Chifukwa choyamba chikhoza kutchulidwa kuti chilakolako chofuna kukhala ndi wokondedwa popanda mantha, osati mantha. Koma, pali mawu akuti: "Ngati mukufuna kusunga wokondedwa wanu, amusiyeni apite." Chodabwitsa kwambiri, koma lamulo ili ndi lolondola. Ndipotu, munthu sangalekerere ndipo samukonda.
Pali lingaliro lakuti nsanje ndiwonetsedwe chikondi. Sizongopanda kanthu zomwe akunena kuti ndi "nsanje, ndiye amakonda." Ndipotu, nsanje ndizowonetsera kusakhulupirika kwa wokondedwa. Mukakhala ndikumverera komweku, kumatanthauza kuti simumakhulupirira komanso simukukhulupirira wokondedwa wanu. Chiyambi cha nsanje ndi chiwonetsero cha kudzikonda komanso umwini wake. Kulankhula mwachidule, kwa inu wokondedwa wanu ndi chinthu chomwe mungathe kutaya nokha. Kodi mukuganiza kuti kuikidwa kwathunthu kwa theka lanu lachiwiri ndi zotsutsana za kusakhulupirika - ichi ndi chikondi chenicheni. Ndikuwopa kuti mwalakwitsa.
Komanso, mu magwero a nsanje ndikudzidalira mwa iwo okha. Munthu ndi nsanje chifukwa sakhulupirira mphamvu zake, zosiyana ndi zokongola zake. Pankhaniyi, monga njira yothetsera nsanje, wina angakulimbikitseni kuti muzigwira ntchito yodzidalira: mwa njira zonse, zikwezeni osati kuyang'ana zolakwa zanu.
Nkhani yathu ikugwiritsidwa ntchito pa mutu wakuti: "Chiyambi cha nsanje ndi njira zothetsera vutoli." Ndikoyenera kuzindikira kuti nthawi zambiri kumverera kotereku kumayendetsedwa ndi anthu omwe miyoyo yawo imakhala ndi mantha a kukhala okha. Pankhaniyi, yankho la vutoli ndi losavuta. Ngati theka lanu lachiwiri likuwopa kusungulumwa, ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri mumamuuza za chikondi chanu.
Kawirikawiri zimachitika kuti, pokhala nsanje, munthu amakhala ndi nkhawa kwa wokondedwa wake: amadandaula za thanzi ndi chitetezo. Nsanje mu nkhaniyi ikuchita, mwa njira, kudzibisa. Pankhaniyi, ndibwino kumvetsetsa kuti aliyense ali ndi ufulu wolakwitsa. Simungathe kukhala ndi wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse. Mumupatse kuchita zozizwitsa popanda kulamulira kwathunthu.
Chizindikiro chotsatirachi chikhoza kutchulidwanso ndi magwero a nsanje: ndi zachilendo kuti munthu akhale ndi nsanje pamene sali woyera pamaso pa wokondedwa wake. Motero, pokonzekera zochititsa manyazi ndi zochitika za nsanje, nsanje imayesera kubisala ndi kudziimba mlandu.
Takhala tikudziwitsako magwero a nsanje komanso njira zothetsera vutoli zikukhala zosavuta. Kulimbana ndi kumverera kowawa komwe kumawononga moyo wanu wonse ndi maubwenzi ndi okondedwa, ndipotu, mosavuta. Yesani kumvetsa kuti wokondedwa wanu si wanu. Kuti iye ali ndi ufulu wa ufulu waumwini. Iye sayenera kukhala nthawi zonse atayang'aniridwa ndi kumvetsera kuzineneza zanu zonse.
Ndiyeneranso kukumbukira kuti kawirikawiri, mantha athu omwe ali nawo ali ndi udindo wokhala ndi moyo.
M'munsimu mudzapeza njira zosavuta komanso zosavuta kuti muthane ndi nsanje.
Choyamba, mutangoyamba kuzunza nyongolotsi ya nsanje, yesetsani kudziletsa. Chotsani maganizo ndipo ganizirani za chiyambi cha nsanje yomwe mukukumana nayo tsopano.
Chachiwiri, mutangokhala ndi maganizo olakwika, yesetsani kusokonezedwa ndi iwo m'njira iliyonse. Inu mukhoza kuchita chirichonse, ngati chochita ichi chikanakubweretsani inu chisangalalo. Ngati munaganiza kuti ichi chinali chophweka kwambiri. Izi, ndikuyenera kuzindikira kuti ndi ntchito yaikulu kuti mugwire ntchito.
Chachitatu, musaiwale kuti wokondedwa wanu ndi wokondedwa kwambiri komanso wokondedwa kwambiri. Musawope kukambirana momasuka, pamene mungathe kufotokoza zonse zomwe zikukuvutitsani. Ingokumbukirani kuti mtima wolankhula ndi mtima ndi sayansi yayikulu. Mukulankhulana muyenera kupeza mayankho a mafunso ndi bata, osakhumudwitsa komanso osakhudza mmene wokondedwa amamvera.
Chachinayi, kumbukirani kuti kukonda kumatanthauza kupereka chimwemwe. Zowonongeka ndi zodzudzulidwa nthawi zonse zidzangowonjezera kutayika kwa malingaliro okongola kwambiri ndi kutayika kwa wokondedwa. Osasonyeza kudzikuza kwanu ndi kudzikonda, perekani theka lanu lachikondi chikondi ndi chimwemwe.
Nkhani ya mutu uno ndi "chiyambi cha nsanje ndi njira zothetsera vutoli." Ndikuganiza mutatha kuwerenga, mudzapeza mayankho a mafunso anu kapena, mwina, mudzadzizindikira nokha. Khalani momwe mungathere, kumbukirani kuti nsanje ndi yabwino kuti muyanjane muzitsulo zazikulu.