Malamulo a bwalo.
Inu simungathe kumvetsa chifukwa chake ndi ine, msungwana wokoma mtima ndi wokoma, sindingapeze chinenero chofanana ndi abwenzi anga apamtima? Ndipo kawirikawiri, iwo amati, ndichifukwa chiyani ine ndiyenera "kumalowa" ndi wina ndi "kupeza chinenero chimodzi" ndi wina?
Choyamba, ndikofunika kuti mupitirizebe kukulitsa ubale wanu. Malingana ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, chifukwa cha kugonana kolimba, chikhalidwe chake choyankhulana ndi chofunikira kwambiri: ndi pomwe iye amadzizindikira yekha ngati munthu ndipo amalandira chitsimikizo cha kudzidalira kwake ndi udindo wake. Ndipo ngakhale chikondi chanu chonse sichikhoza kubwezeretsa maubwenzi "ozizira" ndi mabwenzi apamtima omwe simukuyandikira mumzimu.
Chachiwiri, kuti musinthe ndi kuyang'ana njira zopezera "chinenero chofala", ziri kwa inu. Kumbukirani kuti bwalo lililonse liri ndi mphamvu kwambiri kuposa munthu aliyense. Mwa njira, munthu wodziimira yekhayo, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri, chifukwa mndandanda uliwonse womwe wapangidwa kale umakhala ndi mtsogoleri yemwe nthawi zonse amakhala wochenjera pa atsopano omwe ali ndi charisma. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mupeze chinenero chimodzi, musataye mfundo zanu zofunika.
Nthawi yovuta kwambiri kuti mupeze kumvetsetsa ndi masabata awiri kapena atatu oyambirira. Panthawi imeneyi, amzanu atsopano mu intuitively rally ndikukhala ndi mtima wodikira, ndipo mumakonda kuweruza zonse mwachiwonetsero chimodzi "Sindimakonda." Ndikofunika kwambiri m'masiku oyambirirawa kuti asasokoneze mgwirizanowu mosamalitsa ndi mawu okhwima ndi osiyana. Chinthu chachilendo kapena nthabwala zingakhoze kuwononga mbiri yanu, ndipo kusamvetsetsana komwe mumanena ndiko kuyambitsa mikangano.
Ali alendo pakati pawo.
Kupanga njira yolankhulirana bwino (simunakumanebe ndi chibwenzi chenicheni, chabwino?) Ndi abwenzi a mnyamatayu - njirayi nthawi zina imakhala yayitali komanso nthawi yambiri. Ndicho chifukwa chake nkofunikira kuyambitsa bizinesi yovuta ngati chisonkhezero chiri champhamvu kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, chiyembekezo cha ukwati.
Kumbukirani kuti mu bwalo lililonse malamulo anu ndi kudziwana nawo zidzakuthandizani kupeza chinenero chofala.
"Ndalama ndi ntchito zimasankha chirichonse."
Mabwenzi awa, monga lamulo, ali olimbikira, akuyang'ana pa kukula kwa ntchito ndi chuma chamoyo. Inu mulibe zambiri zofanana ndi iwo, kupatula kwa iye, yekhayo.
Bwanji mukudikirira? Muzinthu zamalonda, kudziimira, kuyembekezera, kudzidalira komanso kukwanitsa kuteteza maganizo awo kumayamikiridwa. Kuyankhulana ndi mabwenzi otere a wokondedwa nthawi zonse kumakhala kovuta komanso kovuta.
Mmene mungakhalire? Anthu awa amapereka chiweruzo mofulumira ndipo sakufuna kuwongolera. Choncho, muwauzeni kuti mudzakhala "munthu" womenyana, simungabisire kumbuyo kwa okondedwa anu ndikupewa kucheza nawo. Nthawi zonse fotokozani momveka bwino maganizo anu ndi kuvomereza ndi kuvomereza. Ndipo nkotheka kuti posachedwapa mudzatha kupeza "makiyi a mitima yawo".
Nthawi yoti "Imani!". Ngati mwaponyedwa kumbuyo ndi mabwenzi anzanu, musachite mantha kumenyana ndikuwonetsani "Ine". Pambuyo pake, mudzakhaladi mmodzi!
"Achibale a olemekezeka."
Mabwenzi ochepa, koma akadalipobe. Mabwenzi awa, monga lamulo, ali olemekezeka, odzikuza, ophunzira komanso olemekezeka. Pakuitanirani bwino kuti mukapange tiyi mubwerere mokwanira, ndipo mwanjira yoyenera kuti muzichita patebulo ndi zofunika kuti muzichitapo pasadakhale.
