Atsikana ambiri amayesa kuyang'ana mafilimu achikondi, omwe akungowonongeka pamapangidwe ena m'malo mowapangitsa kukhulupirira kuti vromantiku, zimangokwiyitsa. Mwa ichi palibe chodabwitsa, pambuyo pake, filimu yowonongeka kwambiri, yosaoneka kwenikweni, ndipo olembawo ali osasunthika. Kotero, kuti mukhulupirire mu chikondi, simukusowa kuyang'ana chinachake mu dziko lopangidwira. Ndikofunika kuti muwone chikondi mu dziko lenileni.
Musamayerekezere ndi zolinga
Mtsikana aliyense ali ndi zofunikira zake za mwamuna. Ndipo sitinena za nkhani zabodza zochokera m'mabuku ndi mafilimu, koma za anthu enieni. Icho chingakhale m'bale, abambo, agogo aamuna, amalume, bwenzi lapamtima. Kawirikawiri, munthu amene mumamukhulupirira, yemwe mumamukonda, amaganizirani zabwino, ndi zina zotero. Ndili ndi mnyamata uyu ndi atsikana kuyamba kuyerekezera amuna ena onse. Ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhumudwitsidwa ndi anyamatawa, kugonana kosangalatsa kumangoyamba kukhulupirira kuti ngati munthu wawo wapamtima salipo, ndiye kuti ndibwino kukhala mmodzi kale. Makamaka, mukakhala kale m'chikondi, ngakhale ngati simukufuna.
Pachifukwa ichi, zolakwika zazimayi zimakhala kuti tikuyamba kuzindikira okondedwa athu ndi kuyang'ana zolakwa za ena. Si chinsinsi kwa wina aliyense kuti anthu onse ali ndi zofunikira zawo komanso zofooka zawo. Koma pazifukwa zina sitikufuna kuwawona iwo enieni a vnashih, koma kwa alendo timawaona kazhdymyloch. Kusankha kotereku kumachitika akazi atagwera m'manja mwa anthu omwe amaswa mitima yawo, amachita zinthu zosayenera komanso zina zotero. Ndipotu, kufufuza koteroko kwa aliyense wogonana kwambiri ndi mtundu wachisokonezo pambuyo pa chikondi chosasangalatsa. Ndipo izi ziyenera kumenyedwa. Kuthamanga kwa Av kungathandize kuthandizira koyamba. Nthawi zonse mukapeza chizindikiro chochepa, chofanizirani ndi m'bale wanu (bambo, amalume, bwenzi). Kodi mungakhululukire wokondedwa wanu chifukwa cha izi? Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti mnyamatayo sangakhale woipa. Mwachitsanzo, mukuwona kuti mnyamatayo ali chete. Nthawi yomweyo mumayamba kuganiza kuti sakusamala kuti ndi wopusa, wosasangalatsa ndipo mulibe kanthu kochita naye. Koma ngati mchimwene wanu sakonda kulankhula, ndiye kuti mukukumbutsa nokha kuti mwanjira imeneyi, ndipo ngakhale atakhala chete, amakukondani, imangowonongedwa mosiyana. Mwachidule, mumapereka ulemu wina kwa munthu wapafupi, ndipo mosiyana ndi zimenezo, mwatsutseni mlendoyo. Ngakhale simukumudziwa konse.
Dziwani anthu
Mwa njira, vuto lina kwa akazi omwe sakhulupirira mu chikondi ndikuti safuna kuti adziŵe anthu. Anthu ambiri amakhulupirira maganizo awo nthawi zambiri. Ndicho chifukwa chake, kulingalira kuti mnyamata alidi maminiti asanu oyambirira, mkazi amasankha kuti alibe chochita ndi iye ndipo amasiya kumuwona mu chibwenzi chake chotheka. Chikhumbo choterocho chofulumira kuyesa chirichonse chifukwa chakuti atsikana akuopa kuyandikira. Azimayi ambiri, kuyamba kuyang'ana mu moyo wa mnyamata, amagwirizana nawo, nkupeza, amaganiza, chinachake chapadera. Ndiyeno izo zikutulukira kuti iwo adzipanga okha. Ndipo pofuna kuti asayende pamwambo womwewo, amayi nthawi zambiri samayesa kuphunzira moyo wa munthu. Simungathe kuchita izi, chifukwa ngati nthawi zonse mumakhumudwitsa aliyense, ndiye kuti simudzamuwona munthu yemwe akukukondani kale, koma sangathe kunena izi, powona momwe mukupirira kwa abambo onse.
