Kodi theka langa lachiwiri ndi chiyani? Kodi pali zenizeni kapena ndi chinyengo? Kodi mumaimira momveka bwino ndi yemwe mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo? Ndipo anthu amalingalira chiyani za amayi komanso mosiyana? Tiyeni tiyankhe mafunso awa.
"Chinsinsi chosathetsedwe", kapena maloto a amuna okhudza akazi.
Kaŵirikaŵiri kwa amuna ndikofunikira kwambiri kukhala ndi ntchito (zochita zamalonda ndi zofanana), ndipo mkaziyo akungoyenera kuwathandiza kuti apite kukwera pamsinkhu wa ntchito, kupanga kukhala wokoma ndi kubereka ana ... Kodi mkazi uyu ayenera kukhala ndi moyo wotani? Kodi pali mkazi woyenera mu chifaniziro cha mwamuna? Kapena kodi nthano? Tiyeni tiyese kupeza.
Andrei wophunzira wazaka 20 anayankha funso lokhudza mkazi wabwino kuti alipo, koma aliyense ali ndi lingaliro lake labwino, malingana ndi maphunziro, chilengedwe, ndi zina zotero. "Kwa ine, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri," ndilo dziko lamkati, ndipo mawonekedwe ayenera kukhala okondweretsa, kotero kuti palibe zonyansa. Pakapita nthawi, kunja kumasintha, ndipo dziko lamkati ndi munthu nthawi zonse, ndipo mumamva.
Vasily, 21, maloto "kuti msungwanayo, ndipo pambuyo pake mkaziyo anali wamtali wamtali wa tsitsi lalitali, wokoma mtima, wokongola, woona mtima, kotero kuti mumukhulupirire iye, ndipo chofunika kwambiri - ndi dziko lamtundu wochuluka." Monga momwe Vasily ananenera, nthawi zambiri amadziwana ndi atsikana okongola, akumvetsera maonekedwe.
Andrey, yemwe ali ndi zaka makumi atatu, yemwe kale ali ndi chidziwitso ndi amayi, akutsimikiza kuti "choyamba, payenera kukhala kumvetsetsa pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi." (Inde, kumvetsetsa - ndi kofunikira kwa mabanja omwe akhala pamodzi zaka 1 mpaka 7). "Mkazi woyenera," mnyamatayu amakhulupirira, "ayenera kuphika mokoma, kulingalira zolakalaka za munthuyo, kuyendetsa galimoto, ndi mawonekedwe - kukhala abwino. Ndipo mwa onse, kuti mwamuna akhalebe chinsinsi, zest. "
- Ndipo theka langa lina, - adagwirizana ndi Andrew, - ayenera kukhala ndi thupi la Aphrodite, kumwetulira - Mona Lisa, maso - Cleopatra, ndi khalidwe - Margaret Thatcher. (Mwachidziwikire, khalidwe la "Iron Lady" m'malo mwake limamuopseza amuna ake kusiyana ndi kukopa).
Amuna adalongosola malingaliro awo okhudza mkazi wabwino. Valery, wazaka 53, adanena mwachidule ndi momveka bwino kuti: "Sindimakhulupirira kuti akazi abwino. Mkazi ayenera kukhala ndi zinthu mopanda malire, koma chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti chikondi ndi ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ziyenera kukhalapo, kuti mkaziyo akhale wokhulupirika. "
Inde, kwa mwamuna aliyense mkazi wabwino ndi theka lake lachiwiri. Ndipo kafukufuku wochepa wa amuna angapo anatha kupanga chithunzi chachikulu cha mkazi wabwino. Kotero, Iye ndi wokongola kwambiri, ali ndi dziko lolemera kwambiri, ayenera kuphika mokoma, kulingalira zokhumba za munthuyo, kukhala zoona, kukwanitsa galimoto, pamene akutsalira chinsinsi cholimba chinsinsi chosadziwika.
Maganizo a amayi pa "munda wamphamvu", kapena "akazi akusankha".
