Amene timamutcha munthu wosavuta
Womwe "satisokoneza" ndi mavuto ake, samathetsa mavuto ake pazinthu zathu ndipo samadzitchula yekha, kutsimikizira kuti ndife opusa. Ichi ndicho chikhalidwe chake chachikulu. Ndipo zikuwonekeratu kuti munthu wosavuta mwiniyo amapita ku zomwe sitilimbana nazo ndi zomwe timafuna - malamulo opindulitsa, kuyamikira kwa amuna, abwenzi aakazi, nyumba pakati, nyumba panyanja, amayi obala bwino ndi apongozi ake a silika. Ndipo timayamikira khalidweli kapena timamuchitira kaduka, osadziŵa kuti ndi ndalama zotani zomwe amalipira. N'zosavuta kulankhula naye, chifukwa sitikumva zodandaula za tsogolo lake kuchokera kwa iye. Munthu wosavuta sagonjetsa maganizo ake oipa, satisungira chisoni chake, samatulutsa mbali yakuda ya moyo pamaso pathu, ndipo samatidodometsa momveka bwino, monga m'mabuku a Dostoevsky. "Kuunika" kwa munthu wopepuka kumangokhala wamoyo - ali ndi malingaliro ndi mfundo, samangokakamiza anthu kuti aziwonekera ndipo samalepheretsa ena kukhala ndi moyo monga momwe amaonera. Munthu wosavuta ali wokakamiza - koma pazochitika zosiyana. Zingakhale zamatsenga komanso zodabwitsa. Koma kunyalanyaza kwa munthu wosavuta sikunyalanyaza aliyense - kumakhudza iye ndi zizindikiro za ena zomwe angathe kukonza mosavuta. Chitsanzo cha munthu wosavuta ndi Ksenia Sobchak. Ambiri amanena kuti izi zimapindula mofulumira ku zibwenzi zakale - abambo ake anali mtsogoleri wa St. Petersburg. Ndipotu, ntchito ya Sobchak imawoneka yosavuta chifukwa sichimangokakamiza ena za zovuta komanso zovuta za "ntchito yake yopanga ntchito." Anaphunzira ku yunivesite yapamwamba kwambiri ku Russia - MGIMO, anakhala mmodzi mwa atsogoleri abwino pa televizioni ndi pa wailesi, adafunsanso mafunso a GQ, analemba nkhani ndi mabuku, anafufuza zojambula m'magazini "Sex and City." Ndipo zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti zimasewera ndipo, monga ziliri, mwa njira. Inde, amakonda kukhumudwitsa omvera. Koma ndani anati munthu wosavuta ayenera kukhala chitsanzo cha makhalidwe abwino? Palibe! Xenia amadziseka okha ndipo amadziyerekezera ndi zonunkhira "kudya miyendo ya frog", yomwe aliyense sangafune. Amaseka zovala zopanda pake komanso zochititsa chidwi za oimira dziko la Russia lokongola. Eya, madiresi samakula pakhungu, mukhoza kusintha zipinda zamkati, makhalidwe amakhalanso okonzeka. Koma ndekha, sindinamugwire molakwika chifukwa cha zovuta za wina kapena zikhalidwe zomwe sitingathe kuzilamulira: dzikoli, kusowa kwa talente. Kutsimikiziridwa kwachikhazikitso kosavuta kwa Xenia - ali ndi abwenzi ambiri ndi abwenzi abwino. Iye sali mabwenzi ndi iwo, iye amatenga zokambirana nawo ndi kulemba mabuku! Ndipo izi ziri za kuthetsa kwaumunthu kotero, zomwe ziri zoyenera kwa mngelo. Anyamata angatengeke ndi kukonda ndi kugonana. Mkazi wina samadzimangiriza yekha, amavomereza kulekerera ndi kupatsa. Tina Kandelaki, nyenyezi yosasangalatsa, anati: "N'zosavuta kukhala ndi anzake ndi Xenia" - amalankhula bwino komanso amathandiza kwambiri. Ndili ndi abwenzi abwino kwambiri a Ksenia ndi anzanu akuyenda bwino. Kamodzi pa khungu lalikulu lakuda linathamangira pakati pa iye ndi mayi ake. Koma Xenia sanamuuzenipo pagulu. Kusinthasintha kwa ma buku awo kunali kosavuta kugawa, kudziwa momwe chidwi cha wina ndi mnzake chimakhalira chidwi. Ndipo ponena za mikangano ya panyumba panali chete - kulemetsa kuli kosavuta, kusokoneza ndi ena.
