Chifukwa cha zomwe mumadzifunsa nokha?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakonda kunena kuti kudzichepetsa kwanu tsopano ndi zotsatira za maphunziro olakwika a mwana ali mwana. Pambuyo pake, mavuto ambiri pakali pano ali ofanana kwambiri ndi zochitika zakale. Mwinamwake, kudzidalira mopambanitsa kumagwirizana ndi mfundo yakuti kuchokera ku misomali ya makolo ake adayamikira mwana wamng'ono, poyipa, iwo ankatchulidwa ndipo nthawi zambiri amatsutsidwa. Kawirikawiri, bambo kapena amayi amatha kufotokozera mwana wawo zomwe sizinachitike kapena kupsa mtima. Zotsatira zake, mwanayo amayamba mantha, kusaka ndikukula ndi kudzidalira. Kuti musabwereze makolo olakwika, muyenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti munthu aliyense amafuna kudzilemekeza, ngakhale mwana wanu wamwamuna kapena wamkazi. Tamandani mwanayo, mukulitse mu chikhalidwe cha chikondi, chikondi ndi chikondi ngakhale mutakhala ndi mavuto ena. Ndikhulupirire, m'tsogolomu mwanayo adzakuthokozani.
Chifukwa china chodzidalira sichiyenera kukhala makolo, koma chikoka cha anthu.Kachiwiri, chifukwa chodzionera nokha chikhoza kuoneka m'buku, koma osati mozama, koma nthawi yachinyamata. Achinyamata nthawi zambiri amayesa kufotokoza mwa njira zosiyanasiyana, kuti awoneke "I" awo. Koma, monga lamulo, kuseri kwa chiwonetsero chowonekera chotero cha umunthu wake apo sikunapangidwe kwathunthu psihika, yomwe imakondweretsa kwambiri maganizo a ena. Mosavuta msungwana kapena mnyamata yemwe "amasiyana" ndi anzawo, akhoza kumatsutsidwa ndi kunyozedwa anzake. Zisokonezo zamanyazi za anzanu akusukulu, zonyodola. ... Mwana wosasunthika wa psyche akhoza "kuswa" kuukiridwa mwankhanza kwa anzako ndipo chifukwa chake, wachinyamata adzakhala ndi zovuta zambiri ndi zosatetezeka.
Komanso, monga nistranno, koma chifukwa cha maganizo abwino kwambiri ponena za inu nokha mukhoza kukhala osaganizira kwambiri, ndikulakalaka kuti simukufanana ndi chirichonse chomwe muli nacho cholakwika ndi aliyense. Mwachitsanzo, monga momwe tikudziwira, hafu yabwino yaumunthu imasokoneza kwambiri maonekedwe ndi chifaniziro. Mayi akhoza kukhutira kuti miyendo yake yonyansa ndi yosagwirizana. Adzakhala akudziyanjanitsa ndi ena omwe akuimira za kugonana kwake, ndi zitsanzo pa chivundikiro cha magaziniyi, ndi mafilimu opanga pa TV. Monga lamulo, ndi kosavuta kwa munthu kuona ubwino mwa wina, koma mwa iyemwini, pali zolephera zokha. Sizingatheke kukhudza maonekedwe kapena chifaniziro, wina akhoza kudziona kuti alibe nzeru, osasangalala, osati munthu wokondweretsa. Mutu, nthawi zonse padzakhala malingaliro kuti wina amakhala wosangalatsa, wokondana kwambiri, komanso wanzeru.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani kuti ndisiye kudzichepetsa?
Choyamba, muyenera kudzikonda nokha, inde. Mwachidziwikire, mwamvapo nthawi zambiri kale kapena kuchotsedweratu kamodzi m'buku lina lotchuka ndi katswiri wamaganizo wodziwika bwino. N'zosavuta kunena kuti: "Dzikondeni nokha", mutha kunena kuti, mutagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro anu kuti muli ndi chifuwa chaching'ono, kumvetsera makutu kapena kusangalala. Koma, zoona ndizofunika kukonda nokha, momwe mulili. Inde, pachiyambi kudzakhala kovuta kwambiri. Koma monga akunena, popanda zovuta simungatulutse nsomba ndi dziwe. Zimatengera nthawi pa ntchito yodzidzimutsa nokha, chikhulupiriro mwa iwe mwini ndipo kenako chidzakhala chimodzimodzi! Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti pa nthawi ino, osati kokha, mumakondedwa ndi kukondedwa ndi anthu. Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti monga palibe maluwa awiri ofanana, palibe anthu omwe ali ofunika kwambiri. Ndikofunika kuyesa kukonda zolakwa zanu osati kuziyesa zokhazokha, koma zimawapanga kukhala mbali yapadera, yosiyana.
