Masiku ano, zinthu zasintha. Choncho, nthawi zambiri timadzifunsa tokha, kodi mkazi angathe kukwaniritsa munthu? Ngakhale kuti ndi bwino kufunsa, kodi ndi bwino kuti tipindule?
Inde, mkazi akhoza kuchita zambiri chifukwa cha chikondi. Koma, kodi iye amafunikira chikondi choterocho?
Kawirikawiri, nchifukwa ninji amai akufuna kukwaniritsa amuna? Chifukwa cha ichi si chikondi, monga momwe wina angaganizire. Ndipotu, pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimakhudza mfundo yakuti mkazi ayamba kuchita motere.
Choyamba ndi chidwi cha masewera. Amayi ena amakonda kudziyesa okha ndikudziwonetsera okha kuti angathe kupeza aliyense. Koma izi sizikuwoneka bwino pamaso pa munthu. Chowonadi ndi chakuti asungwana ena amayamba kugwiritsa ntchito njira zonse zotheka kuti apeze malo a zofuna zawo. Mwachitsanzo, pafupifupi mkazi aliyense amadziwa kuti munthu aliyense amakhala ndi chidwi chogonana nthawi zonse. Choncho, amayi ena amangopeka anyamata ndi njira iliyonse. Maphunzirowa ndizoledzera, khalidwe loipa ndi zina zambiri. Mwachibadwa, anyamata sali zolengedwa zitsulo, choncho, nthawi zambiri amatsogoleredwa ndi zida zoterezi. Koma chowonadi ndi chakuti kupambana koteroko ndikokayikitsa. Monga mukudziwira, ndizosatheka kumanga maubwenzi pa kugonana limodzi ndikuyamba kukondana nokha, chifukwa cha izi, komanso. Choncho, pamene mkazi amakhulupirira kuti wapindula ndi mwamuna, ali otsimikiza kuti amagwiritsa ntchito ndipo sazitengera ku chinthu choyipa.
Ndiponso, mkazi akhoza kumuthandiza mnyamata kuti asabwezere. Iwo akhoza kubwezera okondedwa awo akale kapena atsikana ena. Pankhaniyi, mayiyo sangachite popanda kugonana. Mwinamwake, ayesera kukondana kwambiri ndi mnyamata yemwe ali mwa iye yekha, kudziyesa yekha, kutsimikizira chinachake kapena kuchititsa ululu. Pachifukwa ichi, kugonjetsa kwa mkazi kuli kotheka, koma nthawi zambiri kumakhala ululu ndi misonzi. Chowonadi n'chakuti m'mikhalidwe yotereyi, chokhumudwitsidwa ndi chokhumudwa chiyenera kukhala. Choyamba, uyu akhoza kukhala munthu amene akufunidwa. Msungwanayo akugwira ntchito molimbika kuti amupatse iye chikondi, kuti mnyamatayo akuyamba kumverera. Koma mkazi yekha amadziwa kuti sangakonde. Pomalizira pake, iye mwina amabwerera kumbuyo, kapena amangopatukana ndi anthu omwe sakusowa.
Kubwezera kwa atsikana ena sikuli bwino. Ngati mkazi amachita izi kwa bwenzi lake, ndiye kuti mtima wosweka umatsimikiziridwa. Ngati abwezera chikondi chake, ndiye kuti mnyamata wina akhoza kuvutika.
Koma, kawirikawiri ndizochitika pamene akazi akukwaniritsa awo omwe amamukonda. Nkhanizi zimakhala zovuta, monga momwe anthu amawaganizira kuti ndi abwenzi kapena samvetsera. Ngati muli mumkhalidwe umenewu, muyenera kukumbukira kuti simudzakakamiza chikondi, ndipo kuyesetsa konse sikungapambane. Kuonjezerapo, kotero mukhoza kutaya mnzanu wabwino kapena kuchititsidwa manyazi.
