Kukhalabe kwa Amayi Achilendo
Pazifukwa zina, pali lingaliro lakuti kwa zaka pafupifupi 20, amayi onse ayenera kuyambitsa chibadwa cha amayi ndipo ayenera kukhala ndi ana ambiri. Koma zoona, izi ndi zolakwika. Pali amayi ambiri omwe sakonda ana. Koma ambiri a amayi awa sangathe kuvomereza izo chifukwa cha mantha a maganizo a anthu. Ndipo izi zimangowonjezera kuti amayi akuyamba kudana ndi ana awo, zomwe zimabweretsa chitukuko cha ana komanso mavuto a psyche. Choncho, ngati mukumva kuti mulibe chibadwa cha amayi, palibe choipa mmenemo. Komanso, zikhoza kuoneka, koma patapita nthawi. Chibadwa cha amayi sichibadwa. Zingatheke kulandiridwa mwakukula, mwachitsanzo, kuyankhulana ndi mphwake wanu wokondedwa. Ndipo ngakhale mutamvetsetsa kuti mungathe kumukonda mwana, koma osati wanu, musaope ndikudziona nokha kuti ndinu khwangwala woyera. M'malo mwake, ndinu munthu woona mtima amene mungavomereze kuti sizolondola malinga ndi zikhalidwe ndi zikhalidwe za anthu .
Zofuna
Azimayi ambiri safuna kukhala ndi ana, chifukwa poyamba amakhala ndi ntchito. Ndipo ichi ndi chinsinsi chachilendo komanso chachilendo. Pa chifukwa china, aliyense anaganiza kuti ndi amayi okha ndi ana okha omwe angabweretse chisangalalo kwa amayi. Ndipotu, izi ndizovomerezedwe ndi akuluakulu a makolo, omwe sagwiritsidwe ndi chirichonse. Amuna ndi amai angathe mofanana, ndipo safuna kukhala ndi ana. Komanso onse awiri angafune kupanga ntchito, osati kupereka mphamvu zawo zonse m'banja. Choncho, ngati mukuganiza kuti simukufuna kukhala ndi ana mwachindunji chifukwa cha chikhumbo chokhala munthu wapadera pa ntchito, ndiye kuti simukuyenera kusiya maloto anu. N'zotheka kuti mukakwaniritsa zimene mukufuna, mudzafuna kukhala ndi mwana wanu. Mwa njira, anthu ambiri akhoza kufotokoza kuti zikhoza kukhala mochedwa kwambiri ndi zina zotero, koma kwenikweni, zifukwa zoterozo sizolondola. Mkazi wabwino amapempha thandizo kwa akatswiri ndi kubereka mwana wopanda ngakhale wokhala naye. Kotero palibe chifukwa chochitira mantha zokhumba zanu zenizeni. Kumbukirani kuti ngati simukupanga ntchito, ndikukhala mkazi wamkazi, chiyanjano chanu ndi banja lanu sichingakhale chachilendo. Mudzawadzudzula chifukwa chotsalira popanda kuzindikira maloto anu aakulu.
