Koma bwanji, anthu omwe poyamba ankatchedwa banja losangalala dzulo, omwe adawayang'ana kwa moyo wautali komanso wosangalala pamodzi mwadzidzidzi adagawanika. Zikuwoneka kuti chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu ndi kuleza mtima, kusamala, kudziletsa, kuthandizira, kuthandizira panthawi zovuta, ngakhale kuti zinkawoneka kuti chikondi sichinali chakufa. Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsetsa momwe iwo amene akhala mu chikondi kwa zaka zambiri amasamalira bwino wokondedwa wawo molondola.
Kodi tinganene kuti chisamaliro cha makolo chokhudza ana ndi chiyani? Ichi ndi chikhumbo cha thanzi lawo. Zomwezo: za kubereka, zovala, mpumulo wapamwamba, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo maganizo. Gwiritsani zamaseŵera, pitani ku paki, ndipo ngati kuli kotheka, thandizani ndi ntchito ya kusukulu. Ndipo zikwi zina zinthu zooneka ngati zazing'ono zomwe simukuziwona mu moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, koma zimatipangitsa kukhala otentha mumtima pamene tiziyang'ana. Ndi nkhawa, ndikumva kupweteka mu mtima, ndi kufunitsitsa kuthana ndi ululu ndi mavuto awo pamene ali kutali. Kusamalira ana za makolo awo, makamaka ngati ali okalamba, kumapereka chidwi, ngati n'kotheka, ndi chithandizo chamuthupi, komanso chofunika kwambiri pa chisamaliro ndi chifundo. Ndipo angasamalitsane bwanji wina ndi mzake (kaya mwamuna ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna ndi mkazi). Izi, ndithudi, ndi kuwonetserana za thanzi labwino, ndi zodabwitsa zokondweretsa, ndi khofi ya banal pabedi ndi maluwa a okondedwa anu, ndi zina zambiri zomwe zingathe kukondweretsa ndi kumverera kuti mukusowa wina ndi mzake.
Tonsefe timafunikira chithandizo, chidwi kuchokera kwa okondedwa, kusamalira okondedwa. Sitiyenera kudziwa zambiri momwe tingamvere, momwe tingasamalire wokondedwa wanu. Okonda ndi okondedwa amafunikira chidwi, makamaka ngati wokondedwayo akudwala. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti amve kuti ali otetezeka komanso amasamala za iye. Kukwanitsa kusamalira wokondedwa pa nthawi ya matenda kumakhudza kwambiri moyo wake. Mankhwala apanthaŵi yake, kuvala bwino, kutsatira malamulo a ukhondo ndi zakudya zothandizira, kutsata mosamala malamulo a dokotala - zonsezi mosakayikira zimathandiza kuti munthu ayambe kuchira mofulumira. Koma aliyense wa ife anazindikira kuti kuli kofunika kudziwa kuti mukuda nkhaŵa kuti mumakondedwa. Izi ndi zomwe timamva, ngati achibale athu ali pafupi. Ndiwo kuthekera kwawo kusamalira wokondedwa amene amachititsa kuti ayambe kuchira mwamsanga.
Ambiri amanena za banja losangalala. Ndipotu, ndizodziwika kuti maubwenzi okhaokha omwe amamangidwa mwachikondi, kusamalirana kungathandize kuti banja likhale losangalala. Ndi zochuluka bwanji, ndipo nthawi imodzimodzi, anganene mawu achikondi! Ndi mawu otani omwe mungasonyeze ku chisangalalo chokhazikika, chomwe chimakukhudzani inu mosasamala, ndikugwetsa misozi m'maso mwanu, pamene inu, poopa kusuntha, yang'anani munthu amene akugona paphewa panu. Kapena kuti kukhumba ndi kukhuta kwambiri mu chifuwa chanu pamene mutagawana ndi okondedwa anu. Ndipo momwe mungalongosole chisangalalo, chikondi, chisamvetsetseke chomwe chimapweteketsa mtima ndi kupweteka mumtima, pamene mumaganizira za msinkhu wanu, akuluakulu komanso nthawi yomweyo, makolo otetezekawo. Palibe mawu oti afotokoze zonsezi. Koma izi siziri zofunikira. Chilichonse chimandiwoneka mosavuta. Mungofunika kukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti pafupi ndi inu pafupi. Muyenera kukumbukira ndikuzindikira kuti chikondi chanu ndi chithandizo chanu chikufunika. Zomwe zimadalira inu, okondedwa anu pafupi ndi inu adzakhala otentha, okondwa komanso odekha. Ndipo zonsezi palimodzi, monga zikuwonekera kwa ine ndipo pali nkhawa kwa okondedwa.
Yesetsani kusamalira okondedwa anu kuti mawu asakwaniritsidwe!