Ndani mwa ife alibe mtsikana amene amayamba chikondi chatsopano, amaiwala za anthu onse, akubatizidwa mu chiyanjano chatsopano ndi chibwenzi chake chotsatira. Kenaka patapita nthawi, akukumbukira nambala yanu ya foni mwadzidzidzi, ndipo tsiku ndi tsiku kwa maola ambiri amamenyetsa mutu wanu ndi zomwe akudziŵa, kudzikonda, ndi zamwano, momwe sananyalanyaze zomwe sanachite ngati akufunikira izi. Inu, monga bwenzi lomvera, mvetserani zonsezi, musamukumbutse kuti sanakumbukire zambiri za kukhalapo kwanu nthawi ina yapitayo. Pambuyo pa zonse, mumamvetsa zonse, abambo amabwera, ndipo ubwenzi ndi amayi ndizofunikira kwambiri komanso zokhutira.
Ngati mutaganizira zonsezi, mumayamba kudzifunsa kuti ndichifukwa chiyani izi zikubwerezedwa osati ndi anzathu okha, komanso nafe. Ndipo chifukwa chiyani sitisintha chilichonse mu ubale wathu, popeza pali zifukwa zambiri zodandaula? Mwina chifukwa chake ndikuti timangokonda kuti nthawi zina timadandaula. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani timadzikonda tokha? Ndi momwe mungachotsere chizolowezi choipa ichi?
1. Izi zimatithandiza kuti tizimva ngati kamtsikana kachiwiri
Ambiri, pokhala ana, amagwiritsa ntchito njirayi. Kunyada pang'ono, kubwezeredwa kunalandira chithandizo ndi chikondi. Kukula, nthawi zina timafuna kuti zonse zikhale ngati kale, kuti muthe kupanga malancholy grimace, gwiritsani maondo anu kwa amayi anu okondedwa, omwe nthawi zonse amva chisoni ndikuchita. Koma ndi bwino kuganizira kuti zizoloŵezi ndi zilakolako zoterezi sizingafanane ndi zotsatira zabwino zogonana. Ngati poyamba mnzanuyo ndikugwirizana kuti akuwonereni msungwana wamng'ono yemwe nthawi zina amafunika kuti awonongeke, pamapeto pake adzakufuna kuti ukule.
2. Izi zimatipatsa mwayi wovutika, popanda kuchita chilichonse
Sitidzawuza kuti kufotokozera uku kumasonyeza malingaliro abwino a zinthu zakunja. Aliyense m'moyo amakhala ndi zovuta zomwe akufuna kuti azifooka, podziwa kuti pali winawake yemwe ali pafupi omwe angathandize. Koma ngati kudzimvera chisoni ndikochitika nthawi zonse, palibe chabwino chomwe chingathe kunyamula. Maganizo amenewa sangakuthandizeni kuthana ndi vuto lovuta, amangoliwonjezera. Kuchokera pazomwezi, pali lingaliro limodzi lokha kuti kudzimvera chisoni kumakhala ndi ufulu wokhalapo, ngati ndiko kukumbukira, ndipo sikusiya zotsatira zosafunikira kumbuyo kwake.
3. Izi zimakupatsani mwayi
Ndiponsotu, ndizomveka bwanji kuweruza kuwala koyera muzovuta zanu, ndipo simukuwona zolakwa zanu.
4. Ichi ndi mwayi wapadera wopeza chithandizo kuchokera kwa anzanu
Aliyense amasankha njira yake kuti athandizidwe ndi ena, wina amakonda kutamandidwa chifukwa cha zomwe wapindula, amakonda kumumvera chisoni.
Kodi mungathetse bwanji izi, osati chizoloŵezi chabwino koposa?
1. Khalani bwenzi
Pafupifupi m'magazini ya amayi onse mungapeze nkhani pa mutu wakuti "Dzikondeni nokha", momwe muli ambiri, koma palibe ndondomeko yeniyeni ndi yoonekeratu momwe mungachitire. Ngati mumayankha funsoli kwa akatswiri, iwo akukulangizani kuti mudziwe zifukwa zomwe zimakuchititsani kukhala odzidalira nokha, atadziwa kuti, angakulimbikitseni kuti muwone bwinobwino mkhalidwewo ndikudziŵa kuti kuli kofunika bwanji kwa inu. Chinthu chachikulu mukumenyera nokha kuti muphunzire kupeza mipata yobisika yogonjetsa zovuta zonse, ku zotsatira zothandiza kwambiri zidzakuthandizira kubweretsa kukhalapo kwa munthu yemwe sangakupulumutseni, ndikuthandizani ndikutsogolerani njira yoyenera.
2. Gawo loyendetsa patsogolo ndi zotsatira za kukwera kwa bulu wabwino
Apa chinthu chachikulu ndicho kupeza "pusher" yoyenera, ndipo iyi si nkhani yosavuta. Pachifukwa ichi, chinthu chachikulu ndikudziwa muyeso, chifukwa kupanikizika kwambiri, mwinamwake, kumapangitsa kuti zinthu zikhale zovuta komanso kudzimvera chisoni, zidzakula ndikukhala "osatha". Pano luso lapadera la wothandizila ndikukulimbikitsani kutsogolo, phatikizani kuphatikiza kupanikizika ndi chilimbikitso. Pakapita nthawi, mukalowa mulawa, phunzirani momwe mungachitire popanda kuthandizira kwina, ndipo yambani kudzipangira nokha ku ubatizo.
3. Dzilemekezeni chifukwa chazing'ono
M'dziko lathu mwinamwake sizodziwika bwino kuti tiphunzitse ana kuti athe kukhala ndi nthawi yotamandidwa kwa inu nokha. Kukula ndi kukhala okhwima, nthawi zambiri sitimayang'anitsitsa zomwe tapindula, ngakhale kuti sizomwe zimakhala zofunikira makamaka pa zachipembedzo. Komabe, ngati mutaphunzira kusiyanitsa nokha kachigawo kakang'ono ka chidwi cha tsiku ndi tsiku, moyo nthawi yomweyo umakuwoneka bwino komanso wosangalatsa kwambiri.