Pali anthu omwe nthawi zonse amafunika kukhala mu kampani. Akakhala okha ndiokha, pakatha maola angapo amayamba kukhala osasangalala. Mosiyana ndi zina zoterezi, pali ena - osakwatira. Wosungulumwa sangathe kuchoka panyumba kwa milungu ingapo, kuwona anzanu miyezi ingapo, akulankhula nthawi zonse zomwe zimafuna kukhala chete, mtendere ndi kukhala yekha. Koma kodi ndi zoona? Kodi anthu osakwatiwa kwenikweni chifukwa anabadwira mwanjira iyi kapena kodi ndi chifukwa cha kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa kwa moyo?
Chizolowezi chokhala yekha
Enafe monga ana sitinamvetsetse bwino kwambiri ana ena. Winawake anayesa kuti adziyanjane ndi gulu, motero, iye anapambana. Koma anthu ena amagwiritsidwa ntchito kukhala okha. Chikondi chawo chosungulumwa ndi khalidwe lachizoloŵezi limene lakhalapo kuyambira ali mwana. Ndipotu, munthu sangodziwe momwe angakhalire ndi kampaniyo, momwe angadzipangire yekha. Chifukwa chakuti sakuzoloŵera chidwi, wosungulumwa amayamba kukhala wosamvetsetseka, zikuwoneka kuti aliyense akumvetsera, kuyang'ana, zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa iye. Choncho, amamva kuti ndi bwino kukhala bwino kusiyana ndi munthu wina. Pamene osungulumwa amakhalabe opanda chidwi ndi anthu ena, amatha kumasuka komanso osaganizira zomwe ayenera kuchita ndi zomwe anganene. Amamva kupuma, komwe sangapeze kampaniyo. Kaŵirikaŵiri zimachitika kuti mtundu uwu wa anthu osachepera m'mtima mwathu ukufuna kwenikweni kuyankhulana ndi lyudmii bwino "kujowina" gulu. Koma chifukwa cha makina a ana ndi achinyamata, ndizovuta kwambiri kudutsa mantha awo. Ndicho chifukwa chake anthu oterowo akupitirizabe kudutsa moyo wokha.
Kusokonezeka
Zimakhalanso kuti wina amasankha kusungulumwa mwanzeru. Mwachitsanzo, paunyamata, munthu adalankhula ndi anthu ambiri, nthawi zonse amakhala pa kampani, ndipo mosayembekezereka amalekanitsidwa ndi aliyense ndipo amanena kuti ndi bwino kuti akhale yekhayo kusiyana ndi wina. Chifukwa cha khalidweli chikhoza kukhumudwitsa chilengedwe. Mwatsoka, sikuti anthu onse amadzipeza okha mabwenzi abwino komanso odziwa bwino. Zimakhalanso kuti anthu m'zaka vynoschye akugwirizana ndi "makampani oipa" ndikukula, amakhumudwa kwambiri ndi chilengedwe chawo. Ndipo popeza kuti nthawi yayitali amakumana ndi anthu oipa kuposa zabwino, palikumverera kuti dziko lapansi lajambulidwa lakuda. Kawirikawiri, anthu okhumudwawo ankangochita chiwembu ndi kusakhulupirika kwa anthu omwe anali pafupi nawo. Chotsatira chake, adaganiza kuti ndibwino kukhala ndi wina kusiyana ndi kuyandikira kwa anthu, ndiyeno nthawi iliyonse kuti amve ululu ndi kusokonezeka. Mwa njirayi, anthu osakwatira angakhale ndi anthu angapo omwe amakhala nawo pafupi. Koma mnzako wokondana kwambiri samalola wina aliyense pafupi kwambiri ndi initium kukhulupirira kwathunthu. Amatha kuchitira bwino anthu anzake, koma nthawi zonse amamva momwe amamangira khoma losaoneka ndipo samusiya moyo wake wonse. Chifukwa cha misonkhano yosawerengeka ndi achibale, anthu otere amayesa kuthetsa chikondi chawo, kotero kuti ngati kachiwiri kugulitsidwa, simukuziwona kwambiri ndipo simukuganiza kuti dziko lagwa. Anthu osungulumwa osokonezeka amaletsa kwambiri maganizo awo. Izi zikhoza kuwonetseredwa kuti nthawi ndi nthawi mtundu wotero wa anthu "ukutha." Iwo amayamba "kupita kunja kwa anthu", kusangalala, kuona zonse. Koma patangopita masiku angapo amalowa mkati mwawo okha ndipo amachoka chifukwa amadziwa kapena amadziwa kuti amadzipangitsa kuti azidzipangitsa kuti azidzipangira okha.
