidzimutsa, lembani mawu pazokambirana, zomwe zidzawonekere kuti mukuyang'aniridwa ndi mzere umodzi wamba ndi interlocutor. Ngati palibe zochitika, mutha kuchilenga, mwachitsanzo, pitani ku phwando kapena masewero.
Gwiritsani ntchito msonkhano woyamba pa malo osaiŵalika, kuti mutha kukhala nawo, pamodzi ndi momwe mungathere, kugwirizana. Kumbukirani kuti palibe chomwe chingasokoneze msonkhano uno, ngati akuwopa kwambiri kulumpha ndi parachute, ndiye kuti msonkhanowu sudzawoneka ngati wapambana. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho munthu yemwe mukufuna kumukondweretsa, adziwonetsa yekha mwanjira yabwino, ndipo sangalowe mukumeneko komwe akumva kuti ndi wosatetezeka.
Sinthani zokambirana
Pamsonkhano woyamba anthu samadziwana, komabe amamvetseratu. Pachifukwa ichi, kukambirana kungabweretse ku imfa. Koma nthawi zambiri sitingalole kuti zokambirana zomwe zilipo lero zikhale zowonongeka. Ndipo zimakhala chifukwa sitidziwa momwe tingayendetsere kukambirana, tikufunsa mafunso olakwika. Funsani mafunso akuyamba ndi mawu akuti "nthawi", "bwanji", "chifukwa", "bwanji, ndi zina zotero, ndipo mukufuna yankho lowonjezera.
Kumayambiriro kwa zokambirana, mafunso otseguka ndi makina enieni. Ngati mupempha funso kwa wokondedwa wanu "Chifukwa chiyani anasankha galimoto iyi?", Adzayamba kulankhula mokondwera za galimoto yake, ndipo motero mungathe kulimbikitsa oyankhulana kuti apitirize kukambirana. Ngati mufunsa mafunso otseka omwe amasonyeza kuti yankho loti "inde" kapena "ayi" mwachitsanzo, "Kodi iyi ndi galimoto yotsika mtengo?", Kenaka kukambirana koteroko kudzafika pamapeto pake.
Nazi zitsanzo za njira yosiyana
- Zikuwoneka kuti ntchito ya mtolankhani ndi yokondweretsa, ndiuzeni chifukwa chiyani munakonda ntchitoyi? Ndi funso lotseguka.
- Kodi mumakonda ntchito yanu? - Funso lotseka.
Mafunso otsegula ndi oyenerera kuti adziwe zambiri, ndipo mafunso otsekedwa ndi oyenerera kuti afotokoze mfundoyi.
Kuti athe kumvetsera
Ngati munthu wothandizana naye ndi munthu yemwe amamveketsa yekha, ndi munthu wogwira ntchito, ndiye zimakhala zovuta kuti alankhulane ndi munthu wamba yemwe amadzibisa. Anthu amayembekeza kuti achite chimodzimodzi, ndi momwe amadziwira kuti amamvetsetsa. Kupitiliza pa izi, yesetsani kusinthasintha ndi kayendetsedwe kake, manja ndi nkhope za mnzanuyo. Ndipo sikuli koyenera kufotokoza zonse zomwe interlocutor amachita, zimangokhala momwemo.
Ngati mumalankhula ndi munthu wokwiya, yesetsani kubweza mawu anu ndi manja, kulankhula mofulumira, kufotokozani zakukhosi kwanu momveka bwino. Ndi anthu okondweretsa omwe amalankhula nawo bwino, amalumikizana bwino, samanena za iwo okha, koma nthawi yomweyo amalola omvera awo kumvetsetsa kuti ali wokondweretsa kwa iye, wofunika kwambiri kwa iye ndikumvetsetsa ndi iye. Luso limeneli limatchedwa luso lomvetsera mwachidwi. Munthu samangokhala chete, amamvetsera wokambirana, koma amalimbikitsanso wokondedwayo. Zonsezi zimapanga chikhalidwe chabwino pakati pa anthu awiri ndikukhulupirira. Zinsinsi pang'ono zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito.
Kubwereza
Lembani ndemanga za mnzanuyo m'mawu anu omwe "Kodi mukuganiza kuti mayi sayenera kugwira ntchito?" Bwerezerani mawu omaliza a mawu omwe mumayankhula nawo. Yesetsani kubwereza ndi mau okayikira mawu angapo omwe atchulidwa ndi mnzanuyo.
Kusinthasintha
Chidule cha mawu a mnzanuyo. Yesani kupanga mapangidwe a lakisiki zomwe wokondedwayo adanena. Tsatirani malingaliro anu omwe, koma tsatirani lingaliro la wokondedwayo.
Kutanthauzira
Mawu a kuganiza kwa tanthauzo lenileni la zomwe zanenedwa. Funsani kufotokozera mafunso, "Mwinamwake munganene izi chifukwa ...?", "Mwinamwake mumatanthauza kuti ...?". Gwiritsani ntchito njira ya maganizo ovomerezeka kapena mafunso oyesa: "Mwinamwake mukufuna ku ...?"
Kuyerekeza
Kuwona vuto linalake - "Munati simungayendetse galimoto, koma ndikuwona momwe mumagwirira ntchito mopanikiza magalimoto onse?".
Kusintha
"Pamene mukulankhula za ... muli ndi chiyani?". Pogwiritsira ntchito njirazi, mukhoza kuthandizana kuti muyandikane mwamsanga, kukhazikitsa chikhulupiriro, ndi kugwirizana ndi munthu mmodzi pamalingo ofanana. Choncho, pokhala ndi chidwi ndi munthu wina, mumatha kumasuka ndikudzidalira. Kumbukirani lamulo lofunika kuti interlocutor, galasilochi, zomwe zikuwonetsera zolephera zathu ndi ulemu wathu.
Tsopano tikudziwa za tsiku loyamba: chinsinsi cha kupambana, mvetserani zinsinsi za kupambana, ndipo ngati mungathe kusonyeza makhalidwe abwino omwe mnzanuyo amadzikondera nokha, ndiye mudzalandira mutu wa mkazi wokongola komanso wokondweretsa kwambiri padziko lapansi.