Chifukwa chiyani ndi zophweka kwa munthu wosavuta kukhala
Amakondweretsa anthu omwe amamuzungulira ndipo amaitanidwa kukachezera, kuitanidwa kukagwira ntchito komanso kuyenda limodzi. Kuwala kumamulola kuti asinthe mwamsanga machitidwe ake malingana ndi momwe amachitira ndikupindula. Tangoganizani kuti simunapemphepo kanthu kalikonse, chifukwa panalibe chosowa, koma anafunika kuti azikhala ndi malo ogwira ntchito pa nthawi yopuma lakumayi - funsani misozi mobwerezabwereza, ndipo palibe chilichonse mwa inu chimene sichiphwanya ndipo sichiphwanyidwa. Ndinadziona ndekha kuti ndine mkazi wodziimira, sindinatengepo chitsulo m'manja mwanga, sindinaike poto pamoto, ndipo tsopano ndimayamba kukondana ndikufuna kuchita chinthu chokondweretsa kwa wokondedwa wanga. Simukukwera mu botolo ndipo simungauke - "momwe ine, ndikudzikuza komanso wophunzira, ndinakhala wodalira, wamanyazi, ndi chitsulo ndi khitchini." Mukudziwa kuti zinthu zonsezi ndizokhalitsa. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani akukwera? Chikondi chidzaloledwa ndi chikondi chosatha, ndiyeno mtumiki adzawonekera mnyumbamo. Kapena idzabalalitsa, ndiyeno bamboyo adzachoka - ndipo mathalauza amatha kuchotsanso. Ndipo mofanana ndi anthu onse osavuta omwe simukumamatira ku ntchitoyi - musiye. Padzakhala wina. Simumenyana ndi moyo - zimakutengerani mumtsinje wake.
Kodi munthu wolemera ndani?
Munthu wolemera amayimbikiza pa ife, ndizovuta kwa iye. Ngakhale mutu wake umachokera kwa iye, pamene akuwonjezera mavuto ake osagonjetsedwa, masomphenya ake oipa a dziko ndi maganizo ake. Nthawi zonse amatsindika mtengo wapamwamba umene wapatsidwa. Iye amatsimikizira ndi kuchita masewera ena mwa kuwononga ena popanda kukhudzidwa ndi kukhudzidwa. Nthawi zina amathyola chiberekero moopsa kwambiri kuti palibe malo okhala. Iye nthawizonse amakhala wamakani ndipo amatsutsa yekha, ngakhale mu zinthu zing'onozing'ono. Kulankhulana naye - ziri ngati kuti magalimoto amatsula. Ndikufuna kuthawa kwa iye ndipo sindidzakumananso. Ndiponso, munthu wolemera ali ndi luso, waluntha, wopatsa komanso wamakhalidwe abwino. Otsutsa ndi owonerera akuyamikirabe katswiri wa zojambula Faina Ranevskaya, akulira mochepa momwe iye analiri ndi maudindo abwino, akumvera chisoni chifukwa cha mwayi wake waumphawi mu moyo wake waumwini ndi ukalamba wake wosasangalatsa wopanda pake - wopanda madzi omwe palibe yemwe anamupatsa iye. Amaimba mlandu Ranevskaya chifukwa chosasokonezeka maganizo. Koma mavuto onse Ranevskaya sali oganiza bwino, koma kuchokera kulemera-heavy, monga kulemera kwa thupi, khalidwe. Ranevskaya anali wokondana kwambiri ndi kukongola ndi katswiri wa mafilimu Lyubov Orlova, analipira ndalamazo ndikudya kunyumba kwake. Ndipo ndi liwu lofuula: "Orlova ndi wokonzeka kwambiri. Chinthu chimodzi ndi cholakwika ndi iye - liwu lake. Pamene akuimba, zikuwoneka ngati wina akuwombera mumsasa wopanda kanthu. " Liwu lake linali lofooka kwenikweni ndipo likuwomba. Koma salinso perekovat, ndiye bwanji mukuvutitsa bwenzi la odwala - chifukwa cha redword kapena chifukwa cha nsanje? Lubov Orlova Ranevskaya analemekeza chifukwa cha luso lake ndi kudalirika ndipo maganizo ake adakhululukidwa kwa iye, koma mabwenzi ena ochokera ku Ranevskaya adathamanga. N'zosatheka kuti wotsogolere apereke gawo lothandiza kwambiri ngati, poyankha mawu ake akuti: "Faina, mwawononga ndondomeko yanga yonse ndi zizindikiro zanu!" Iye