Ndipotu, munthu aliyense m'chikhalidwe chake amakonda m'njira yake, ndi chikondi chake. Izi zikusonyeza kuti chikondi cha wina ndi mzake ndi chosiyana, chifukwa amagwirizanitsa mitundu iwiri ya chikondi, ndikupanga "subspecies" zawo. Komabe, n'zotheka kuzindikira khalidwe lalikulu la chikondi, komanso mitundu yambiri ya mawonetseredwe akumverera uku.
Kodi chikondi chikuwonetsedwa bwanji?
Chikondi kwa amuna kapena akazi chimasonyezedwa ngati kusintha kwa thupi m'thupi la munthu wachikondi, ndi mawonetseredwe akunja mu mawonekedwe a chisamaliro chowonjezeka, kumvetsera kwa wokondedwa. Monga lamulo, zisonyezero zonse za chikondi zimagawidwa m'magulu atatu akulu:
- Zisonyezero za chikondi - gululi limaphatikizapo mafotokozedwe omveka bwino a chikondi mwa mawonekedwe achikondi ndi zilakolako, matamando osiyanasiyana, kutanthauzira mawu amvekedwe ("kusowa", mawu okhudza chikondi), njira yolankhulirana yolankhulana pamitu yodabwitsa.
- Gulu la mawu omveka achikondi ndi mawonetseredwe achikondi mwa machitidwe ena ndipo zimaphatikizapo mphatso kwa munthu wokondedwa, kugwirizana kwa thupi (kugwedeza, kupsompsona, kumwetulira, kugonana, ndi zina zotero), ndi zina zotero.
- Zisonyezero zosasangalatsa za chikondi, zomwe zikuphatikizapo mitundu iwiri yoyamba ya mawonetseredwe - kuthandizira pa chirichonse, malonjezo ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwake, kuyendera kwa abwenzi a wokondedwa, kukhazikitsidwa pamodzi kwa milandu iliyonse.
Kuonjezerapo, chikondi chimasonyezanso ndi kusintha mkati mwa chikhalidwe cha munthu. Ichi ndi chifukwa cha kusintha kwa mahomoni m'thupi. Choyamba chimachitika pa chikondi ndi chikondi ndi glands za adrenal: zimamasula m'thupi lonse mavitamini (cortisol, adrenaline ndi norepinephrine). Zomwezo, zimayambitsa kukhumudwa kwa chikondi, osati nthawi zonse zokondweretsa. Cortisol imapangitsa thupi kukhala lolimba mphamvu ya mphamvu, norepinephrine "imapereka" kusewera kwachisokonezo cha chisangalalo ndi kukondana kwa kugonana, koma kuthamanga kwa mtima, kutuluka thukuta, kupuma mofulumira komanso kuthamanga kwa magazi kumachititsa adrenaline.
Monga lamulo, zonsezi zapitazo zimaphatikizapo panthawi ya chikondi komanso kuchokera ku maonekedwe a thupi zimapangitsa kuti ntchito yayikulu yaumunthu ikhale yopitilira - kukula kwa mtundu. Ngati anthu angakhale ndi mawonekedwe apamwamba kwambiri a malingaliro - chikondi, ndiye kuwonjezeka kwa mahomoni kumachepetsa. Chochititsa chidwi: chikondi chiri ndi mawonetseredwe apamwamba (kukhulupirika, chikondi, ndi mgwirizano wa abale); malingaliro onsewa amapangidwa ndi "mahomoni a umodzi" - vasopressin ndi oxytocin. Zimadziwika kuti oxytocin imapangidwa panthawi yobereka ndi kuyamwitsa, ndipo vasopressin imapangidwa ndi amuna panthawi ya kugonana. Chifukwa cha mahomoni awa, ndipo palikumverera kotukuka monga chikondi.
Kusiyanitsa khalidwe
Nchifukwa chiyani chikondi chiri ndi khalidwe losemphana chotero? Lero, munthu amakuuzani kuti amamukonda, ndipo mawa amatha usiku womwewo kale. Inde, ndipo sikuli kosavuta kumvetsa kumverera kwanu ...