Bwanji mukudikirira? Anthu awa amavomerezedwa kwambiri ndi chinyengo ndi "manyazi". Poyambirira, amaika kuwona mtima ndi chikhalidwe mwa makhalidwe ndi ubale.
Mmene mungakhalire? Manyazi, kuthekera koti mukhale ndi chiyanjano chokhazikika pakati pa anthu, chithumwa, kukhumudwa - ndi makhalidwe awa mudzapeza kupambana ndi kupeza molondola kwa chinenero chofala polumikizana. Pogwiritsa ntchito njirayi, musayende bwino kwambiri ndipo musasangalale nthawi isanakwane: kwa inu iwo adzayang'anitsitsa kwambiri ndipo chifukwa chachinyengo chachikulu "iwo adzachotsedwa pa mndandanda wa abwenzi".
Nthawi yoti "Imani!". Panthawi imene mawonekedwewa ayamba kupambana pa zokhazokha (mu bwalo sizinali zachilendo). Ngati muyamba kusukulu, afotokozereni anzanu a chibwenzi chanu kuti simunakonzekere mautumiki.
"Mafumu Achilengedwe".
Iwo ali okwezeka kwambiri, oyambirira ndi osakayikira anthu. Zokambirana zawo zopanda malire nthawi zonse zimakhudzana ndi zomwe achita (nyimbo, chithunzi, vesi). Iwo ndi akatswiri a mtundu wawo ndipo kawirikawiri amatha kuwonekera.
Bwanji mukudikirira? Mu bwaloli ndizozoloŵera kusintha "abwenzi" mofulumira kwambiri. Ndi chifukwa chake inu, mwinamwake, mudzalandiridwa mosadandaula, koma mumwazikana. Koma, ndipo ngati simungathe kumvetsa, mwachitsanzo, "nyimbo ya mawu," ndipo simuyembekeza chifundo. Ndipo pomwe pano ndi tsopano mudzamva mkwiyo wonse pa iwo. Anthu opanga ndi abwino kwambiri pa mphatso yonena chirichonse chomwe akuganiza "mu diso," osati kuchita manyazi ndi mawu.
Mmene mungakhalire? Kuti mupeze anzanu apamtima kumvetsetsa, muwatsimikizire, bwenzi lapamtima la bwenzi lawo ndipo mwakonzeka kukhala nawo limodzi pamisonkhano yawo yolenga. Kumbukirani kuti mndandanda uwu amadziwa kuti munthu ali ndi chidziwitso chotani komanso chilakolako chopanga zinthu. Zithunzi pano sizigwira ntchito konse, koma maganizo osakhala a template amayamikiridwa kwambiri. Sonyezani chikhumbo chanu cha kukongola, ngakhale mutakhala kutali ndi luso. Ndipo chitsimikizo cha izi ndi chakuti chibwenzi chanu ndi munthu wolemekezeka.
Nthawi yoti "Imani!". Mukawona kuti chilengedwe cha osankhidwawo chikuyesa kumuyika maganizo oti "kuwala sikukusonkhana pamodzi". Aliyense amadziwa kuti anthu olenga akufufuza nthawi zonse, koma izi sizisonyezo kuti zisawononge ubale wanu.
"Asayansi akuluakulu".
Wosamala, aliyense padziko lapansi amadziwa ndi kupereka malangizo pa chirichonse.
Bwanji mukudikirira? Sizoyenera abwenzi okondedwa awa, kuwadziwitsanso zolinga zawo, mwinamwake mumangomva kuti mukutsutsidwa. Kuwoneka kwakukulu pa iwo kumapanga kuzindikira kwanu mu izi kapena malo.
Mmene mungakhalire? Ngakhale zili choncho, anthuwa ndi odalirika komanso omasuka. Mwa inu iwo akufuna kuona interlocutor wodekha ndi wodalirika yemwe ati: "Ine ndikukhoza kumvetsa iwe!".
Nthawi yoti "Imani!". Mukazindikira kuti mukuvutika maganizo ndikuwonetsa kuti simuli woyenera kuyankhulana nawo.
Umo ndi momwe ubwenzi wapamtima ndi abwenzi anu okondedwa umawonekera, zomwe muyenera kupulumuka ndikudutsa mumalo awo, kutsimikizira kuti ndinu bwenzi lanu zomwe mukufunikira!