Malingaliro athu, chikondi ndi chinthu chodabwitsa, kugogoda pansi. Izi ndi zomwe zimapangitsa ndakatulo, ndakatulo, komanso akatswiri ojambula zithunzi. Mabuku abwino kwambiri padziko lonse ndi okhudza chikondi, olemba, ndithudi, amamupatsa msonkho. Ambiri a ife ndi chikondi-chikondi, chilakolako, chodabwitsa, chokwanira. Ena amaganiza kuti chikondi chidzabweretsa mtendere, mtendere. Zikuyimira, poyamba, chikondi chokhalitsa ndi chosasokonekera cha banja lokalamba, omwe adagwirizana pakati pa moyo wake wonse, adalimbikitsa chitonthozo ndikusangalala. Wina wa ife ndi wosiyana, wosiyana, ndipo pangakhale chikondi.
Tonse timayembekezera kuchokera pa chikondi cha nthawi zosiyana komanso nthawi yomweyo. Zosiyana ndi chikondi ndi. Kufanana ndi momwe munthu aliyense akudikira zomwe sakusowa.
Chilakolako
Kwa wina, chikondi ndi chilakolako, ulendo, zozizwitsa. Chikondi choterocho chimafunidwa ndi anthu omwe, mwinamwake, atopa ndi umoyo wa moyo, moyo wawo wamba. Anthu oterewa amafuna zofuna zawo, ndipo amapanga lingaliro la chikondi pamaziko a mafilimu, mabuku, nkhani. Amafunikira umunthu wamtengo wapatali umene udzayamikira umunthu wawo. Mwinamwake, anthu oterewa amafunikira maganizo okhwima kwambiri kapena posachedwapa akhala akulimbana, vuto. Mtundu uwu wa anthu si wokonzeka kwenikweni chikondi. Chobisika pambuyo pa chilakolako ndi chikondi ndi masewero, omwe pamapeto pake amatha, pokhapokha atachotsedwa ndi maganizo ena. Kwa anthu oterowo, chikondi chimagwirizana ndi mikangano, yomwe "imathira mafuta pamoto." Mikangano ina yapakati imakankhira anthu kufunafuna zolepheretsa, zoletsedwa za chikondi. "Chikondi" choterochi chimakhala ndi moyo chifukwa cha zolakwika, zovuta, nkhawa, masewero. Chifukwa cha chikhumbo chotero ndi kusakhutira mkati, kusayenerera, funso losathetsedwa kapena kusafuna kuyanjana. Kulakalaka chikondi chotere, munthu akhoza kufuna adrenaline kapena ngakhale kuthetsa mavuto awo.
Kuopa kukhala ndekha
Kaŵirikaŵiri, pamene tifuna chikondi, timafunikira munthu wamphamvu yemwe atipatse ife ndikutipulumutsa ku kusungulumwa. Tonsefe timamva kuti ndife osungulumwa, osamvetsetsedwa. Kuopa kukhala ndekha kumatitsogolera kuzinthu zambiri. Kwa anthu ena - ichi ndi chifukwa chachikulu chofunira chikondi. Munthu wofooka, yemwe amavutika ndi dziko lozungulira, akufuna thandizo, chithandizo. Chikondi ndi kumvetsetsana, kuthandizana wina ndi mzake mumkhalidwe wovuta, kuphatikiza. Munthu wosakwatiwa amafuna kuti azikonda monga chithandizo pa mavuto ake onse, omwe adzakwaniritse chosowa chamkati ndikuthandiza munthuyo ndi mantha ake.
Pali gulu la anthu omwe sangathe kukhala okha. Kwa iwo, moyo wonse - kupeza wokondedwa yemwe adzakhala pafupi nawo, adzabisa zolephera ndi zolephera za khalidwe lawo. Anthu oterewa amafanana ndi "theka lacheka", lomwe silingagwire ntchito moyimira. Chikondi chimathandiza kudzidalira, kumathandiza kuthetsa mavuto ambiri, kumathandiza anthu m'nthaŵi zovuta, kumathandiza kumvetsa zinthu zambiri. Koma izi sizowonjezera mavuto omwe sitingakwanitse kuthetsa tokha.