Choyamba, zolakwa zonse ndi ma hormone omwewo. Chibadwa choyambirira chikugwira ntchito ngati wotchi. Komabe, pali anthu, monga nyama, osabadwira kuti azigonana okhaokha. Kusintha kwa wokondedwa nthawi zonse, kufufuza kosatha - cholinga chawo cha moyo. Ndipotu anthuwa nthawi zambiri sapeza chidziwitso chenicheni ndi kugonana. Kawirikawiri amauzidwa za iwo: "Iwo okha sadziwa zomwe akufuna."
Ena m'mabanja awo amatsogoleredwa ndi nzeru komanso phindu limodzi. Ikugwirizanitsa kale "mphamvu ya kulingalira," munthu akuyang'ana munthu yemwe iye adzakhala ndi chuma chamumtima mu moyo. Apa ndi pamene miyala yamadzi pansi pa madzi imakhala. Anthu amene akwatirana chifukwa choganizirana, nthawi zambiri "kupita kumanzere" ndi kudana ndi osankhidwa awo.
Pofunafuna bwenzi, mkazi, ndi mwamuna, nthawi zambiri (ngakhale osadziwa izi) amatsogoleredwa ndi makhalidwe akunja. Izi ndi zomveka: kuti tikulitse mtunduwu, timasankha wokondedwa wabwino pa deta, zomwe zingapereke ana abwinobwino. Nthawi zambiri, amunawa ndi mitala. Kwa Mayi Nature, ndizopindulitsa kwambiri: munthu ayenera kupereka mochuluka momwe angathere ana apamwamba, koma kwa mkazi - ndizokhumudwitsa kwathunthu mwa amuna ndi m'moyo.
Miyoyo yokhudzana
Chowonadi cha moyo ndi chabwino: "Sankhani nokha anthu oterewa omwe muli nawo ndipo mutha kukhala ndi chinachake choti muwakambirane, m'tsogolomu chidzabwera bwino."
Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi ali ndi zochitika zofanana, msinkhu womwewo wa maphunziro ndi nzeru, ndiye kuti sipadzakhala kusalingana mukumvetsetsa. Ngakhale zidzatheka kuphunzira pamodzi zinenero zachilendo, kuphunzira maphunziro atsopano ndikuwerenga mabuku ofanana.
Mgonero umodzi sungakhale wodzaza, ndipo ngati moyo sukwanira "moyo", ndiye kuti ubale wawo posachedwa kapena mtsogolo umapereka chisokonezo. Ngakhale, ndikofunika kufufuza ubwino ndi chisokonezo ndikusankha zomwe zili pafupi kwambiri ndi inu.
Nanga bwanji za kugonana?
Pa nthawi yomweyo, popanda mgwirizano mu ubale wapamtima, sipadzakhalanso ubale weniweni ngati umenewu. Popanda chilakolako chogonana kwa wina ndi mzake, ndipo chifukwa chake, popanda kugonana kwabwinobwino sipadzakhalanso ubale wabwino. Ngati chinachake chiri cholakwika mu mtima, ndiye kuti mwinamwake mkaziyo adzalowabe, koma mwamunayo sangayembekezere. Choncho, ndi bwino kusankha wosakwatirana ndi mfundo za thupi.
Kodi pali mabwenzi abwino?
Izi zimakhala kuti pa ubale wangwiro, payenera kukhala kugonana bwino komanso kukambirana moona mtima. Pano pano nthawi zambiri nestykovochka: ngati ndi bwino kugona, si zabwino kwambiri kumvetsetsa, komanso mosiyana. Ndipo chifukwa chake ndi chiani? Osati mu mphamvu ya mahomoni omwewo? Kawirikawiri, kumayambiriro, pamakhala kukondana, kukonda, kukhumba, kugonana, ndiyeno ubale, ngati ulipo. Kumbali ina, izi sizikutanthauza kuti ubale weniweni wa platonic m'tsogolomu udzakhala wopambana.
Komabe, kulibe mgwirizano wabwino. Ngati maubwenzi oterewa apanga, ndiye kuti sangamvetsetsedwe ndi chikondi chosiyana, ndipo mawonekedwe ake adzawonetsedwa kwambiri. Pokhapokha pa chiyanjano chotero, pakadalibe kulemekezana, kumvetsetsa, ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, ndithudi, chikondi! ..