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Kuti muphunzire momwe mungalankhulire ndi anthu, nkofunika kudziyika nokha muzinthu zotere, zomwe sizingatheke kukhala wamanyazi ndi kuwononga. Pofuna kukwaniritsa ntchitoyi, n'zosavuta kusankha ntchito yomwe imatanthauza kulankhulana nthawi zonse ndi makasitomala. Mwamwayi, tsopano pali ntchito zambiri zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuphunzira kulankhula ndi mica. Mwachitsanzo, wolimbikitsa, wogulitsa malonda kapena wogulitsa. Ndipo mumayenera kuchotsa mwayi wina, kuti mudziwe: ngati sindiyankhula ndi anthu, ndiye kuti ndidzakhala ndi njala ya pulayimale. Zinthu izi zimakhala zovuta, koma mosiyana, mungathe kupeza zofuna zanu nokha ndikuchotsa mavuto anu.
Kawirikawiri anthu amalangizidwa kuti aziyenda mumsewu ndikudziwana ndi anthu. Komabe, njira iyi kwa munthu wamanyazi ndi yovuta kwambiri, chifukwa si aliyense amene angakwanitse kuchita izi moyenera komanso mokwanira. Kotero ndi bwino kusankha njira yochepa kwambiri, yomwe ndi ntchito. Pankhaniyi, mumamvetsetsa ndipo mukhoza kufotokoza kwa anthu chifukwa chake muwafunse. Kuonjezera apo, chifukwa cha momwe mumalankhulira, mumalipidwa ndalama, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mukulimbikitsana.
Nthawi yomweyo khalani okonzekera kuti poyambirira zidzakhala zovuta kwa inu. Ndi mafilimu omwe munthu amatenga ndikuyamba kuyankhulana ndi kasitomala wachitatu. Momwemo, mumayenera kukambirana ndi wina wachitatu, ndipo ndimasabata makumi awiri ndi atatu ndi makumi asanu ndi atatu, mpaka mutenge kuti mungalankhulane naye mwamtendere, mawu anu asamveke, simukuponyedwa mukutentha ndi kuzizira, ndipo simukufuna kuthamanga kuchoka kuntchito mpaka apo , kumene sipadzakhala munthu mmodzi. Choncho, zitsimikizirani kuti ntchito yomwe ili patsogolo panu ndi yovuta kwambiri. Koma vypolnimaya.Poetomu musakhumudwe ndi kudzidzudzula nokha, pamene nthawi yoyamba iwe udzakhala woipa. Kumbukirani kuti mulibe cholakwa ndipo simuyenera kunyoza. Mukuchita ntchito yanu, choncho anthu alibe ufulu wolankhulana nanu. Koma ngakhale izi zitachitika, musadzitsutse nokha. Inu munanyalanyazidwa kwambiri kapena munanena chinachake chosasangalatsa, osati chifukwa ndinu munthu woyipa, osakambirana momasuka. Ndizowona kuti wothandizana naye anali ndi maganizo oipa, adatopa ndi mavuto ena kapena iye mwiniyo ndi wamba wosadziwika. Ngati nthawi zonse mumadzikonza nokha, ndiye kuti pakapita nthaŵi muzindikire kuti simunayankhe mwatsatanetsatane mawu ovuta. Kuwonjezera apo, simusowa kuti anthu onse akufuna kukukhumudwitsani, sakufuna kuyankhulana, ndi zina zotero. Pakati pa makasitomala anu muli ophatikizana okondweretsa komanso abwino, mutatha kukambirana zomwe mudzakhala nawo mwachikondi m'malingaliro anu. Ndikhulupirire, ndi chifukwa cha anthu otere kuti muphunzire momwe mungalankhulire. Mwa njira, musaiwale nokha kuti mutamandidwe pang'ono. Aloleni ena asadziwone ngakhale. Koma inu mukudziwa momwe zinaliri zovuta kwa inu. Choncho musaiwale kudzilimbikitsanso ndikusangalala ndi zomwe mwakwanitsa. Kumbukirani kuti si anthu onse ocheza nawo komanso olankhulana nthawi zonse omwe ali choncho. Ambiri a iwo nthawi ina ankaopa kuti abwere ndikufunsanso kuti ndi nthawi yanji kapena nthawi yanji. Koma adagwira ntchito paokha ndipo pamapeto pake adapeza zotsatira, zomwe mukuzichita tsopano.