Koma ngati mutasankha kusankha njira yofanana, kumbukirani kuti, mwinamwake, mudzakhala ndikumverera kuti munthu amalola kuti azikonda. Mudzazindikira kuti ndiwe amene adayambitsa chiyanjano ndikuopa kuti adzakusiyani.
Koma, komabe, ngati mukufuna munthuyo, yesetsani kuchita moyenera. Choyamba, monga tanena kale, munthu mmodzi sangathe kusunga chimodzi. Choncho, simusowa kukhalapo. Zogonana - inde. Koma sizingatheke. Mnyamatayo ayenera kumvetsa kuti sangathe kukugwiritsani ntchito pamene akufuna. Inunso mumadzikuza ndi kudzikuza. Koma pa nthawi yomweyi muyenera kuyang'ana ndikuchita mwanjira yomwe akufunira. Choncho, musaiwale za chikazi ndi zosiyana siyana. Kuwongolera naye, chidwi ndi khalidwe lanu. Mwa njira, ndi bwino kuzindikira nthawi yomweyo kuti simungathe kuchita izi pamene mnyamata amadziwa kuti mumamukonda. Mu mkhalidwe wofanana, chirichonse chiyenera kuti chichitidwe mosiyana. Kukhala ndi chiwerewere ndi chachikazi, muyenera kumusonyeza kuti ndiwe wovuta. Muloleni iye awone kuti iye siyekha pakati pa chilengedwe chonse cha inu, ndipo mukhoza kukhala ndi chidwi ndi anyamata ena. Musamulole kuti azidzigwiritsa ntchito ndipo musathamange kuti athandizire, yekhayo amene angayitane. Lekani kukhala wokondedwa ndi wokhulupirika. Zoonadi, simungasinthe khalidwe kwambiri, mwinamwake adzakayikira kuti pali chinachake cholakwika. Ingodziletsa nokha. Musasekeze nthabwala iliyonse, musagwire mawu ake onse ndipo musayang'ane ndi maso okondwa. Kawirikawiri izi zimagwira ntchito. Mnyamata akuwonetsa chidziwitso cha umwini. Iye amadziwika kuti ndinu ake. Ndiyeno mwadzidzidzi amadziwa kuti msungwana amene anali wokonzeka kuchita chilichonse, anamusiya kuti amuone. Ndiye, mwinamwake, iye ayamba kukufikitsani inu. Nthawi zina khalidwe ili limapangitsa munthuyo kuvomereza kuti amakukondani, koma sakufuna kuzizindikira. Mulimonsemo, ngakhale mutakhala wanu, musalole kuti mukhale osangalala. Ayenera kuiwala kuti ndinu wokonzekera chirichonse, mwinamwake mwamuna sangayamikire mkazi monga momwe akufunira.
Ngati sanakuzindikire, yesetsani kukhala mtsikana amene akusowa. Kupyolera mwa anzako ndi abwenzi, komanso kumamuyang'ana, kupeza zomwe amakonda muzimayi, ndikupanga chithunzi chomwecho. Mulimonsemo musamangokhala pamutu pake, koma mukhale wofunikira kwambiri kwa iye. Koma, posankha njira yofananamo, musaiwale kuti tsopano mukuyenera kugwira ntchitoyi moyo wanu wonse. Ndipo zimakhala zovuta kukhala mumasikiti. Koma, ngati ndinu wamtengo wapatali komanso wosangalala - yesetsani.
Komabe, ziribe kanthu momwe makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe a anthu adasinthira, maanja amphamvu ndi omwe amuna amafuna akazi. Ndikomwe ngati mnyamata amakukondani momwe inu muliri ndipo samakupatsani udindo, mtsikanayo amamva bata. Choncho, musanayese, ganizirani: kodi ndizofunika kuti moyo uziyitana ndi kufunafuna chikondi cha wina, kapena ndi bwino kuyembekezera ndikumakumana ndi munthu amene akufunafuna iwe mwini, chifukwa adzakondana.