Osakhulupirira kwambiri.
Ndi anthu oterewa ndi zovuta kuvomereza ngakhale pa zinthu zosavuta komanso zomveka bwino. Anthu omwe amakhala ndi maganizo olakwika pa moyo, adzakana mwamsanga, kusiyana ndi kuyamba kufotokozera zomwe zimachitika. Koma amatha kusintha. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kumutsimikizira munthu kuti malingaliro anu ali ndi zowonjezera zambiri kusiyana ndi zosokoneza. Perekani zitsanzo zabwino, mofatsa, koma fotokozani momveka bwino malingaliro anu. Zowonadi zowonjezereka zomwe mumabweretsa, posachedwa mudzagonjetsa chidaliro cha mbuli.
Ndi onse agwirizana!
Zikuwoneka kuti chinthu choipa ndi chakuti munthu amavomereza chilichonse, kodi munganene chiyani? Iwo ali okonzeka kwambiri kuti azigwiritsa ntchito ndi kungogwiritsira ntchito. Koma nthawi zina pamakhala zofunikira kudziwa maganizo a interlocutor. Kodi mungapindule bwanji ndi cholengedwa chopanda kanthu, osati poddakivaniya? Kuti muchite izi, nkofunika kuganizira zomwe mukuchita pokambirana. Tengani nthawi yochepa momwe mungathere kuti mukambirane za vutoli, onetsetsani kuti nthawi ndi zotsatira zenizeni ziri zofunika kwa inu. Mwina, munthu wopanda vuto adzayenera kuyang'aniridwa ndikulimbikitsidwa kuchita zochitika zina, koma n'zotheka kukwaniritsa zomwe akufuna.
Sindidzanena chilichonse!
Mwina, nthawi yovuta kwambiri yolankhulana imabwera pamene mukufunikira kudziwa chisankho, ndipo oyankhulana mwanjira iliyonse amachotsera udindo ndipo samanena "inde" kapena "ayi". Zingadalire pazigawo zofunika kwambiri pa moyo wanu komanso ntchito yanu, koma nthawi zina sizingakhale zosavuta kuti mutuluke. Pofuna kulankhula ndi munthu wotsekedwa komanso kupeza zomwe akuganiza, muyenera kuchita moyenera komanso mwachikondi. Musamaphatikizepo pempho lopempha, osalimbikitsa chiwawa chilichonse ndipo musamamukakamize. Funsani mafunso otsogolera, tiuzeni zomwe ziri zofunika kwa inu, yankho lanu lingakhale lopambana kwa inu ndi chifukwa chake. Koma musayese kulankhula wothandizana naye, mumupatse mpata wolankhula.
Iye akuwongolera.
Izi zimachitika kuti pakati pa omwe tikulumikizana nawo, pali anthu omwe ali ndi bungwe lachinsinsi lomwe likuoneka kuti akukhumudwa ndi chirichonse. Chilichonse chimene mungachite, chimayambitsa mavuto ndi zowawa, zilizonse zomwe mumanena, sizomwezo. Khalidwe limeneli limasonyeza kupezeka kwa zovuta zambiri. Njira yabwino yothetsera munthu wokhudzidwa sikumusokoneza. Yambani kukambirana ndikutamanda, yesetsani mfundo zonse zozama pa phunziro la zokambirana ndikuyang'ana ubwino wambiri momwe mungaperekere. Mukawona kuti interlocutor akuthandizira kachiwiri ndipo ali wokonzeka kupitiliza kutsutsa, pempherani ndi chiyamiko china. Musaope kuchita munthu wokondweretsa, wokhudzidwa, chifukwa akayamba kukukhulupirirani, ana ake onse amavutika chifukwa cha kusuta. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti inu muyenera kumakhala otetezeka.
Osakhutitsidwa.
Ndikovuta kwambiri kuyankhulana ndi anthu omwe nthawi zonse sakhutira ndi chinachake. Inu mumabwera kwa iye kuti mukathetse vuto linalake kapena vuto lanu, ndipo mmalo mwa njira yowunikira mumapeza madandaulo osatha pa chirichonse chomwe chiri chofunikira ndipo sichigwira ntchito. Anthu oterowo amayamba kudandaula za moyo, koma kawirikawiri amayesera kusintha chinachake kuti chikhale chabwino kapena kuyang'ana mkhalidwewo kuchokera kumbali inayo. Tengani nkhani mmanja mwanu. Musalole kuti zokambiranazo zisachoke pa mutu womwe mukufuna, tchulani zotsutsa za mdani wanu ndipo mwamsanga muwonetseni njira zothetsera vutoli. Mwa chitsanzo chanu, musonyeze kuti zinthu zosayenerera ndizochepa kwambiri kuposa momwe zikuwonekera, ndipo mavuto onse ang'onoang'ono ndi mavuto angathe kuthetsedwa kwathunthu. Mwachidziwikire, pochita zinthu ndi anthu otero, ndi kwa inu kuti mukhale phwando lochita masewera, koma ndibwino ngati mutha kuyipempha wodandaula kuti achite.
Osayanjanitsika.
Inu mumabwera kwa munthu woteroyo ndi kukambirana, nkhani yomwe ili yofunika kwambiri kwa inu, koma inu mumapunthwa pa kusamvetsetsa kozizira. Maganizo okha omwe angayambitsidwe ndi munthu woterewa sali abwino. Ambiri amatha kutsogolo pamaso pa anthu oterewa, koma amatha kusankhidwa ndi fungulo. Choyamba, yesetsani kupeza maganizo ake pa izi kapena funso limenelo. Lembani cholinga chanu kuti wothandizana nawo asakhale ndi mwayi wakuyankha: "Sindikusamala". Pamene malingaliro ake atchulidwa, kuvomerezana ndi iye kapena ndi mfundo zina, ngakhale ngati mukuganiza mosiyana. Ndipo pokhapokha perekani chisankho chanu, kutsimikizira malingaliro anu ndikugogomezera ubwino woonekera kuchokera njira iyi yothetsera vutolo. Chinthu chachikulu mukamayankhula ndi osayanjanitsa, perekani chidwi choyamba, yambani kukambirana ndi mawu abwino ndipo yesani kukanikiza.
Inde, pali anthu ambiri ndipo onsewo ndi osiyana, nthawi zina timatha kulankhulana mosavuta ngakhale ndi omwe amawoneka kuti achotsedwa komanso amwano, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kuti tigwirizane ngakhale ndi anthu okhumudwa kwambiri. Kuti muthe kusintha zinthu zilizonse mu njira yoyenera, phunzirani kuwona pang'ono chabe kuposa pamwamba. Yang'anirani zochitika za khalidwe laumunthu, ku mbali zake zofooka ndi zamphamvu, ndipo yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito mawonedwe anu mwachifatso ndi mwanzeru. Palibe cholakwika ndi kulankhulana ndi anthu pogwiritsa ntchito makhalidwe awo, chinthu chokha chochita mantha ndi kusewera ndi masewero a anthu ena, chifukwa kuyesayesa kotero kumathera ndi kulephera kwathunthu kwa kuyesa kukambirana.