Chiyambi choyamba ndi chonyenga
Izi zimachitika kuti timudziwe munthu ndipo amazikonda poyamba. Pakatha maola angapo akulankhulana takhala okonzeka kukana phiri ndi kuteteza ulemu wake. Koma nthawi imatha ndipo zimakhala kuti mnzathu weniweni watsopano sali woyenera. Mwachitsanzo, kuyankhula kwake ndi chiyanjano, ndiko, kukonda miseche ndi kusakhoza kukhala chete, ngakhale pakufunikira. Ndipo kuletsa ndi kutonthozeka ndi chizindikiro cha kudzipatula, mkatikati mwa thupi komanso kutuluka. Zotsatira zake, bwenzi latsopano limasiya mofulumira, ndipo sitingathe kumvetsa kuti izi zingakhale zolakwika kwa munthu. Kuti zochitika zoterezi zisadzachitike, muyenera kukhala osamala pazochitikazo, komanso anthu omwe ali mmenemo. Choncho, musanalole munthu wina wa bwenzi lanu ndikuganizira makhalidwe ake ngati abwino, muyenera kudzipatsanso nthawi kuti muyang'ane mnzanu kapena watsopano. Ngakhale mutakopeka ndikulumbirira ndi munthu mu ubwenzi wamuyaya, kapena chikondi, muyenera kudziphunzitsa nokha ndi "kusayendetsa akavalo." Kumbukirani kuti malingana ndi momwe zinthu ziliri, anthu amachita mosiyana. Makamaka ngati akudziwana ndi munthu watsopano kapena gulu lonse. Zingatheke kuti munthu uyu "azivala" ndi kuyang'ana ogwedeza, ndipo khalidwe lake ndi masewera achibadwa. Choncho, ngakhale mutamukonda, dzikumbutseni nokha kuti payenera kukhala nthawi musanafike pamapeto.
Anthu onse amalakwitsa
Kawirikawiri timakonda kukondweretsa okondedwa athu, omwe atichitira zabwino ndi anthu ena kangapo. Pang'onopang'ono timayamba kuona mwa iwo Angelo enieni omwe sangathe komanso sakuyenera kuchita chinachake chimene sichinafanane nawo. Ndipo pamene izi zichitika, dziko likuwoneka likuphwera, chifukwa munthu wathu woyenera mwadzidzidzi anakhala padziko lonse lapansi, ali ndi zofooka zake. Ngati izi zikuchitika, palibe chomwe chiyenera kuchititsa munthu yemwe adachita zoipa kwambiri. Ndipotu, palibe chowopsya mu zomwe zinachitika.Ngati simunakonde, izi sizikanatheka. Kuti musakhumudwe, kumbukirani kuti mwa munthu aliyense wamoyo pali zofooka. Mwachitsanzo, m'bale wokondedwa wanu samwedzera, adzikongoletsa ndi amayi ndipo amatsogoleredwa ndi chikondi. Kenaka mwadzidzidzi amwedzera, amayamba kukhumudwitsa mtsikanayo, zomwe mwachiwonekere simudzamutcha Madonna ndipo sangawonongeke pempho lanu kuti muime. Ndipo iwe waimirira, ndikuyang'ana zonsezo ndipo zikuwoneka kuti dziko lapansi lagwa, chifukwa munthuyo anali atatha, monga momwe mudawonera. Koma kwenikweni, palibe choopsa chochitika. Mwinamwake mwamuna anathyola ndipo sakanatha kupirira, iye amafuna kuti akhale osiyana, pakuti mwa ife tonse tikukhala mbali yowonjezera, yomwe, pansi pa zochitika zinazake, imapempha maonekedwe. Chifukwa chake, mmalo mogwedezeka, muyenera kukumbukira kuti munthuyu ali ndi ufulu wokwanira kuti asayankhe mokwanira kuti apanikize, moyo wopambana ndi zina zotero. Ndipo khalidwe ili sizisonyeza kuti ndizoipa. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti ali moyo, osati wangwiro. Ndipo iwe, kuyang'ana pa khalidwe lake, uyenera kudzikumbukira wekha. Pambuyo pake, zinali ngati kuti munadziphwanya nokha ndikuchita chinthu chosadziwika nokha, ndipo kenako munadandaula. Ndi khalidwe labwino ngati si chizoloŵezi. Ndipo mukalowa, mmalo moimba mlandu munthu kuti awononge malingaliro anu, muyenera kukumbukira kuti mumamukonda ziribe kanthu momwe amachitira ndikufuna kumuthandiza kuti achoke mu dzenje la moyo. Chifukwa chake, pakuyang'ana okondedwa anu, nthawi zonse kumbukirani nokha kuti iwo sali amphamvu a mndandanda wakale, momwe zabwino zonse ziri zabwino, ndipo zoipazo ndizoipa ndi zopanda pake. Iwo ndi anthu wamba, ndi maganizo awo enieni ndi maganizo awo, omwe sangachite nthawi zonse moyenera ndipo ali ndi ufulu nthawi zina kusiya njira zawo kuti athe kupanikizika ndi mavuto kapena kungochepetseratu nthawi zonse.