Zotsutsa ndi zolemba
Kulephera kuyankhulana nthawi zambiri kumangotanthauzira osati manyazi chabe, komanso chifukwa cha kusowa kwachinyengo. Kawirikawiri anthu amadzimva kuti sadziwa zomwe angayankhule ndi munthu kapena samamvetsetsa zokambirana zomwe zikuchitika mdziko. Ndicho chifukwa chake, kuti akhale oyankhulana, munthu amafunikanso kukhala wovuta. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuphunzira sayansi zonse ndikuwerenga mabuku onse padziko lapansi. Komabe muyenera kuwerenga, ndipo mukhoza kuwerenga zambiri. Komanso, ziyenera kukhala mabuku, ndi nkhani zamakono zamakono, ndi nkhani zamakono. Pamene mukukambirana, amatha kukambirana za mavuto awo, kapena mavuto a anthu, kapena amayamba kufotokozera nkhani zina, osayikira kulimbikitsa maganizo awo ndi mabuku omwe amawerengedwa. Ngati mutha kukamba za mavuto omwe mukukumana nawo chifukwa cha zomwe mwakumana nazo, mitu ina iwiri silingakambirane ngati mulibe chidziwitso china.
Inde, apa ena anganene kuti sakonda kuwerenga. Pankhaniyi, pali mndandanda wa zochitika zina: penyani TV, mvetserani ku wailesi ndi audio audio. M'dziko lamakono, mauthenga amabwera kwa munthu nthawi zonse, amangofunika "kulowetsa m'maganizo abwino," osalowa m'maganizo mwanu zinthu zosiyanasiyana zowonongeka zomwe sizidzakuthandizani pokambirana ndi anthu okwanira komanso okondweretsa. Mwa njira, mutakhala ndi chidziwitso chokwanira m'madera osiyanasiyana, kuyankhulana ndi anthu ena sikudzakhalanso kovuta. Ndipo zonse chifukwa cha kuti mumvetsetsa zomwe akunena za inu. Palibe zodabwitsa kuti akunena: kudziwa - kumatanthauza zida. Anthu amanyazi ndi osalankhula amawopsya kuchokera kwa anthu omwe sakumvetsa. Zikuwoneka kuti ngati akunena mokweza, adzawaseka. Koma pamene munthu ali ndi chidaliro m'mawu ake, mantha awa amatha ndipo amayamba kukambirana mwachibadwa, nena mfundo zosangalatsa ndi zina zotero. Pakapita nthawi, aliyense amaiwalika kuti atangokhala osalankhulana ndipo akhoza kukhala pangodya madzulo onse popanda kunena mawu.
Chabwino, chinthu chomaliza chomwe muyenera kukumbukira ndi luso la luso. Anthu ambiri amachita manyazi kulankhula chifukwa ali ndi mantha kwambiri. Choncho, mawu awo amayamba kunjenjemera, lilime limasokonezeka, mawu amasokonezeka ndipo ena samvetsa zomwe akufuna kunena. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kulankhula momveka bwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mukakhala nokha m'nyumba, imani pagalasi ndikuuzeni zomwe mukufuna kuuza ena. Samalirani zomwe mumanena. Ngati mutayamba mantha, tonthola nokha. Muyenera kukonda malingaliro anu ndi momwe akuuzani. Ngati mumadziwona nokha, monga wolankhula zolakwika - ntchito nadpoloy. Mwachitsanzo, muzoloŵere kulankhula pang'ono pang'onopang'ono kapena onetsetsani kuti mukulongosola mawu onse momveka bwino. Mukachita izi nthawi zonse, posachedwa mudzaopa kunena kanthu pagulu.