Kotero, momwe mungapangire anyamata kuti azilemekezani inu - tiyeni tiganizire za nkhaniyi palimodzi. Pachifukwa ichi nkofunikira kumvetsa chomwe chimapangitsa kuti anthu asamalemekeze, chikuchitika ndi chifukwa chake simukuwonekeratu kuti ndinu ofanana. Mnyamata aliyense amawona mkazi kapena chinthu chosamalidwa, kapena bwenzi, kapena kuphatikiza zonse ziwiri. Kuti mnyamata wokondedwa azilemekeze, ndi bwino kutchula njira yotsirizayo. Pachifukwa ichi, mnyamata samakuwona kokha kukopa, komanso malingaliro, erudition ndi makhalidwe ena ambiri omwe amawayamikira. Kodi ndingachite chiyani kuti amuzindikire kuti sikuti mumangothamanga, koma ndi mayi yemwe mungathe kukambirana naye chilichonse.
Ndipotu, sikovuta kumupangitsa mnyamata kuyamikira inu osati chivundikiro chokongola. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti mumadziwa kuti mulidi erudite kwa iye. Amayi ambiri amapanga kulakwitsa kuti mnyamata amupembedza iye wokongola yekha. Inde, izo zidzatero, koma osati kwa nthawi yaitali. Pofuna kugonana nthawi yaitali, nkofunika kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu, kukhalabe wosangalatsa osati kunja kokha, komanso mkati.
Kotero, ndi zofunikira ndi zosankha ziti zomwe zimayenera kuthandizidwa kuti wokondedwa amakulemekezeni, ndipo samutsogolera ngati chidole chokongola?
Pachifukwa ichi, ndikofunika kuti mufanane ndi nzeru. Mnyamata aliyense adzakondwera, podziwa kuti mkazi wake amamuyamikira osati chifukwa chakuti ali ndi chikhalidwe chokongola, komanso nzeru zodabwitsa. Choncho, ngati mukuona kuti simukudziwa ndipo simukumvetsa, yesetsani kumvetsa. Musati muzichita zinthu zonse nokha, chifukwa zinthu zina ndizovuta kumvetsa nokha. Ndikhulupirire, zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwa munthu wamba kuti akufotokozereni zomwe simukuzidziwa, koma kwa iye ndi skate. Choyamba, zidzakhala mwayi wina womverera ngati munthu wamphamvu ndi wanzeru, ndipo, kachiwiri, adzakulemekezani chifukwa chozindikira kuti simudziwa zonse, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo kuyesera kumvetsetsa ndi kuzindikira malo atsopano omwe anali kwa inu musanadziwe izi.
Amuna ambiri amalemekeza amayi omwe amamvetsa zomwe zimatchedwa "amuna". Zingakhale chilichonse: makina, mapulogalamu, mapiri. Ngati inu mulidi Ass ku chinachake chonga icho - ulemu umatsimikiziridwa kwa inu. Ndizofunikira kuti musonyeze chidziwitso chanu nthawi, koma musamapanikize anthu ndi nzeru. Mkazi waluntha ndi mkazi wachikazi, yemwe mwa maonekedwe onse amasonyeza kuti mwamuna wamwamuna ndi wamng'ono kwambiri kuposa iyeyo - izi ndizosiyana kwambiri. Musaiwale izi ndipo musagwedeze ndodoyo.
Inde, anyamata amalemekeza osati nzeru zokha. Pali njira zambiri zomwe mungapezere ulemu kwa amuna. Mwachitsanzo, achinyamata amakonda akazi amphamvu komanso anzeru. Choncho, wina sakusowa kukonzekera hysteria ndi anyamata. Izi zimapangitsa iwo kukwiya komanso kumangokhumudwitsa. Kaya zili bwanji, yesetsani kuganiza mofatsa. Ndibwino kukangana, kupereka uphungu, koma osapereka maganizo anu kwa wina aliyense. Amuna amakonda ndi kulemekeza amayi omwe samatsuka, samakhala achisoni, koma amayesetsa kuchita zonse zomwe angathe, osatembenukira kuzimayi.
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, kwa mwamuna ndikofunika kuti mkazi azikonda komanso azidzilemekeza. Ngakhale mutadziwa kuti simuli chitsanzo chabwino, musamalankhulane ndi achinyamata, kudandaula za maonekedwe anu ndi kunena kuti simukusowa aliyense. Njira iyi yaulemu siinakwaniritsidwe. Choyamba, muyenera kudziŵa zoyenera zanu ndipo nthawi zonse muziwatsindika. Amuna samakonda kulemekeza zokongola zomwe sitiri kuwala ndi nzeru. Inde, iwo amawakonda iwo, koma monga chinthu chogonana, osati monga bwenzi la moyo. Koma iwo amalemekeza kwambiri atsikana omwe amatha kutsindika ulemu wawo ndi kubisala zofooka zawo, pokhalabe ophweka poyankhulana ndi kudzidalira.
Inde, ndikuyenera kuzindikira kuti nthawi zonse amuna akhala ndi malingaliro othandizira amayi omwe sali okonda, kuyesera kutsindika kulungama kwawo, kupunduka kwakukulu komanso kukhudzidwa. Ambiri a iwo amafunika kuona mkazi mwa mkazi, nthawi ndi nthawi, omwe amatha kumvetsa zofuna zawo, saopa zovuta ndipo sadzawakumbutsa nthawi zonse kuti ali mtsikana, choncho aliyense ayenera kumuthandiza.
Amuna amalemekeza amayi chifukwa chakuti akhoza kukhala okha. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti kuyamikira, kutumizidwa ku kukongola kwanu, sikuli nthawi zonse kulingalira kuti mumalemekezedwa. Anyamata akhoza kuyang'ana maonekedwe, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amalankhulana za momwe mumaphunzitsira nzeru, komanso kuti mulibe kanthu kochita, kupatula momwe mumayendera maonekedwe ndi kugonana.
Chifukwa chokhulupirira kuti mumalemekezedwa, mungakhale mawu abwino a anyamata onena za mphamvu yanu, nzeru, kumvetsetsa. Amuna alemekeze omwe angathe kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi iwo ndikukumvetsa mavuto awo. Makhalidwe amenewa amathandizira kwambiri pamene mukufuna kukhala mabwenzi ndi abwenzi a anyamata anu. Ngati mtsikanayo sachita mantha ndi nkhani zamwamuna, akhoza kuthandizira kukambirana ndi kumvetsa zofuna za anyamata - amalemekezedwa.
Wokondedwayo adzakulemekezani mukamaphunzira kukhala wodekha komanso wololera, mungapereke uphungu wofunikira, koma simunganene kuti maganizo anu ndi okhawo oyenera, mukhoza kumvetsetsa ndikuyamba kuchita chidwi ndi zokopa zake, osati chabe khalani ngati mukufuna kudziwa kanthu za izo. Ndiye adzawona mwa iwe mkazi yemwe mungamukhulupirire, yemwe mungamukonde, komanso, ulemu.