Achinyamata ambiri achikulire monga nymphets-zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu. Aliyense amalimbikitsana mwa njira yake, koma amavomereza chimodzimodzi: Atsikana aang'ono ndi okongola, abwino komanso osadziwa.
Chiyanjano pakati pa mtsikana ndi mnyamata wamkulu chimakhala chovuta kwambiri kuposa kuchita ndi ana a zaka chimodzi. Kodi mungaganize kuchokera ku chiyanjano choterocho? N'zoona kuti chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zimakonda kwambiri ndi zosangalatsa. Inde, sizowopsya kumvetsetsa izi, koma kwa anyamata, asungwana awa ali chabe zidole. Nkhumba zosavuta. Iwo sakudziwa zonse za moyo, iwo amawona chirichonse kupyolera mu magalasi odzala ndi kukhulupirira pafupifupi mawu onse. Ndi kosavuta kuti mtsikana woteroyo "azitha" ndi kukwaniritsa kwa iye zonse zomwe akufuna mu masiku angapo chabe. Ndipo nthawi zina amangofuna kusangalala, makamaka osasokonezeka. Potero amasankha atsikana osadzikonda ndipo amayamba kukhumba zilakolako zawo.
Inde, zimakhalanso kuti mnyamatayo amakondana kwambiri. Iye amaganiza kuti zonse ndizoopsa. Koma, mwatsoka, izi sizitenga nthawi yaitali. Komabe, kusiyana kwa msinkhu kumawathandiza kwambiri. Choyamba, poyamba ndi zabwino, kumvetsera kulankhula zopanda pake ndi mikwatulo. Koma, patapita nthawi, imayamba kukhumudwitsa. Kusiyanitsa kwa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri mpaka zisanu ndi zitatu pa msinkhu uwu ndi kovuta kwambiri. Ngakhale mtsikanayo ali wanzeru kupitirira zaka zake ndikuwerenga bwino, akadali mwana. Mtsikana woteroyo akhoza kutulutsa mawu, atchulepo Schopenhauer ndi Sappho, koma nthawi yomweyo amakhulupirira zinthu zomwe anthu akuluakulu amachititsa kuseka. Kuonjezera apo, ali ndi zaka zoposa makumi awiri, amuna amayamba kuganizira za ubale weniweni, ndipo atsikanawa sakhala oyenera kwa iwo chifukwa cha msinkhu wawo. Iwo akungoyamba kukhala moyo, kotero iwo akufuna kuti awone chirichonse, kuphunzira chirichonse, kupita kulikonse. Ndipo mwamunayo akusowa kale mtundu wa bata. Pamene ayamba kufotokozera izi ku chilakolako, nthawi zambiri, mtsikanayo amadziwa chilichonse ndi chidani, kumuneneza wokondedwa wake kukhala mwini wake komanso osamulola kukhala ndi moyo.
Kuwonjezera apo, mibadwo yosiyanasiyana ili ndi zosiyana zosiyana. Masiku ano, ngakhale kusiyana kwa zaka zinayi kumamveka. Dziko likusintha ndipo likufulumira kwambiri. Mbadwo uliwonse umakhala, ngati nthawi yake ndipo samvetsa nthawi zonse anthu ochokera nthawi zina mafelemu. Ngakhale pamene mnyamata ndi mtsikanayo akuyesera kuti adziyanjanitsane, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zachiwawa pa munthuyo. Pamapeto pake, zonsezi zimathera pamatenda ndikutha. Pambuyo pake, onse awiri amavutika.
Amuna achikulire okalamba amakonda kupanga mkazi wake wanzeru ndi kumvetsa mokwanira. Ndipo, palibe chokhumudwitsa kwa atsikana aang'ono omwe akungoyamba kumene kukhala moyo, nzeru zawo zikungoyambira kumene. Zonsezi zimayambitsa mikangano nthawi zonse, zowopsya komanso kusamvetsetsana.