akuti: "Ndikumverera kuti ndine wodzaza ndi vuto." Choncho Ranevskaya analankhula ndi mkulu wa dziko la Russia, dzina lake Zavadsky. Iye sankaona kuti kunali koyenera kuti agonjetse khalidwe lake lovuta ndipo sanadzipezeke kuti adzifotokoze. Mkuluyo anamaliza kufuula kuti: "Tuluka m'chipinda chamaseŵera!" Mayiyo anayankha kuti: "Chotsani!" Nthaŵi zonse amalephera kuchita zimenezi: mkulu wamkulu komanso wojambula nyimbo amadziŵa kuti sangathe kukhala popanda wina ndi mzake. Koma dothilo linakhalabe. Ndipo ngati Zavadsky sakanakhoza kupereka udindo wa Ranevskaya, iye sanapereke izo, kuti asanyozedwe ndi iye, kuzunzidwa mobwerezabwereza ndi kutumizidwa. Viktor Rozov, yemwe anali wolemba masewera otchuka akuti "Forever Living", yemwe poyamba anali kudzitamandira ku Ranevskaya kuti: "Masewera anga omalizira anali opambana kwambiri! Panali nkhondo yoyamba pamaso pa ofesi ya bokosi! "Ranevskaya anafunsa kuti:" Kodi anthu amatha bwanji kubweza ndalama? "Ndiponso, anali ndi malingaliro osavuta, molunjika komanso momveka ngati mwana. Ndipo palibe kanthu kakang'ono kamene kalikonse kamene kanali kosavuta kudikira kwa munthu wina sanakambirane. Ndili ndi chibwenzi, monga Ranevskaya. Ndikudziwa ngati ndikusowa thandizo, amabwera kwa ine usiku womwewo. Koma musanayambe kumukumana naye mu cafe kuti alankhulane momasuka, munthu ayenera kuyang'ana, kusonkhanitsa mphamvu ndi kulimbitsa zida zotsutsana ndi zida zake ndi kusakhutitsidwa kwamuyaya ndi dziko ndi kupusa kwaumunthu.
Ali kuti anthu ofunika ndi olemera
Iwo sali obadwa, iwo amakhala. Malingana ndi psychology, ife timabadwa opanda khalidwe konse. Pa kubadwa, pali chikhalidwe chokha - chiwawa, ngati choleric, kapena chokhumudwitsa, monga kusungunula, kusala ndi kupweteketsa ngati magazi, kapena pang'onopang'ono, ngati phlegmatic. Timapeza luso ndi zilakolako - mwachitsanzo, kuyamikira kumwamba ndi kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano kapena kuphunzitsa ndi kuphunzitsa. Ndipo ndizo zonse. Chikhalidwe chimene timapeza pa moyo wathu. Pambuyo pake, khalidwe ndi maganizo athu kwa ena, kuphatikizapo zizoloŵezi zathu. Maziko adagona mumayi ndi abambo, mpaka mwanayo atembenuka eyiti. Kenaka zimakhudzidwa ndi sukulu ndi achibale. Ena a ife timapeza bwino kwambiri kuchokera kwa makolo athu: mwana wodzidalira ndi wokondedwa ali kwa ena, sapondereza ena, samapangitsa maganizo ake kwa wina aliyense ndi kudzichita yekha, monga momwe amaonera. Ndipo ena amakayikira mtendere ndi kunyalanyaza anthu. Mulimonsemo, ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi kapena khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi, anthu ena atiletsa kale kuti tisapangidwe. Ndipo ndife omasuka kwathunthu ku chikoka cha ena. Apa ndilolandiridwa kuti ndikufuule kuti: "Chimene chakula - chomwe chakula!" Ndipo kwa moyo wanga wonse, ngati sichoncho, kudandaula za makolo ndi sukulu: Sindinaphunzitsidwe ndi kuphunzitsidwa. Koma ndithudi ndilo theka la choonadi. Ali ndi zaka makumi awiri, chikhalidwe sichimakhudzidwa ndi ena - makolo, mwamuna, mabwenzi. Amayi a mwana wamkazi wamkulu, ndi chikhumbo chake chonse, sichimuthandiza kuti azikhala naye. Mwamuna sangamupangitse kuti amvetsetse, mtsikanayo ndi wothandiza. Mkwiyo wake ukhoza kusinthidwa ndi iye mwini potsata maganizo ake payekha komanso pa moyo. Timapatsidwa kuti chikhalidwe chathu chikhale chosavuta kapena cholemera. Chisankho ndi chathu.