Kodi amai amafunika mtundu wanji wa theka lachiwiri? M'zaka zamkati zapitazi, amakhulupirira kuti munthu ayenera kukhala msilikali weniweni - wabuluu wa maso a buluu kapena ubweya wonyezimira ndi tsitsi lalitali, wolimba mtima, wamphamvu, wopirira komanso kuti mkazi akumverera pafupi naye ngati "kumbuyo kwa khoma lamwala". Nthaŵi zinali kusintha, koma zoyenera za msilikali wokongola anakhalabe zaka mazana ambiri, koma panali amphona komanso osakhala okongola ... Kotero pang'onopang'ono m'malingaliro a akazi chikhalidwe cha munthu weniweni chinakhazikitsidwa - champhamvu, chilimbikitso ndi chokongola. Pambuyo pake, izi zinkasunthira ma TV ... Zilipo kuimilira kwa akazi ndipo tsopano, m'zaka za zana lathu zokha zimaphatikizidwa ndi zinthu zina: Kuwonjezera pa ophunzira, amphamvu, opindulitsa, okhutira, mkaziyo akufuna kumuwona mnzawo - wanzeru, wowolowa manja, zamanyazi ndi zina zotero. Ndipo kusintha koyenera ndi msinkhu.
Julia wa zaka khumi ndi zisanu, yemwe adakumana naye pakiyo, akulolera kukomana ndi ana omwe angakhale ofanana ndi mafano a achinyamata omwe alipo kuyambira pamagazini owala. Ngakhale makhalidwe awo kapena zizoloŵezi sizikuwonetsa zizoloŵezi za msungwanayo. Ndi zoona kuti pa nthawi ino amamvetsera maonekedwe.
Elvira, wa zaka 23: "Sindimakhulupirira zokhumba, chifukwa ndimakhulupirira kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi zofooka, koma timagwirizana kwambiri ndi anthu, (sichikuoneka kwa ife) kuti tikutsegule maso athu. Choyamba, munthu ayenera kukhala wowolowa manja, wanzeru komanso wamanyazi. Mtsikana aliyense ali ndi zofunikira zake kwa mwamuna weniweni, koma zonse ndi zosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe zikhalidwe zimasiyananso. "
Alena, wazaka 40: "Pa msinkhu wathu, munthu ayenera kukhala bwenzi limene mungamuuze, yemwe akufuna kukhala wothandizira, chifukwa mukufuna kumuthandizira, kuti atseke paphewa pake. Koma musaiwale za chikondi, chifukwa kufunika kwa izi ngakhale zaka 40 sikunathe, ndikufuna kupereka maluwa. Kwa zaka zambiri, makhalidwe amasintha. Mwachitsanzo, maonekedwe sagwira ntchito yofunikira, ndipo chidwi chimakhudzidwa ndi ubale wina ndi mnzake. "
Choncho, ndibwino kuti Iye ali: munthu wooneka ngati wokongola kuchokera pachivundikiro cha magazini yofiira, ndiko, wokongola, wowolowa manja, wochenjera, wodabwitsa, wachikondi, wodalirika, yemwe angapereke banja ndi kuyamikira mkazi wake.
Maganizo a akatswiri a maganizo.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti kupititsa patsogolo masinthidwe a sayansi ndi zamakono, chikhalidwe cha maganizo chawonongeka, ndipo chikhalidwe cha anthu abwino adasintha kukhala abwino. Poyamba, chithunzicho chinakhudzidwa ndi makhalidwe abwino a umunthu wa munthu, ndipo kale lero - ndalama. Pafupi zaka khumi zapitazo chirichonse chinali 50 mpaka 50. Lingaliro la anthu abwino ndi losiyana kwa aliyense. Inde, ubale pakati pa okwatirana umasiyana ndi nthawi, ndipo izi ndi zachilendo. Eya, ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi sakuyang'anitsitsa zofooka za wina ndi mzake. Ngati palibe kusiyana pakati pawo, mikangano ikuyamba yomwe ingabweretse chisudzulo. "
Katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America W. Harley anaphunzira zaka zingapo za mabanja okwatirana ndipo anafika pamapeto awa pokhudzana ndi zoyembekezeka za wina aliyense. Zoyembekeza za amuna pa akazi: kukhutira pa kugonana, kukongola kwa mkazi, kusunga nyumba, kuthandizira khalidwe kwa mwamuna wake. Zoyembekeza za amayi zokhudzana ndi amuna: Chikondi, chikondi, chikondi, kuyankhulana, kuwona mtima, kutseguka, kuthandizira zachuma, kukhulupirika kwa banja, kutenga mbali pa kulera ana. Malingana ndi Harley, kawirikawiri kulephera kwa abambo ndi amai kumanga banja ndi chifukwa cha kusadziŵa zosowa za wina ndi mzake.
Kotero, izo zikutulukira, kuti zoyenerazo zakhazikitsidwa, choyamba, pokwaniritsa zokhumba zawo? Kapena kodi ndibwino kuti mgwirizanowu ukhale wogwirizana? Ndipo ngati kugwirizana uku sikuli m'chilengedwe, nanga bwanji munthu! Mafunsowa amakhalabe olemba.