Musaganize malemba
Kutengera kuchokera kwa winawake fano la munthu wabwino, timayamba mu malingaliro "kulemba" zochitika zonse za khalidwe lake. Ndizoti munthu wathu pazifukwa zina safuna kuchita monga momwe tikufunira. Amalankhula mau ena, amachita zinthu zomwe sitimakhala nazo, osati umunthu womwe timadziganizira tokha. Pankhaniyi, vuto lonse ndilokuti amai nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi makhalidwe omwe alibe. Kuchita ngati maziko okhaokha kapena makhalidwe amtundu, asungwana amadza ndi chithunzi chawonthu, ndipo amayamba kukhulupirira kuti munthuyo ayenera kuchita ndi kuchita monga choncho. Pamene satero, zabwino zimatha ndipo nthawi yokhumudwitsa imakhala. Kuti musadandaule pa zidutswa za maloto anu, nthawi zonse muzifufuza makhalidwe ndi zochita za anthu omwe akuzungulirani. Nthawi zina zomwe tingaganizire khalidwe lachikhalidwe ndikumangirira chabe kapena masewera abwino kwa anthu onse. Choncho, tisanayambe kulenga m'malingaliro athu zosiyana za khalidwe lathu labwino, tiyenera kuyang'anitsitsa nthawi zina, kuti tidziwe kuchuluka kwa momwe zochita zake ndi makhalidwe ake zimagwirizanirana ndi zomwe takhala nazo.Tilibe kusowa kuti tipereke khalidwe ngati tilidi iwo sali otsimikiza.Kokha pamene ife tikuwona kubwereza mobwerezabwereza kwa zochita zina ndi mawonekedwe-mawonekedwe, wina akhoza kunena, ndipo, osati, motsimikiza kuti munthu ali ndi khalidwe lomwe ife tikufuna kuti tiwone mmenemo. Popanda kutero, muyenera kuvomereza nokha kuti chenicheni ndi choyenera ndi zinthu ziwiri zomwe simukuyenera kuzikakamiza nazo.
Mverani kwa ena
Pano sitikuyankhula za mphekesera za mphekesera zonse, koma za kungomvera maganizo a ena komanso kukumbukira. Ngati anthu sanakuuzeni kuti munthu yemwe mumamuwerengera kuti ndi woyenera, ndiye kuti mumamvetsera maganizo awo ndikuyang'ana mozama. Ambiri akuyamba kufunafuna mwadala anthu oipa omwe amamva, omwe ndi kulakwitsa kwakukulu. Ndikofunika kungoyang'ana ndi kufufuza zochitika zonse popanda kulolera kuganiza. Ndiye inu mukhoza kuwona makhalidwe enieni, ndipo osati kulengedwa ndi makhalidwe anu abwino abwino.
Mulimonsemo, kuyang'ana pa anthu ena, nthawi zonse kumbukirani mtundu wa munthu yemwe muli. Ngakhale ndi gulu la makhalidwe abwino, mukudziwa za zolephera zanu. Ndipo zofooka zoterezi ndizofotokozedwa ndi munthu wamoyo. Chifukwa chake, anthu abwino salipo, pali kuphweka, omwe zolakwa zawo n'zosavuta kulekerera.