Nthawi yatsopano, nyimbo zatsopano
Makhalidwe apabanja - izi ndizofunika, zofunika (tautology, koma palibe njira!), Kulemekezedwa ndi mamembala onse, gawo lonse la zofuna zawo. Kwa mbali zambiri, miyambo ya banja ndi yofanana: chikondi, kholo, kukhulupilika, kudalira, kugwirizana ndi makolo, nyumba ... Mwachidule, chirichonse chomwe banja ndi banja sizimavuta kuyitanira. Kuwonjezera apo - banja lomwelo, monga chinthu chokhalira pamodzi, ndilofunika! Koma nthawi zotchulidwazo sizowonjezereka, chifukwa anthu amakula, gawo lililonse liri ndi mtundu wake wa chiyanjano pakati pa anthu oyandikana nawo ndi zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi machitidwewa. Chitsanzo: Pamene ntchito yowonongeka inalipo isanayambe zaka za makumi awiri ndi makumi awiri, mabanja akulu anali ofunikira, kapena - kukhala ndi mabanja ambiri okhudzana pamodzi - wina ayenera kulima munda, kuchita ulimi. Pokufika zaka makumi awiri, zonse zinasintha: kuchokera ku chiwerengero cha mamembala, kulemera kwake sikudalira, pachiyambi - "khalidwe" lawo: maphunziro, chikhalidwe cha anthu. Kusintha kwa zinthu zofunika m'banjamo ndi koonekeratu: Ana ambiri ndi mibadwo yambiri kapena nthambi zina zomwe zimakhalapo pamtunda wa mamita asanu ndi awiri amakhala pafupi, malo awo amatengedwa ndi atsopano: mmodzi kapena ana awiri m'banja ndipo amafunikira nyongolotsi banja lawo. Zina mwa kusintha kumeneku ndi zabwino, zina siziri. Zosintha zikuchitikanso masiku ano. Komanso, anapatsidwa chigamulo chamakono cha moyo - ngakhale kwambiri. Kodi ndi makhalidwe otani amene amachotsa akale komanso momwe angasungire zabwino?
Ufulu wosankha
Zakhala zofunika kwambiri, zomwe mamembala aliyense amapereka mwayi wodzifotokoza, kumvetsetsa kuti umunthu wake suphwanyidwa. Choyamba chimakhudza akazi ndi ana. Chifukwa chake ndi chakuti lero amayi - nthawi zambiri amapindula kwambiri, kapena ayi, amuna, omwe amawapatsa ufulu umenewu (ubongo umathandizirapo). Kwa ana, amaganiza, amalenga ndi kuwona zinthu mosiyana mosiyana ndi makolo awo, nthawi zambiri - mochuluka kwambiri. Poona kuti ana amakula patapita zaka zambiri, akulu amafooketsa zolinga zawo. Mtengo watsopano, ndithudi, ndi wabwino, koma wina ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti ufulu uyenera kugwirizanitsidwa ndi udindo - chifukwa cha zochita zako. Ndipo abambo ayenera kulenga kuyambira ali ndi zaka sikisi - onse kwa atsikana ndi anyamata. Pa msinkhu uwu mwanayo amapita kusukulu ndipo amachoka kumalo osungira mphamvu za amayi, koma bwanji abambo? Akazi ndi ocheperapo, amamvera chisoni ana awo, choncho amakhululukira zambiri. Bamboyo amadziwa mtengo wa mawu omwe wapatsidwa, amawusamalira, ndipo amatha kuwusonyeza mwanayo, ndiko kuti, kuwuphunzitsa mwachitsanzo. Bambo adzalandira yankho la funso lakuti "Chifukwa chiyani munachita izi?" Ndipo amayi anga adzadandaula. Ngati mumva, zina mwachinsinsi kuchokera kwa mwana ali ndi zaka 6, mudzamva mu 16.