Kutengeka
Chifukwa china chomwe mkazi safuna kukhala ndi mwana ndikuti amadziona ngati wamng'ono. Ndipo kumverera koteroko kungakhale mu makumi awiri, ndipo pa makumi awiri ndi zisanu, ndipo ngakhale mu zaka makumi atatu. Muzinthuzi mulibenso chinthu choipa komanso chachilendo. Anthu ambiri amafuna kukhala ana. Ndipo ngati izi sizikutembenuzidwa kukhala zosakwanira, palibe amene angatsutsedwe pa izi ndikuganiza kuti munthuyo ndi wolakwika. Kugonana kaŵirikaŵiri kumachitika chifukwa chakuti munthu safuna kutenga udindo waukulu kwambiri. Moyo, thanzi ndi kulera ana ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri chimene mkazi angachite m'moyo wake. Choncho, ngati mumadzimva kuti ndinu wamng'ono ndipo mumamvetsetsa kuti simungathe kupirira udindo umenewu, ndiye kuti mwamsanga kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ana. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mabanja omwe ali ndi amayi oyembekezera amaoneka okhumudwa kwambiri. Akazi oterewa sakudziwa chochita ndi mwana wawo, nthawi zonse amafuna kusuntha udindo wawo kwa wina, amakwiya, amakwiya ndi mwana wina, ndipo amakhala ndiokha. Choncho, ngati mukumva kuti simukufuna ana chifukwa mukufunikirabe kusamalira ndi kusamalira - izi ndi zachilendo. Zimachitika kawirikawiri ndi amayi omwe anakulira popanda chikondi cha atate ndi kulera. Iwo akuyang'ana abambo mwa amuna omwe ali pafupi ndipo musakule m'maganizo kufikira atapeza zomwe akusowa. Kotero mmalo modzitonza nokha chifukwa chosafuna kukhala ndi ana, ndibwino kupeza munthu yemwe angakupatseni inu chiphuphu ndi chisokonezo chimene munachisowa mu ubwana. Mwina, patapita nthawi, malingaliro anu adzasintha ndipo mukumvetsa kuti mtundu wina wa chikondi ndi chikondi ndi okonzeka kumupereka kwa wina.
Khalani nokha
Chikhumbo chokhala moyo wa inu pazifukwa zina chimayambitsa malingaliro oipa a anthu. Ngakhale zili choncho, iwo omwe amaweruziratu izi, amalota za chinthu chomwecho, koma chifukwa cha mabanja, ana ndi zina zotero sangakwanitse, iwo ali achisoni kwambiri ndi okwiya. Mwa njira, chilakolako chokhala moyo wa inu nokha sichimayambira pachiyambi. Mwinamwake, kuyambira ubwana mwakhala monga makolo anu adafunira: adaphunzira, adzichita bwino, anachita zomwe achibale awo ankafuna kapena amafuna. Komano pakubwera nthawi yomwe moyo wachikulire ukuyamba, momwe palibe munthu ali ndi ufulu komanso sangatsogolere. Pano moyo uno umayamba kuchita mwa njira yawo ndipo potsiriza amathera nthawi yomwe akufuna. Ndipo lingaliro la kubereka mwana mwamsanga limatsogolera ku mantha - Ndidzakhalanso kutsogozedwa. Akazi oterewa safuna ana chifukwa sangathe kukhala ndi moyo wawo. Choncho, ngati mukumvetsa kuti vuto lanu ndilokha, simuyenera kudziona kuti ndinu wopanda vuto komanso nkhawa. M'malo mwake, chitani zomwe mukufuna: kuyenda, kuyankhulana ndi abwenzi, kupita ku magulu, makamaka, chitani zomwe mukufuna. Mundikhulupirire ine, tsiku lina nthawi idzabwera pamene mudzamva kuti ndinu okhutira ndi moyo wotero. Koma pamene iye sanabwere, sikofunikira kudzikakamiza kusiya mwambo umene iwe wakhala umakhumba nthawizonse. Amayi omwe sankakhala ndi nthawi yokhala ndi moyo wokha, amakhala osasangalala ndipo nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti zaka zambiri amayamba kuimba mlandu ana awo chifukwa chowononga miyoyo yawo komanso kuwasiya zosangalatsa zomwe angathe kulandira.
Ngati simukufuna kukhala ndi ana, izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu mtundu wosadziwika kapena wosadziwika. Munthu aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokhala woika patsogolo pa moyo wake, ndipo nthawi zosiyanasiyana amakhala osiyana. N'zotheka kuti nthawi idzafika pamene mukufuna mwana. Koma ngakhale simukumva, musataye mtima. Kotero, muli ndi ntchito ina yamoyo, yomwe ili yofunika kwambiri kuposa kubadwa kwa ana.