Kuti muchoke, muyenera kufufuza pang'ono
Pali mphindi yochepa mu moyo pamene tiri pamsewu patsogolo pa cholepheretsa. Kodi ndiyenera kuchita chiyani kuti ndithetse vutoli: kuti ndikhale wopepuka ndikukwera pamwamba pake - kapena kuti ndilemere ndikupasula mpata? Kuti uzuke, umayenera kuponyera mafuta. Ndipo njira iyi ndi yopweteka kwambiri. Ndiyenera kusiya makhalidwe ambiri omwe ali abwino kwa mtima wanga: "Nthawi zambiri ndimachedwa", "Ndimamwa tiyi yokha", "Ndimadzuka m'ma khumi m'mawa." Ndipo ndi mtambo wamagazi wamtengo wapatali umene umagwera mu gulu la ballast: "Nthawizonse ndimanena zoona", "Ndimasunga chilungamo", "Chikondi nthawi zonse!". Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo mumataya mwambo wokonda miyambo ya kunyumba: "Tidakondwerera Chaka Chatsopano ndi banja" kapena "Banja lalikulu ndilo mphamvu yaikulu". Mumaganizira mozama za ziwalo zanu zamkati - mwachitsanzo, chilakolako cholimbikitsa mantha kwa ena ndikusangalala nawo. Ndipo mukuganiza, ngati chilombo ichi chibisika mu thunthu kuti chisamawopsyeze aliyense, kapena ngati chingawononge khosi lake. Yoyamba ndi yovuta, yachiwiri ndi yosatheka. Potsirizira pake, wataya zonse zopanda pake, wokonzeka kukhala ndi zizoloŵezi zatsopano ndikuzindikira mfundo za anthu ena, amatha kuyang'ana moyo kuchokera ku zosiyana siyana, simumayanjananso ndi zolephera zanu. Ndipo, monga mngelo, mumakwera pamwamba pa dziko lapansi ndipo mukuwona: simusowa kuti muwonetsere bwana pa ntchitoyi - ndi nthawi yoti muyang'ane wina watsopano, ndipo palibe chokhumudwitsidwa ndi mnzanu - ndi nthawi yokhululukira iye chifukwa cha kulakwitsa kolakwika. Ndipo pano inu muli mu ofesi yatsopano kumene mumayamikirika kwambiri, ndipo mtsikana wokhululukidwa akukupizani paphewa ndikukulumbirirani mu ubwenzi wamuyaya. Kuti mukhale omasuka muyenera kulipira chifukwa chakuti mumadzisaka nokha ndikukhazikitsanso nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina mumakhala ndi chisoni chachikulu chifukwa cha zonse zomwe mwasemphana nazo. Ngakhalenso chizoloŵezi choipa kusuta pa kapu. Ndipo nthawi zina, mutasiya zambiri, mumatopa ndikufika pa Zen, pamene zikuwoneka kuti palibe chofunikira. Ndiyeno ndikofunikira kukangana ndi munthu kuti akhale wolemetsa. Makhalidwe anu oipa, otsekedwa mu chifuwa chophiphiritsira, pamakona a chidziwitso, nthawi ndi nthawi amafuna kuchoka, ndipo mumayenera kugwira chivindikirocho kuti asatuluke, kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu ndi mitsempha yanu, kukhumudwitsa nthawi zina. Ndiyeno mumayenera kumasula "monster" wanu ufulu, kuti musatulukire kupsinjika. Kotero, mmodzi wa akazi ochepetsetsa kwambiri omwe ndakhala ndikuwonepo m'moyo wanga, wokondedwa wa chilengedwe chonse ndi nthano yeniyeni, nthawi zina amadzilola yekha kuzimitsa zolakwika zotero kuti makutu ake amatentha m'makutu onse. Zoona, amasankha kulalikira mboni zokha zokhazokha omwe ali odalirika komanso omwe ali olimba kwambiri kuti athetse mkwiyo wake ndipo osakhumudwa nawo. Wofooka, wamanyazi ndi wachikondi kuchokera kwa iye samapezekanso.