Osowa mtima
Zosankha zamtunduwu ndizofanana ndi zomwe zapitazo, koma kusiyana pakati pawo ndikuti kukhumudwa kumangosankha kusungulumwa ndipo samayesa kuweruza dziko lonse chifukwa cha izi, ngakhale akuwona kuti sizingwiro. Osowa voztoobloblennye, pokhala okha, musaiwale kuti aziwakumbutsa nthawi zonse anthu onse omwe amamuzungulira kuti ndiwo amene amachititsa munthu kukhala ndi maganizo oterowo. Takyhodinochek sitingatchedwe kuti ndi yeniyeni, chifukwa palibe amene amaloledwa kuti apite, akuyesera kuti akope chidwi. Anthu otere amafuna kuyesa ena kuti safunikira aliyense. Koma kwenikweni, iwo samva osasangalala chifukwa chakuti sakufunikira iwo. Ndichifukwa chake amayesa kukopa chidwi. Mwachitsanzo, pafupifupi khomo lililonse lili ndi abambo akuluakulu kapena achikulire omwe samawakonda zonse. Munthu uyu sagwirizana ndi aliyense, koma aliyense amadziwa za iye, monga tsiku liri lonse akufuula, kuchitira nkhanza ndi kutsutsidwa kwa iwo omwe ali naye pafupi mu machimo awo amamveka. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chokhalira wokhumudwa kwambiri. Zimakhala zovuta kuti munthu wotero asonyeze chirichonse, kapena kuti apeze chinenero chofanana ndi iye. Ndipotu, iye mwini ndiye amene amachititsa kuti akhale yekha, koma sakufuna kumvetsa ndi kuvomereza.
Kusungulumwa- monga mbali ya chizindikiritso
Mwina, ndi bwino kukumbukira kusungulumwa kwa mtundu wina - awa ndiwo otchedwa anthu ounikiridwa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti amonke achi Buddha, omwe amasankha kukhala okha, osati chifukwa chokhumudwitsidwa ndi zovuta, koma chifukwa chakuti akufuna kupeza mayankho a mafunso ena ndikumvetsetsa chifukwa chake akukhala padziko lino lapansi. Pali zochepa zochepa zokhazokha, chifukwa sikuti munthu aliyense ali wokonzeka kupita kukafunafuna choonadi, m'malo momanga ntchito, kupanga banja ndi zina zotero. Ena amakhulupirira kuti khalidwe lotero lingatanthauzidwe kutembenuka mtima. Ndipotu, ambiri samamvetsetsa anthu oterewa, ndipo monga momwe mukudziwira, n'zosavuta kuti anthu azitcha kuti sitingamvetsetse kusiyana ndi kuyesa kuzilingalira. Zodziwika bwino sizingapewe kukhala kwathunthu ndi anthu. Mwachidule iwo ali okondweretsa kwenikweni ndi omasuka mu dziko lawo lamkati, osati ndi ena. Anthu oterewa ali ndi malingaliro ndi maganizo osiyana pa moyo.
Choncho, ngati simukumbukira anthu omwe ali osungulumwa, anthu ena onse omwe amanena kuti akufuna kukhala okha, m'kati mwa moyowo akusowabe anthu. Mwachidule amafunika kupeza njira yoyenera, osapatsa zovuta ndi zokhumudwitsa kuti zikhale ndi chidwi chodzipereka. Anthu oterewa sangalowe mu moyo, monga momwe amachitira nyumba yawo ndipo ayenera kukhala pa sofa. Ndikofunika kutsegula zitseko ku dziko lawo laling'ono pang'onopang'ono, kusiya malo osungiramo malo ndipo palibe chifukwa choyesera kukakamiza ndi kuwombera. Ndipo komabe, kuyesera kuti muyandikire kwa osungulumwa, muyenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti pamapeto simudzakhala chifukwa cha zokhumudwitsa. Pambuyo pake, ngati munthu mmodzi atalola munthu kuchoka pa dziko lapansi, uyu sangathe kungowonjezera, komanso kuwononga kwathunthu. Izi ziyenera kukumbukiridwa nthawi zonse.