Masewera a paka ndi mouse
Kumbukirani, ndi "Autumn Marathon" wotanthauzira mozama akufunsa mnzanu waluso ndi wogwira mtima kuti amuthandize ndi kumasulira kwake? Ndipo iye amalamulidwa mwankhanza ndi zovuta za wina aliyense - kapena kuti, amalemba zinthu zonse mwatsopano. Iye ndi moyo wake alibe nthawi yokwanira, koma adayamba kale kuchita chinthu cholakwika ndi mutu wake ndipo sadziwa m'mene maso a phirili akulira - womasulira amene amutsata amakhala makono akuluakulu opambana. Mouse yameza - ntchito yatha. Manja amphamvu.
Munthu wanzeru kunyumba
Iye, monga momwe amayenera kwa munthu wanzeru, amaphunzitsa. Chifukwa cha kusowa kwa anthu ambiri. N'zovuta kuganiza, chifukwa chowonadi ndi konkire ndipo pazomwezi zimayenera kubwezeretsedwa. "Mawu a kunyumba" adachokera kumbuyo kwa malingaliro ake aulesi kamodzi. Nthawi zonse iye ali ndi ndondomeko yolemba: "Ndipo ndinanena zimenezo! Ndiyenera kumvetsera!" Kukonzekera uku ndi kochepa kwambiri kuposa momwe tafotokozera pamwambapa: kumapereka "munthu wanzeru" wokhala ndi maganizo opambana popanda ntchito iliyonse (ndipo ndithudi, popanda chifukwa).
Wina wa wina
Ndani sanafunikire kupirira mnzanu - mwana wamuyaya? Pokhala osasamala bwino ntchito, iye ali ndi luso lodabwitsa amadziwika kuti ali wamantha, wosamvetsetseka, samamvetsa nthawi zonse zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa iye, kuyembekezera mwamsangala (kuyang'anira). Kuitana kulakalaka kwamuyaya kwa anthu owolowa manja - kutenga pansi pa mapiko a ofooka, osasinthika - amakonzedwa pansi pa phiko la wina, monga chikoko mu jack ya robin: wokhala bwino ndi omveka. Mosakayikira - "maziko" awa adzapulumuka ndi kukhala pansi (okhala) antchito ake onse aluso ndi odalirika.
Mwana m'banja
"Ndipo zonsezi ziri pa ine, ndipo ngakhale alimi akugona pa bedi tsiku lonse, adagwa pansi, ndipo pakali pano palibe chomwe chikuwonetseratu," - akazi ena amalankhula mawu amphwando a 90s osati kokha ndi kuvomereza, koma ndi chifundo - ndi chisoni. Chifukwa chiyani? Chidani chikanakhala chachilengedwe. Koma iye sali ndipo sadzakhalapo, chifukwa hocus-pocus anali atapambana: "munthu amene ali pabedi" anakhala pa iye mozama komanso kwa nthawi yaitali. Bwanji mukuvutika, kusuntha, kuganizira za mkate wa tsiku ndi tsiku? Mkazi amakonda kumwa, kudyetsa, kupatsa, kumvetsa chisoni. Ndizophatikizidwa kawiri - momwe zimakhalira mwanzeru kamba.
Ndipo apa pali mtundu wina wa anthu omwe amakonda "kubisala makoswe mu silinda":
Kodi simunamve bwanji? (Simunaone?)
Wogwira ntchitoyo, amakhala mochedwa kwa theka la ora, akuthamangira ku ofesi ndikuyang'ana modabwa: "Chabwino, mumakonda bwanji dzulo?" Anthu akukweza mitu yawo, mfumu yamkwiyo imaiwala zonse zomwe adafuna kuti zichotse "munthu wopusa uyu." Chotsatira ndi telefoni ya dzulo, ndi pereprochennye ndi mchere wambiri. Aliyense amalowa nawo kukambirana ndi kukwiya, ndipo nthawi yomaliza imangoyenda mobisa kumbuyo kwake. Pamene zilakolako zatsala pang'ono kutha, wovutitsayo amagwira ntchito yake mwakufuna kuti adziwe kuti ndizomwe zimakhala zopanda nzeru kwambiri.
Kapena vutoli, lodziwika bwino kwa onse ndi aliyense:
Osati ndi chikwama chako!
Timayima kutsogolo, ndikuyang'ana mwapang'onopang'ono magetsi a matebulo (mapeni, matumba, oyeretsa - osati chofunika), zomwe ambiri sitingakwanitse. Popeza munakonda zambiri, chonde musonyezeni zomwe zili zosavuta. "Ndipo mwinamwake uyu?" - komanso wogulitsa amene amatiwona, akumwetulira pang'ono, amagwedeza pamthunzi wa nyali ya orange. "Bwanji?" Ndiwonetseni ine! " - timayankha, kuyimitsa mtanda pammero ndikudziyesa, zomwe ziyenera kusiya chifukwa cha zinthu zakunja ... Zonse ziri bwino. Tinagula muzinthu zonyenga, zowerengera - tinagula chinthu chofunikira kwambiri m'nyumba.
Izi ndizo ndondomeko yeniyeni ya kayendedwe ka kayendedwe kake: wogwiritsira ntchito amayang'ana ndipo nthawi yomweyo amawerengera zofooka zathu. Iwo ndi "katundu", "kugula" ndi "kugulitsa" zomwe wogulitsa manipulator adakhazikitsa mu moyo.
