Kukhala mkazi wachimwemwe ndi wopambana ndikopambana ndi anthu oyenerera, kukondana ndi mwamuna wa maloto anu, kulamulira mkhalidwe m'banja, kukhala ndi mphamvu zodziletsa nokha ndi ena omwe akukuzungulira kuti mukwaniritse bwino ntchito yanu, pangani zatsopano zachitukuko ntchito yake ndi bizinesi. Nanga mungatani kuti mukwaniritse bwino moyo wa mkazi wokongola? Musaiwale za nzeru zomwe mkazi aliyense ali nazo. Ndipo chifukwa cha nzeru iyi, iye amadzivomereza yekha momwe iye aliri. Mosakayikira pali kudzidalira, ndipo palibe mantha kuti avomereze. Iye akuwoneratu kusagwirizana komwe kulipo, ndipo ngati atsekedwa, nthawizonse amakhala ndi njira yothetsera vutoli osati imodzi. Amadziŵa kuti moyo wake udzafika kwa iye mosakayika. Choyamba, tcherani khutu pa zomwe munthu amachita, tawonani zomwe anthu akuzungulirani, ganizirani mmene mungathandizire pazochitika zina, ndipo motero anthu awa sangakuiwaleni. Musaiwale kudziyang'anira nokha, izi ndi zofunika kwambiri nthawi yoyamba. Pali malamulo angapo, omvera, omwe mungathe kuyankhulana ndi ena popanda mavuto, ndipo izi zidzakuthandizani kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu:
Phunzirani kuona interlocutor (yang'anani)
Phunzirani momwe mungamvere interlocutor wanu
Dziwani momwe mungayankhire mafunso
Khalani ndi chidaliro mu luso lanu
Ayenera kukhala ndi chisangalalo
Khalani owona mtima
Chikondi ndi kulemekeza anthu
Khalani ansangala
Tinayamba ndi izi osati zosavuta, koma ndi zophweka, koma zogwira mtima mwalandiridwe. Poyang'ana m'maso mwa munthu amene akutsutsana naye, iwe pamasitepe amasonyeza kuti uli woona mtima ndi iye. Koma kumbukirani, kuti mutsimikizire munthu wothandizana naye, muyenera kukhala ndi mawonekedwe otseguka komanso owoneka bwino. Ngati mumadziwa kumvetsera munthu, mumakonzekera mwamsanga. Mukasonyeza chidwi chenicheni pa nkhani ya interlocutor, amaona ulemu wanu. Simunaiwale kuti muyenera kudziyang'anira nokha? Kusonyeza chidwi, muli pakati pa chidwi chenicheni. Poyambirira tinalankhula za kukhazikitsa ubale ndi anthu, ndi nthawi yolankhula za inu. Kudzidalira kwanu ndiyambiranso. Chidaliro chidzakopera ena, ndipo chidzabwezeretsa kutseka. Musaiwale za izo. Wokondedwa wanu ndi mthandizi wanu adzakhala chisangalalo chomwe muli nacho. Palibe amene akunena kuti muyenera kusangalatsa anthu onse ndipo nthawi zonse mumaseka. Chisangalalo chidzawonetseredwa mu kuthekera kuseka ndi ena, poyesera kumwetulira ndi kupeza njira zothetsera mavuto ovuta ndikutha kuseka poyamba pakulephera kwawo. Kukhulupirika kwanu ndiko maziko a maubwenzi onse odalirika. Sikuti timayesetsa kunena zoona nthawi zonse, komanso kusunga mawu a munthu, kukhala osunga nthawi. Mlingo wa kuwona mtima kwanu umakhudza kudzidalira kwanu, kudzidalira nokha ndikukulemekezani kuchokera kwa ena. Kukhala okhulupilika nthawi zonse ndi kovuta kwambiri, koma kodi ndi bwino kuyang'ana njira zosavuta, ngati cholinga chake ndi kupambana. Khalani nokha ndipo musachite zomwe mungadandaule mtsogolo.
Ngati mumasonyeza chikondi ndi ulemu kwa anthu, mudzaphunzira kuchokera kwa iwo zabwino zomwe iwowo amadziŵa momwe angadziwire. Chidwi chanu ndicho chitsimikizo chofunika kwambiri. Yang'anirani, gwiritsani ntchito mipata iliyonse yolankhulana ndi onse omwe ali ndi mwayi. Pa njira yopambana, mavuto ambiri ayenera kugonjetsedwa. Chifundo chanu chidzakhala chithandizo chabwino pakupanga anzako atsopano ndi kukopa anthu nokha. Zonsezi zimapangitsa kupita patsogolo. Momwe mumafunira kuchokera kwa anthu, zochuluka kwambiri. Kodi ndi nthawi yoti mupambane? Choncho kupita !!!