Amati ndizosamveka kusinthana ndi umunthu. Koma sititha kuyembekezera kuti tikambirane ndi wina. Mwachitsanzo, inu ndi chisokonezo chanu chamkati.
Ndizovuta bwanji? Muli ndi chidaliro chakuti mumadzidzimva kuti ndinu ovuta, ndondomeko, kukonzekera zolinga za ntchito - ndipo mwadzidzidzi tsiku lina (chinenero sichikutcha kuti chikhale changwiro), wina mkati mwanu ayamba kufunafuna moyo wosiyana. Zosintha zoterezi ndi zabwino kwa mafilimu, koma kwenikweni sizimayambitsa chidwi. Choyamba, pali misala kwambiri padziko lapansi. Chachiwiri, ndikufunadi kudalira ndekha. Ngakhale, ngati mukuganiza za izo, mawu osayenerera akuti "kudalira nokha" amasonyeza kale umunthu wagawanika.
Musaganize kuti tikukuopani, koma akatswiri a zamaganizo masiku ano amakonda kunena kuti "munthu wathunthu" ndizophatikizapo kuphatikiza kwa mawu, koma kwenikweni psyche ya munthu (yathanzi, njira) ndi yambiri. "Archetypes", "introjects", "subpersonalities" - mawu onse opambanawa amatanthauza mbali za "I". Nthawi zina zigawozi ndi zosiyana kwambiri kuti moyo wawo wothandizira "pansi pa denga limodzi" umasanduka nkhondo yotsutsana, ndipo mumadabwa kuti mphamvu yosadziwika ikukupangani inu, amene mwataya lumbiro kuti muchepetse, kutaya firiji ndi soseji! Si nthawi yoti mufunse: tiyeni timvetse bwino, kumene anthuwa amachokera komanso zomwe akufuna. Othandiza ovulaza
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amaumirira kuti mwamtheradi munthu aliyense amapanga zithunzithunzi zake m'maganizo mwa makolo ake. Izi zimachitika mosazindikira, chifukwa achibale obisika pamutu wa mutu akhoza mantha mosiyana ndi amayi enieni ndi abambo - kawirikawiri akutsogoleredwa ndi kutopa kwambiri.
"Inu simungathe kuchita chirichonse," "inu nonse mukugwa izruk kwanthawizonse", "chabwino, kodi mwafika pati?" - ngakhale mayi wabwinobwino nthawi zina zimachitika kuti sangathe kupirira komanso kuti asakwiyire (chifukwa makolo ayenera kukonda!), Mwana wamkazi wabwino amavomereza mawu awa pa mtengo wamtengo wapatali ndipo "amaika" mkati mwatsatanetsatane wamkulu monga mlangizi.
Zaka zimapita, mayi weniweni amaphunzitsa zochepa, koma wotsogolera amachititsa nthawi zonse komanso nthawi yosafunika kwambiri - mwachitsanzo, pomunyoza kuwonjezeka kwa malipiro. Nthawi zina kuchokera ku chikayikiro chowopsya ndizotheka kuvulaza, koma nthawi zambiri timakhala olimba mtima komanso ngati atsikana abwino, timayamba kumvetsera. Koma tiyenera kuchita. Choyamba, ganizirani za ndendende ndi chifukwa chake mawuwa akulembedwera mwa inu. Mwina mayi anu anali ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndipo nthawi ina ankayesera kukutetezani. Kapena, povutika ndi kudzichepetsa, anthu apamtima sanakhulupirire ndi mphamvu zanu. Ndipo potengera zotsatira za malingaliro awa, yesani kumvetsetsa: ngakhale makolo anu enieni achita zolakwika zambiri zapadera, mukhoza kuchepetsa mtima wamkati. Pa nthawi zofunikira za moyo, omasuka kuwapempha kuti atseke. Chifukwa iwo ali gawo chabe la umunthu wanu, zomwe sizikuyenereradi kuti mukhale pa khosi lanu.