Nchifukwa chiyani ife tiri okonzeka kwambiri kwa iwo, pamene iwo ali kwa ife "chinthu-mwa-chokha", "bokosi lakuda"? Njira yothetsera vutoli ndiyo chifukwa chakuti kugwiritsidwa ntchito, kumalankhula, ndi umunthu. Nchifukwa chiyani mumayesetsa nokha, ngati wina atenga yekha? Ana, mwachitsanzo, ndizowonetsera chitsanzo. Kodi ndi bambo wanji amene sanagwirizane ndi ziwerengero m'malo mwa aulesi omwe amafunsa choyamba, ndiye "akuiwala" momwe angagwiritsire ntchito, ndi zina zotero. ndi zina zotero. Kuphulika mu kukumbukira, aliyense adzakumbukira kangati iye adathamanga pa mphuno za okonda bwino, kuwakakamiza kuti aike mafupa awo kumene anali waulesi kwambiri kuti asunthire chala chake chaching'ono. Koma tinakulira. Tsiku lina zinadza kwa ife kuti kudalira ena sizonyansa chabe, koma komanso zoopsa: munthu amanyozetsa, kukana kuvomereza zovuta za moyo pamodzi ndi aliyense. Umunthu umatulutsidwa. Chinachake kuchokera kwa icho chavulala, chopanda chimene palibe ulemu kapena kudzilemekeza. Pali malire omwe sangathe kuwoloka. Anthu osokoneza bongo adanyalanyaza izo - ndipo adatuluka mu bwalo la anthu omwe mungathe kuwagwiritsira ntchito. Kodi iwo omwe safuna kuti alowe mugulu la amatsenga ndi adiresi? Sungagulitse chinthu chosagulitsidwa: chifundo, chisoni, chifundo, chikondi? - Dziwani choonadi chophweka. Ndipo choyamba ndikuzindikira: timadzilola tokha. Kodi, ngati osakhala otsika mtengo, tikukakamiza kuti tisawonongeke nthawi yachisanu kuti tipeze nyambo ya Dodger? ("Bwanji, iwe sunachiwone?")
Ndipo kodi sikutaya mtima, osati chikhumbo chochotsa mwana mwamsanga mwamsanga, kutikakamiza ife kuti tipitilirepo mu njira mmalo mwake? Phunzitsani, kutanthauzira, kufotokoza, kupempha kubwereza - nthawi yaitali ndi yosangalatsa, yosavuta kuchita nokha ("Ndithandizeni").
Manyazi onyenga, ndipo palibe kenanso, amatiuza kuti tiyike malipiro a mwezi omwe sali ofunikira ("Osati ndi chikwama chako"). Sizowonongeka konse, koma osayanjanitsika (kapena, mantha) amachititsa zaka zambiri kuti azisokoneza ndi munthu wochenjera amene amagwira malo a wina ("phiko lachilendo"). Mukazindikira kuti mukugwidwa ndi zofooka zanu, zimakhala zosavuta kuzindikira nthawi yomwe mukugwiritsidwa ntchito. , mophiphiritsira, chizindikiro chodalirika kwambiri choti mukufuna kuti mukhale "mbewa" ndikumva manyazi komanso kusokonezeka.Inu mumadana kuchita zomwe mthunzi wakuda wakukakamiza ukutsutsa (ngakhale pang'onopang'ono, wophimba): kongoza, funsani , itanani "chabwino" (osati inu, koma kwa iye) h munthu, "Friendly to view" etc.-ndi zina zotero.
Nthawizonse zimakhala zovuta kukana: wosewera mpira mumphindi ndi mbewa amamanga mawerengedwe ake m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ndipo simukukana. Musanene kuti ayi. Pali mawu amatsenga amodzi omwe amalepheretsa kuzunzidwa kulikonse-kosavuta komanso kovuta. Pano pali: "Ndikuwopa kuti mumaganizira kwambiri (ndikutha kuwonjezera) zanga (zowonjezera, mwayi)". Wogwiritsira ntchito mosamala amatha kuthamangira kukangana kuti izi siziri choncho, ali otsimikiza kuti ndinu wowolowa manja komanso womvera, ndiwongoleratu ndi wowolowa manja ... Koma mphindiyo yaphonya - maso a khungu ayamba kale, mdima wakuda wa wamatsenga waonekera bwino. Tsopano inu mukhoza kupita pang'onopang'ono kupita ku chomwe chimatchedwa kuteteza chitetezo, musati muchitire kuzunzidwa nkomwe. Mwinamwake simunamvetsetse kapena simunamvetsetse. Sinthani zokambiranazo ku mutu wina. "Kumbukirani", kuti mudzalandira maulendo ofulumira, ndipo nkhaniyi ndi yoipa kwambiri ndipo muyenera kuthawa. Wogwiritsira ntchito mankhwalawa akhoza kukuchotsani inu kukhumudwa.
Kawirikawiri, kuchokera kumalingaliro opatsirana a maganizo ndi "osaoneka bwino": maubwenzi ambiri a anthu amawachotsa, chifukwa adasankha mitundu iwiri: imvi ndi yakuda, "amafunika" - "osafunika". Kugwidwa ndi kuvulaza kwambiri khalidwe. N'zosatheka kugwiritsa ntchito ena popanda chilango kuti akhale ndi thanzi labwino. Ndicho chifukwa chake ambiri opanga mano ndi amwano. "Kusaka" kwa wina kumafuna kupanikizika nthawi zonse. Opusa opusa amadziwa kuti n'zosatheka kuwerengera zovuta zonse. Ndiyeno mu zoopsa zotsatira, imodzi mwa izo imaonekera pamaso pawo muzoipa zake zonse. Chinthu chokhumudwitsa kwambiri ndi chakuti anthu ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ngakhale ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi "kuipa koyesa," amatayika chinthu chimodzi chochepa, chomwe pazifukwa zina saganizira za moyo wawo. Chifukwa mtundu wake - ubwenzi, chikondi, kukondedwa, nthawi zonse chikondi sichisangalatsidwa.
Lyubov Scherbatova
"Dokotala wa Banja", # 5, 2000