Anthu ena amafuna chikondi monga njira yothetsera kusamvana, mavuto, monga yankho la mafunso osadziwika, oiwala kuti chikondi ndi udindo wa munthu wina ndi zochita zawo. Chikondi ndi chithandizo komanso kumvetsetsa, ndipo si njira yothetsera mavuto a mnzanu wina.
Kukhala ngati nyonga yathu
Timawerenga za chikondi m'mabuku, penyani mafilimu ambiri. Pafupifupi pali mutu wa chikondi, momwe ife tiri ndi hero kapena wokonda. Chikhumbo chokhala ngati choyenera chanu, kukonda mokongola monga m'buku, chimapangitsa chikhumbo chathu cha chikondi. Timafuna kuchita nawo chinthu chabwino komanso "chokwera", tikufuna kuzindikira zokhumba zathu. Zomwe nasokruzhaet zimatikhudza, zimatikhudza kwambiri kapena zochepa, mawonekedwe ndi makina. Olemba mafilimu kapena mabuku omwe timakhala nawo nthawi zambiri ndizofunikira pa moyo wathu. Tikufuna kuyika malingaliro awa, kuti tifike kwa ife eni. Maganizo awa amatithandiza kukhala odzidalira ndi kudzidalira. Chikhumbochi chingakhale chizindikiro chakuti tikufunikira kudzizindikira, tikufuna kudzipeza tokha ndi kusonyeza luso.
Mwa malingaliro ife timadziganizira tokha kuti ndife khalidwe lalikulu ndipo panthawi imodzimodzi tikukhumba chikondi. Ngakhale zili choncho, sizili zokonzeka, chifukwa chidwi chonse chimaperekedwa kwa fano, osati njira. Lyubovtsie amagwira ntchito monga maziko, chifukwa, wothandizira, osatchula mnzanuyo, zomwe zimangowonjezera palemba. Pachifukwa ichi, munthuyo amakopeka ndi chifaniziro cha "wokondedwa wachikondi" kapena mosiyana, chikhumbo chokondedwa, kukhazikitsidwa. Ikhoza kusonyeza za kudzidandaula.
Chikondi, chomwe chiri
Pa zifukwa zonse zomwe tatchulazi, ndiyenera kutchula chinthu chachikulu - kufunafuna chikondi. Pali phunziro lochititsa chidwi la anthu, lomwe limasonyeza nthawi zonse zosowa m'zaka zosiyanasiyana. Kufufuza uku kudzachititsa kuti moyo waumunthu ukhale wovuta kwambiri pamene zovuta zofunika kwambiri panthawiyi zimakhala zosiyana, monga kusungulumwa - kudziwika ndi gulu, kumvera - kudzikonda, kukhala wosungulumwa kapena kupeza wokondedwa.Zambiri kafufuzidwe ndi kuyesa kumamudziwitsa munthu wofunika kwambiri kuti akonde, osasungulumwa, kuti apeze kuthandizana ndi abwenzi kapena "hafu" yake. Ofilosofi ena amati aliyense wa ife ndi gawo, ndipo kuti tikhale "amphumphu" tikusowa theka lachiwiri. Kodi ndi choncho? Aliyense amene amakonda akhoza kuyankha funsoli moyenera.
Chikondi chimatithandiza kusinkhasinkha moyo wathu, kusintha, kusiya makhalidwe oipa chifukwa cha wokondedwa, kudzichepetsa ndi kukhululukira machimo, nthawi zina ngakhale kusokoneza mfundo zathu komanso kudzikuza kwambiri. Chikondi chimaphunzitsa kusamalira mnzako, kumatiphunzitsa chifundo komanso kumvetsa zomveka bwino. Chikondi chingakuthandizeni kudzipeza nokha ndikudzizindikira nokha, kumathandiza ndi zomwe tonse timafuna ndi chimwemwe.