Koma malingaliro a katswiri wa zamaganizo a ku Switzerland, dzina lake Carl Jung, yemwe anasuntha sayansi zaka zana zapitazo, mbali zathu za "I" zimaperekedwa kuchokera kubadwa. Monga ngati anthu atabadwa kale ndi zizindikiro (archetypes) m'mitima yawo yomwe ili ndi zinthu zosiyana. , Shadow, Mkazi Wachikulire, izi ndi zitsanzo zambiri zimakhala mwa aliyense mwa ife mosasamala za mtundu kapena chikhalidwe cha anthu (choncho nthano ndi nthano za anthu osiyanasiyana zimamveka mofananamo kwa aliyense popanda chosiyana.) Mmodzi mwa akazi ofunika kwambiri a archetypes, katswiri wa zamaganizo ankaganiza kuti Animus, wamwamuna Zimatipatsa mphamvu komanso zoyesayesa, zimathandiza kudumphira pamwamba pa mutu ndi kutenga pangozi ya ngongole yobwereketsa. Pamene tili aang'ono, timatha kuphunzira makhalidwe achikazi, koma tikalamba timapambana tikamacheza ndi Animus. - maloto achikondi ndi mlendo wokongola (kapena bwenzi limene sichimvetsa chisoni kwambiri pamoyo.) A Jungians amanena kuti maloto ngati amenewa sizowonetsera kuti akufunikira kulandira chithandizo chochuluka kuchokera ku chidziwitso chawo. Choncho, ngati mukuvutika maganizo m'malingaliro oterowo, khalani ndi nthawi yodziwana ndi wothandizira wanu. Lembani izi, lembani nkhani ndi kutenga nawo mbali, kusewera zokambirana - mwachidule, tiyeni tizimasula. Mwa njira, malangizowo akugwiritsanso ntchito ku maulendo ena. Mukhoza kugwirizana ndi aliyense: Mkazi wamulungu ndi Wachikulire Wachikulire ndi othandiza kwambiri, muyenera kungodziwa kuti ndiwotani.
Mawanga oyera pamapu apakati
Mwamtheradi mwana aliyense amafunikira zinthu ziwiri zofunika: kuvomereza kwa makolo ndi chikondi cha makolo.
Ndipo ngati achikulire amakana kuvomereza ana awo makhalidwe kapena zikhumbo zina, iyenso adzafulumira kukana iwo, kungobera mayi ndi bambo. Winawake amaletsedwa kupukuta pulasitiki mu chophimba ndi kuteteza ufulu wawo; wina - kupita ku gawo lomwe mumawakonda kapena kukhala abwenzi ndi ana "olakwika". Atsikana samakwera mitengo, anyamata samalira, nyimbo ndizosachita ntchito ... Mwinamwake inu nokha mukhoza kupitiriza mndandandawu. umunthu wathu (iwo ndi chikhalidwe cha munthu) sichidzangowonongeka ndi zaka, koma, monga a makhadi a imvi, iwo adzakhudza moyo wanu wachikulire mobisa.
Pamene psyche yanu ili ngati chigawo, ndi nthawi yopempha kliniki ya neurosis. Ndipo komatu kuti tipewe kukhumudwa popanda zifukwa. Ntchito yaikulu ikhoza kuyankhulidwa motere: Kudziwa bwino anthu onse omwe ali mkati mwawo, osagawanitsa chabwino ndi choipa, choipa ndi chabwino. Ndipo izi siziyenera kukhala zowonongeka chabe, koma kufufuza kwa sayansi. chikondi, ndipo osati chiyani? Zambiri mwatsatanetsatane, zimapatsa mwayi wokhala ndi anzanu ndikupeza chinenero chofanana ndi icho. Zomwe zili pa njirayi zingathandize zokhumba zanu. Yambani ndi yankho lachindunji pa funso lakuti "Kodi ndikufuna chiyani?" Ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti zinthu zina zimatsutsana ndi mnzanu.
Mwinamwake wina mkati mwanu akufuna kupaka mafuta. Musamafulumire kunena kuti mukusowa zopusa kapena zosayenera - pambuyo pake, maphunziro a pa studio sakukulimbikitsani kusiya ntchito kapena banja lanu. Koma ngati mumanyalanyaza wamisiri wanu wamkati chaka ndi chaka, pamakhala chiopsezo kuti adzapandukira ndipo akufuna kutenga malo apamwamba pamoyo wanu. Ntchitoyo ikuwoneka yosasangalatsa ndipo moyo ukupempha kuti uwopsyeze? Bwanji osayesa kuthamanga ndi parachute kapena kukwera njinga yamapiri? Mwinamwake, ngakhale chinthu chimodzi chokha chomwe chimatchedwa "Ine sindine wowerengera, koma kuwonongeka" kudzabweretsa mtendere ndi mgwirizano wa nthawi yaitali.
Ndipo mfundo yakuti aliyense wa ife ali ndi ulemu wake, palibe kukayika. Ngati, mwachitsanzo, iwe umakhala wogwidwa ndi chizoloŵezi cholamulira chirichonse, tadziyang'anitsitsa wekha wamba - munthuyo adzakuphunzitsani kuti musavutike ndi zopanda pake. Wochita chidwi ndi mzimu wa Mata Haribudet ndi wofunika kwambiri pa zokambirana zopanda chiyembekezo ndi zina zotsiriza zakufa. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kupeza nthawi ndi malo anu kwa amtima anu onse amkati. Ndiye, ngakhale mu nthawi zovuta, mudzakhala ndi wina woti afufuze thandizo ndikupitiriza ndi wina.