Vuto lalikulu la munthu wolemera
Iye sangatheke kwa aliyense. Ndipo nthawi zonse amatsutsidwa ndi anthu ena. Munthu wouluka anawulukira pa iwo ndipo, ngati sakanafuna kuchita zimenezo, sanakhudze wina aliyense, ndipo bambo wolemera uja adayenera kudutsa mwa iwo. N'zachidziwikire kuti anthu amakwiyitsa, samani, kuika timitengo zawo mu gudumu, chidwi. Ndipo munthu wolemera amamenyana nthawi zonse ndi wina kapena amatetezedwa kwa wina. Nthawi zina munthu wolemera amasonyeza ena kulemera kwake ndi khalidwe lake lodziwika bwino: "Ndine woipa ndi wovuta" -kudzikuza kwakukulu: "Sindidzapita chifukwa cha umunthu wanga" - ndipo amayembekeza mwachinsinsi kuti zimbalangondo zake zizikonda naye. Koma ndife amitundu yachilendo, monga lamulo, osamvera. Tili ndi zathu. Ndipo timapewa anthu olemera.
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Palibe yankho lachidziwitso kwa mtundu wa munthu kuti akhale wabwinoko. Mwinamwake, pakuti mkaziyo mofanana amafunikira mosavuta. Payekha, ndikuwoneka kuti khalidwe lolemera ndi lovomerezeka kwa mwamuna ndi lovuta kwa mkazi. Mnyamata wolimba mtima, zanudlivo-wosayenerera-wothandizira - kapena wodandaula-wotsutsa-wochenjera, monga Dr. House, mwinamwake kuntchito ndi bwino, ndipo timalemekeza, abwenzi - timayamikira. Mayi adzabwera kwa iye, yemwe adzasintha kwa iye, ndipo adzakhala wosangalala m'banja lake. Ndipo ponena za chikondi cha chilengedwe chonse - munthu sali wokondweretsedwa nazo. Ndipo mwa mkazi apo payenera kukhala kuwala, kuyera: anabwera, anauzira aliyense, anayatsa, anayatsa - ndipo anathawa. Ndipo omvera ake owuziridwa ndi nkhope zoyera amagwira ntchito tsiku lonse. Mkazi wowala ali wokonzeka kutsogolera othandizira, abwenzi ndi achibale chifukwa cha dzanja lake, kuvina, kukopa ndi kusangalala. Amuna ngati akazi awa, abwenzi awo amakopeka nawo. Ndipo kwa ife ndikofunikira kwambiri - kukondedwa ... Tili ochuluka kwambiri. Chikhalidwe cha mkazi ndi chovuta kwambiri kuukwati. Ndipo palibe kukongola kumamukweza iye, chifukwa amuna samagwirizana ndi akazi. Amatilekerera ife - kuzinthu zina. Ndiyeno chirichonse, kusudzulana kapena kusamala. Naomi Campbell - kukongola kwa munthu wamphongo - analibe wofunikira kwa wina aliyense, chifukwa khalidwe lake liri lolemera ndi losasamala: adaponyera foniyo m'manja mwa antchito, paparazzi anamumenya ndi thumba, iye anayesa kutulutsa maso ake chifukwa cha katundu wotayika. Sindinakwatiranepo, ngakhale kuti ndasintha kale zaka khumi, ndipo osati chifukwa sindikufuna - ndizingokhala kuti palibe amene amatenga. Pokhapokha mtsogoleri wa ku Moscow Doronin akadakali limodzi ndi iye - ndipo azikhazikitsanso mnyumba yosiyana kuti pang'onopang'ono pang'onopang'ono.