Malo Okhaokha
Ichi ndicho chosowa cha membala aliyense m'banja mwachindunji cha kudzipulumutsa. Panthawi yovuta komanso kutopa, anthu anayamba kuyesetsa kuti asakhale ndi mtendere komanso kuti akhale mwamtendere. Mabanja achichepere - makamaka, koma nthawi zambiri amakakamizidwa kukhala ndi makolo awo. Kukanika kwa mamembala atsopano kukhala nawo, malinga ndi zenizeni, ndizoyenera. Koma mtengo uwu unawononga mgwirizano wachiwiri - wolimba m'banja. Kuchita chikondwerero cha chaka chimodzi pamodzi ndi achibale a misinkhu yonse kuchokera m'madera onse ndizosawerengeka, zomwe zimawononga mizu ya banja lamphamvu. Kawirikawiri ana sakudziwa mayina a agogo awo aamuna omwe anamwalira, azakhali amakhala azakhali. Njira yokhayo yotulukira ndikuphunzire ndikujambula banja lanu. Dziwani makolo anu ndizochitika. Kuonjezera apo, ndiwothandiza kwambiri m'maganizo a maganizo, chifukwa pamene kuwerenga "mizu" nthawi yomweyo kumawona mibadwo yambiri: momwe iwo anachitira muzosiyana siyana za agogo ndi aakazi, ndi ana angati omwe anali nawo, kaya anali osakhulupirika m'banja. Chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kuweruza: ngati iwo sali, sitidzakhalanso. Koma zokhudzana ndi mfundo kaya ndikukhulupilira kulera ana kwa agogo, - maganizo a akatswiri a maganizo amasiyana. Kumbali imodzi, chiri chitsimikizo chotsimikizika kuti mwanayo adziwa mtundu wake wabwino, podziwa kusintha kwa mibadwo, adzalemekeza miyambo ya banja. Koma, kumbali inayo, agogo aakazi - malingaliro ochepa a nthawi yayitali ndi achinyamata omwe safunikira. Kuonjezera apo, mphamvu ya okalamba ili ndi zotsatira zoipa pa magazi aang'ono - Asilavo anali otsimikiza za izo. Chifukwa chake, chifukwa cha maholide ndi masiku omwe amachokera kwa agogo - kuwala kobiriwira, kuti aphunzire kwamuyaya - wofiira.
Gulu lachibale
Ili ndi mawonekedwe atsopano a maubwenzi m'banjamo (makamaka pokhala opanda ana), momwe chikondi chachikulu sichimasewera chigawenga choyambirira: ndizokwanira chabe chitonthozo, chilolezo, ulemu. Izi ndizo maziko. Awiri awiriwa ndi ochuluka: okondedwa ndi abwino, palimodzi pamodzi ndipo palibe chomwe chingasokoneze mgwirizano wawo, mgwirizano udzakhalapo. Makhalidwe apamtima a iyeyo ndi iye, kuthekera kwokhoza kulimbana ndi zochitika zomwe sizilizonse zokhulupirika kwa dongosolo lamanjenje, ndizofunikira apa. Njira yabwino yothetsera vuto lirilonse ndi kusakhala ndi makhalidwe oipa ndi amatsenga ndi chizindikiro cha banja lotero. Kusudzulana ndi dzina lachikazi pakali pano si kulephera kapena kulephera, koma kungochotsa mkangano. Ngakhale palibe ana, palibe cholakwika ndi zatsopano, chifukwa aliyense amapeza zomwe akufuna. Koma mwana akhoza kuthyola idyll yovuta (kutsimikizira kuti tsopano wina ali woyenera wina), ndiyeno banja limodzi losakwanira lidzakhala lalikulu. Njira yochokeramo ikadzabadwa mwana wolowa nyumba ndipo sichidzasokoneza mau a "mgwirizano". Mwa njira, kumverera kumakhala kozizira pansi pa nthawi, ndipo kukhalapo kwanthawi zonse kwa ulemu ndi kumvetsetsa, ngakhale popanda chikondi chilakolako, ndilo mwala wapangodya mu maziko a banja.