Choyamba, muyenera kukhala okonzekera izi. Chikondi si mphatso chabe, koma luso, luso lofunikira kukonzekera. Pofuna kukonda munthu wina, sikokwanira kumangoganizira payekha, mfundo ndi yakuti munthu ayenera kuyamba payekha. Ngati ndikufuna kukomana ndi chikondi cha chikondi, ndiyambe ndikugwira ntchito ndekha, konzekerani. Chofunika kwambiri ndikuti n'kosatheka kukonda munthu wina popanda kuyamba kudzikonda. Munthu amene amalakalaka kubwereranso, ayenera kuyamba mwa iye yekha zomwe zidzasokoneza izi, kudzidziwa yekha komanso khalidwe lake, mawonekedwe ake. Kuti muzindikire ubwino wanu ndi zovuta zanu, ndipo ngati pali zopinga kapena zovuta zazikulu - ndibwino kuti muzigwira ntchito. Pofuna kukomana ndi chikondi ndi ulemu, munthu ayenera kukhala wokonzeka kumizidwa mmenemo, ndikukhazikitsa dongosolo muzochitika zina za moyo kuti asakhale ndi kumbuyo kwa mavuto aakulu osathetsa. Chikondi chimakonda kwambiri. Kuchokera pa izi zikutsatila kuti kuti mukwaniritse moyo wanu, mumayenera kukonda ndi kudziphunzira nokha ndi dziko lozungulira, kukwanitsa kuthetsa mavuto anu ndi kukonzekera mtima.
Kenaka akubwera sitepe yachiwiri - kuchitapo kanthu. Kuti tikwaniritse chikondi, chilakolako chimodzi sichikwanira, ntchito ndizofunikira. Ngati ndiyesa kudziyesa ndekha ngati nduna yapamwamba ndikukhala pakhomo, monga nsanja yapamwamba - izi sizigwira ntchito. Kuti mudziwe chikondi, muyenera kudziwana ndi anthu atsopano, khalani okonzeka komanso omasuka kulankhulana. Ndiponso, kufufuza kuli kochepa kwambiri ndi zofuna zina ndi malamulo ena. Mwachitsanzo, m'pofunika kufotokozera zofooka zazikulu zosavomerezeka kwa wokondedwa wanu, kapena anthu omwe samakugwirizana ndi inu ndikuyesera kuwapewa. Mukhoza kuwerengera zomwe mumakonda nokha ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito kuti mukwaniritse munthu wokondana naye. Mwachitsanzo, ndimakonda kuwerenga mabuku, mabuku ndi ma libraries, ndikufuna kuti wosankhidwa wanga agawane nawo chikondi changa cha mabuku. Kuti mukumane ndi munthu wotero, ndikwanira kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yochuluka m'malo oyenera, osayankhula kulankhula ndi munthu wina, kuti mukambirane ntchito yomwe mumakonda. Ngati muwona kuti wina akugwira buku lanu lokonda kwambiri ndikuliwerenga mosangalala - mukhoza kulankhula ndi mlendoyo ndikukambirana naye zomwe akumva pambuyo powerenga. Ngati zokonda zanu zikusintha, mtsogolomu mungakumane. Bwanji ngati zikutanthauza kukhala munthu amene akufunikira? Ngati sichoncho, mukhoza kukhalabe mabwenzi nthawi zonse, khalani ndi nthawi yosangalatsa ndikucheza. Kapena mwadzidzidzi, tsoka lidzasintha kusintha moyo. Koma mulimonsemo, musakhale obtrusive, ngati mungathe kuona kuti munthu ali wofunitsitsa kuntchito ina, ndibwino kubwereranso ndipo osasokoneza naye. Amafotokoza momveka bwino zofuna zake ndipo amafunika kulemekezedwa.
Kuti muthe kukondana, mumayenera kumvetsetsa zambiri za moyo, za anthu. Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri chikondi chimagwirizana ndi zaka zambiri. Kuwonjezera pa kukonzekera, mumakhalanso ndi chidziwitso. Muyenera kusiyanitsa munthu wabwino ndi munthu woipa, munthu amene akukufunirani ngati munthu komanso yemwe angokugwiritseni ntchito. Muyeneranso kudziwa zomwe mumafuna pamoyo, zomwe mukufuna, komanso kufunafuna munthu amene angagawane maganizo anu. Sikokwanira kupeza munthu amene angakukondeni, mumasowa wina yemwe mumamuyembekezera m'tsogolo ndipo ubwenzi wake ndi iye udzakhala wolimba komanso wautali. Kunenedwa molondola mu nthawi zakale - chikondi ndi pamene simukuyang'ana wina ndi mzake, koma mwa njira imodzi. Ngati muli ndi malingaliro ndi zofuna zosiyana ndi munthu, chikondi sichitha kukhala motalika kwambiri, ndipo sichidzapindula kwenikweni.
Lamulo lina lofunikira lomwe liyenera kukhazikitsidwa ndilo kuti mwamsanga simukufunikira pano. Kusagwirizana ndi chidaliro ndi zofunika. Musathamangire, kuumiriza, mwakhama komanso mwakhama kuti muwone mwamuna aliyense kukhala mwamuna. Izi zidzakhala zolakwitsa zomveka. Komanso nkoyenera kukhala ndi chidaliro mu luso lanu, kumbukirani kuti ngati ndikufuna kukomana ndi chikondi - ndikuchipeza. Sikofunika kuti mukhalebe ndi amuna omwe simukutsimikizirika, kapena osayenera, kapena kukhala ndi zofooka zambiri, kuti mukonzekere chinachake, kutseka maso anu ku zinthu zina. Nthawi zonse muyenera kupita patsogolo.
Lamulo lofunika kwambiri ndi njira ya kuyenda ndi chikhulupiriro. Ngati mwachita zolakwa zambiri, lekani kukhulupilira mu chikondi, ngakhale mukufuna kuti mukwaniritse, ngati mutasiyidwa, kapena mwakukhumudwitsani, ndipo kuyesa kupeza chikondi chenicheni simunapambane - musakhumudwe. Timaphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwitsa, tiyenera kuyang'anitsitsa nthawi zonse ndipo tisayang'ane mmbuyo. Izi zikhoza kuchitika kokha ngati mukufunika kufufuza mkhalidwe, muzochitika zina zonse muyenera kupitilirapo, kukhulupirira ndi kukonda. Ngati mukufuna, mukufuna, mudzapeza. Chikondi chopitirira nthawi - chikhoza kuchitika mtsogolo kapena kale, nthawi iliyonse ya moyo. Koma muzochitika zonsezi, muyenera kukhala okonzeka, kufuna, kukhulupirira ndi kukonda, mpaka palibe kukayikira - apa ndilo, chikondi chapadera chomwe ndakhala ndikuchifuna moyo wanga wonse.