Ndicho chifukwa chake, anyamata, nthawi zambiri amasankha kugawana njira. Inde, chisankho ichi sichigawanika ndi magawo awo achiwiri. Mafunso akuuka: ndi chiyani chomwe chiri cholakwika ndi ine, kodi ndine woipa bwanji, bwanji osandikonda ine? Kulongosola kwanzeru kwa mkhalidwewo sikungodziwike ndi kuvomerezedwa. Vomerezani, chifukwa aliyense ali ndi zaka 15 kapena khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi akuwoneka kuti anali wamkulu, wanzeru komanso wokonzeka kukhala wamkulu. Pambuyo pa zaka zatha, timadziwa momwe zingakhalire zochepa komanso zopanda pake panthawiyo.
Inde, aliyense ali ndi ufulu wosankha ndi yemwe ayenera kukhala ndi yemwe ayenera kumukonda. Koma atsikana akadakali aang'ono ndi bwino kumanga ubale ndi anzanu kapena anyamata, akuluakulu kwa zaka zingapo. Pankhaniyi, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zofuna komanso zofunika pamoyo.
Mwachibadwa, tinganene kuti simungathe kulamulira mtima wanu. Koma pakadali pano ndibwino kuganiza kuti ndinu okonzeka kuchita zotani, pozindikira kuti nthawi zambiri maubwenzi amenewa adzatha panthawi yopuma. Kodi ndizofunikira kuti muvutike ndi kupatukana, ngati kumverera kungathe kuzimitsidwa, kufikira atapsa kwambiri.
Inde, ndi zosiyana kwambiri ngati msungwanayo ali ndi zaka zoposa makumi awiri, ndipo mnyamatayo ali pafupi makumi atatu. Pa msinkhu uno, kusiyana kuli kochepa. Chinthuchi ndi chakuti amayi ayambe kuganizira za maubwenzi ndi maubwenzi oyipa kale, ndipo anyamata akufika pamapeto amenewa pafupi ndi makumi atatu. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ubale wawo ndi wolimba, chifukwa cha kumvetsetsa komanso zolinga zofanana. Pa msinkhu uwu, mkazi amatha kumvetsa ndi kumuthandiza mwamuna, ndipo iyeyo, adzatha kuteteza ndi kupereka. Kuonjezera apo, pamene anthu adutsa pa siteji ya maximalism yachinyamata, amachotsa zofuna zambiri za achinyamata, zolakwika zomwe zingayambitse zokangana. Ndipo ndi momwe zimakhalira ali wamng'ono. Banja likhoza kukangana pa nyimbo, kanema kapena chiyanjano ndi chikhalidwe. Ndipo, mkangano udzakhala wovuta kwambiri ndipo palibe amene angafune. Okalamba ambiri amadziwa kuti kukoma ndi mtundu wa zizindikiro ndizosiyana, ndiye chifukwa chake aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi maganizo ake. Chitsanzo ichi ndi gawo laling'ono chabe la zomwe zingayambitse mavuto pakati pa mamuna amene ali kale zaka zoposa makumi awiri, ndipo mtsikanayo sanaphunzire sukulu.
Inde, mu malamulo onse pali zosiyana. Ndichifukwa chake nthawi zina mabanja okondwa amapezeka. Ngati tikulankhula za psychology za maubwenzi otero, ndiye, nthawi zambiri mnyamata amangofuna kukhala mphunzitsi, mtundu wa bambo ake okondedwa. Pali gulu lotere la amuna omwe amakonda kusankha okha ndipo amakhudzidwa ndi zovuta za ana komanso okondedwa awo. Koma amuna oterewa ndi ochepa. Kwenikweni, posachedwa, mwamuna aliyense amafuna kuti wokondedwa wake amusamalire, kumuthandiza ndi kumuthandiza pa zovuta. Mwamwayi, msungwana wazaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri samawoneka kuti akhoza kumupatsa. Ndicho chifukwa chake mitima ya atsikana imasweka, ngakhale popanda kuzindikira vuto lenileni. Ndipo pambuyo pa ubale wotero pa moyo, nthawi zambiri, pali zipsera.
Ubwenzi wabwino ndi mgwirizano wa malingaliro, zokonda, zofuna, zofunikira ndi zolinga. Ubwenzi pakati pa mtsikana ndi mnyamata wamkulu, mwatsoka, sungadzitamande chifukwa cha kupezeka kwa zigawozi zonsezi. Ndicho chifukwa chake atsikana onse ayenera kuganiza mozama asanayambe kugonana ndi mnyamata wachikulire.