Kuti muphunzirenso kuyandikira kwa anthu, ingopezerani nokha maziko. Kukhala wochenjera mu ubale ndi kulephera kwathunthu ndi kosiyana kwambiri. Kotero, ngati mukufuna kuti mukhulupirire kachikondi, ndiye yesetsani kukhulupirira anthu pang'ono. Kulankhulana ndi amuna, lekani mwa iwo kufunafuna chinachake chabwino kapena choipa. Samalirani zonse, kudalira kokha pa luntha labwino. Ngati munthu amachita chinachake, anena chinachake, amapanga kusankha kwina, ingoyang'anani ndi kusanthula. Ganizirani, ndipo musaphonye mwa inu nokha, mudzaze zonse zomwe mukuchita ndikumverera kwanu. Ndiye mutha kumvetsa bwino mtundu wa anthu omwe akuyembekezerako. Musasowe kuti muweruze munthu poyang'ana. Ngakhale atakhala ataledzera ndi wosasamala, izi sizikutanthauza kuti munthuyo amachita motere nthawi zonse. Kapena mwinamwake adaledzera kwa nthawi yoyamba mu moyo wake chifukwa cha jekeseni wa vuto lalikulu la moyo. Simudziwa izi ndipo simudzadziwa ngati muthamangirira.
Dziwani chikondi chanu
Kuti mukhulupirire mu chikondi, muyenera kuchiwona. Ambiri, amakhumudwa chifukwa cha maganizo awo, amasiya kuona chikondi pakati pa ena. Ndipo izi ndi zolakwika. Komabe, pali chikondi. Inde, izo zimabweretsa kwa anthu ndi kukhumudwa, ndi ululu, koma palinso chikondi chenicheni chomwe chimakupangitsani kumwetulira ndikusangalala ndi moyo. Koma ngati mkaziyo akukhumudwa, ndiye kuti ali wokonzeka kutsutsa awiriwa, komanso makamaka theka lachimuna ndikupeza zolakwa zambiri m'makhalidwe a amuna. Simufunikanso kuponda. Ndipotu, pakati pa abwenzi anu kapena achibale anu padzakhala anthu omwe amakondana kwambiri ndipo ali okonzeka kupereka miyoyo yawo kwa theka lawo. Sikofunika kukwaniritsa chikondi chimenechi ndikuganiza kuti awiriwa alibe mavuto. Dzifunseni nokha, mukukangana pa kukhala kunja kwa nthawi ndi abwenzi ndi abwenzi omwe mumakonda kwambiri. Osati chifukwa chakuti mwadzidzidzi analeka kukonda, koma chifukwa aliyense wa ife ndi munthu, sosvoimi maganizo ndi malingaliro, chifukwa cha kusagwirizana kwa zofuna kumachitika. Choncho, kumbukirani kuti anthu achikondi amatsutsana komanso amalumbira kuti ali ndi nthawi zovuta, chikondi chenicheni chimapambana. Ndipo chikondi ichi chikuwoneka, chikuwoneka momwe anthu amawonana wina ndi mzake. Ziribe kanthu momwe nthawi ikudutsa, maso awo akuyakabe. Ndipo samafuna kusintha wina ndi mnzake, kuti apeze wina wabwino. Chifukwa iwo ali abwino kwa wina ndi mzake. Komanso, izi sizikutanthauza kukhala wabwino kwa wina aliyense.
Chikondi chenicheni chilipo m'dziko lino lapansi. Pali anthu ambiri okhumudwa omwe ayamba kuchita ndi ena monga momwe anachitira ndi iwo. Ndi chifukwa chake pang'onopang'ono padziko lapansi muli chisangalalo chochepa komanso chokhumudwitsa. Ndipo ngati mutabweretsanso anthu oterowo, ndiye kuti palibe amene angakhale bwino. Choncho, dziperekeni nokha kudzikonda nokha, pitikitsani anthu kunja. Ndipo ngati mumakondadi zenizeni, ndiye kuti simungathe kukana kumverera uku ndikuyamba kukondana ndi munthu amene amakondweretsa kwambiri.