Yesani tsiku lililonse kuti muthokoze nokha, kuti mutamande. Inde, nthawi yomweyo sizingatheke, chifukwa mwakhala ndi moyo kwa zaka zambiri, mukudzizunza nokha. Ndipo mumangobwereza zokondweretsa tsiku lirilonse, yesetsani kumvetsera zokhudzana ndi inu kuchokera kwa anthu ena. Ndipo tsiku lina, tsiku lina, pamene thupi lanu liyamba kuzindikira kuti matamando anu ndi ochepa, ndipo kenako inu nokha mudzayamba kukhulupirira kuti muli osiyana ndi osapindulitsa. Ndizodziwika bwino kuti ngati munthu auzidwa kangapo kuti ndi nkhumba, ndiye kuti ali pa chikole. Ndipo bwanji ife sitingayambe kuyesera kuti tizithokoza kwa ifeeni, kuti tidzitamande tokha?
Musayime kudzikuza nokha! Ayi. Ngakhale ngati mwalakwitsa - ndi zabwino, ingodziwuzani nokha kuti nthawi yotsatira mutakhala ndi zonsezi zidzachitikadi!
Onetsetsani momwe mukuwonekera: zedi muli ndi mapewa osweka ndi mutu wotsitsa. Izi ziyenera kunenedwa kuti izi ndi khalidwe la anthu onse omwe ali ndi kudzichepetsa. Konzani mapewa anu, kwezani mutu wanu ndikumwetulira - kupita ku tsogolo latsopano, lonyezimira.
Mwamwayi, m'mudzi mwanu mukhoza kukhala "wochenjera kwambiri" amene angakutsutseni nthawi zonse, akuseketsani nanu kapena, monga momwe tinganene lero, "kuthamanga". Inde, ndi bwino kumvetsera mwatsutsano kwa nadovoy, ku nthabwala zokwanira ndi kukomera mwachifundo. Koma ngati munthu akuwoloka mzere, simusowa kupirira. Ndiuzeni mosapita m'mbali kuti simukuzikonda komanso pomaliza, lekani kuyankhula ndi munthu. M'malo mwake, iye mwini ali ndi zovuta zambiri.
Onetsetsani bwino zomwe simukuzikonda nokha. Inu, ndithudi, mukhoza kuyankha izo pa chirichonse. Koma muyenera kuyang'ana zinthu. Ngati mutachita, palibe chomwe chimakulepheretsani kutaya mapaundi oposa. Pitani kwa dokotala, dziwani chomwe chimayambitsa kulemera kwanu. Muzidziyesa nokha. Palibe amene angadye njala kapena zakudya zanjala. Mukhoza kudya chilichonse, mwachangu. Kuphatikiza pa zakudya zoyenera, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumangowonjezera zotsatira zanu. Ndipo ndithudi, musaiwale kudzitamandira chifukwa cha ntchito yomwe yachitika. Komanso kumbukirani kuti mumadzikonda nokha momwe mumakhalira. Patatha miyezi ingapo mudzawona zotsatira.
Ngati muli ndi zodandaula za maonekedwe anu, izi sizikutanthauza kuti simungachite popanda thandizo la opaleshoni ya pulasitiki. Iwe ndiwe wokongola kale, koma iwe sukudziwa za izo panobe. Ndipo musamakhulupirire nokha. Musaiwale kuti muzidziyang'anira nokha, chifukwa ngakhale kunyamula tsitsi lodzikongoletsa bwino ndi khungu lokongola la nkhope kumalimbikitsa kudzidalira kwina, ndipo pa nkhani zowonjezera kudzidalira, palibe njira zothandiza.
Ndipo, nthawi zonse mukhale ndi maganizo abwino, dzifunseni nokha nthawi yocheza, kuwerenga mabuku, kuyenda mobwerezabwereza mumlengalenga, kulankhulana ndi anthu osangalatsa, kudya bwino, kuganiza bwino ndikudzipangira nokha zinthu zabwino ndi zodabwitsa! Phunzirani kusangalala ndi moyo, phunzirani kudzikonda nokha! Kwa inu nonse mudzafunikira ndithu!